How Should You Deal with Your Grief?

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Quiz Questions

1.
How long ago did the person die?
- A.
  Within the last few weeks
- B.
  Within the last year
- C.
  A few years ago
- D.
  It's been a while
2.
How close were you to the person who passed away?
- A.
  Extremely close, they were my best friend/partner
- B.
  Very close, they were family or a good friend
- C.
  I loved and cared for them
- D.
  Not very close
3.
What is the hardest part about losing them?
- A.
  Never being able to talk to them again
- B.
  Having to change my entire life
- C.
  Trying to figure out the reason why/understanding
- D.
  The emotion, pain and confusion that comes along with it
4.
What emotion does their death make you feel the most?
- A.
  Angry
- B.
  Sad
- C.
  Confused
- D.
  Numb
5.
Do you feel like talking with others helps?
- A.
  Yeah, I'm lucky to have good people to talk to
- B.
  Sometimes, but I don't really feel like anyone understands
- C.
  A little but I don't really have anyone to talk to about it
- D.
  Not really, there's nothing anyone can say that will change things
6.
If you are out shopping and see a happy family having a great time, how does this make you feel?
- A.
  I hate them a little bit
- B.
  I feel sad because of what I've lost
- C.
  Like staying home more often
- D.
  It doesn't bother me
7.
How much has your life changed since they passed away?
- A.
  It's completely different now, everything has changed
- B.
  It's going to be different but I still have key people in my life to support me
- C.
  It's changed quite a bit and changed me too
- D.
  My life isn't directly affected but others are
8.
How do you normally deal with problems when you've had a bad day?
- A.
  Reach out to a friend or family member
- B.
  Spend some time alone relaxing
- C.
  Do something to take my mind off things
- D.
  Drink, smoke, eat, sleep or something similar
9.
How often do you find yourself crying or getting emotional about the person who passed away?
- A.
  Everyday
- B.
  A few times a week
- C.
  Once in a while
- D.
  I feel bad but I don't cry or anything
10.
How has losing this person interfered with your day to day life?
- A.
  I quit going to work/school. It's just too much right now
- B.
  I took some time off to figure things out
- C.
  Some things have changed but I'm dealing with it
- D.
  It hasn't really, life goes on

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Seek out a Professional
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Everyone dealing with a significant loss should see a professional at least once. Counselors can help you put the pieces back together. Doctors can give you medicine to deal with day to day life. Churches can help you see that there is more to life thank just what you see now. Whatever help you choose to get, it will be a good way to get your life back on track or just improve it a bit. It sucks when people die. It can be so life changing and hard to deal with. Even years later things might not really be okay. Everyone takes different amounts of time to grieve and it's more of finding a way to live with it. Professionals are trained to help you deal with the big issues in life. Maybe hearing that God has a plan for you will help. Maybe knowing that you can still achieve your goals is what you need to hear. Or maybe you just needs some medicine to get through the day so you can be a good parent to your kids and keep going to work. Give a professional a try and see what they have to say.
2.
Spend Some Time Alone
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It sounds like you need to spend some time alone and figuring out how this has changed your life. Things are different now and you have to adjust to that. Spending time alone just thinking or talking to God seems to be what you need right now. Take a trip by yourself to get away from it all if you can. Take a day off work while the kids are in school so you can have some time to yourself. Even if you only have an hour to spend alone before bed, give yourself the time you need and deserve. Things are different now and you need to figure out how to adjust. And you might just need some time to be sad, that is more than okay.
3.
Talk to Friends and Loved Ones
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One of the best ways to feel a little better is to realize that there are still people out there who love and care for you. It can also sometimes help if those people loved and cared for the person you lost. If both of you are grieving, even if in different ways, you can be there to support each other. Share memories of your loved one or just talk about how the future is not going to be the same. Cry together, laugh together or just sit there and be together. Just knowing someone is there for you can make a big difference.
4.
Be Creative
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It sounds like you have a lot of built up emotions that need to be released. You might be feeling numb, overwhelmed or a mixture of different emotions. It's also possible that you've kinda suppressed many of your emotions. Maybe you had to stay strong for others or maybe you had to jump right back into work and didn't really get a chance to grieve. Find a creative hobby that you enjoy and let loose! Maybe try painting, writing, knitting, landscaping or building something. Take the pain you are feeling and use it to create something beautiful.