Is my partner a Sexually Healthy Man?

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Quiz Questions

1.
Would you consider your partner emotionally distant or emotionally close?
- A.
  Emotionally distant
- B.
  Emotionally close
- C.
  My partner goes back and forth. Sometimes he is emotionally present, and other times he is emotionally distant.
2.
Does your partner keep secrets from you? Does he hide parts of his life from you and/or trusted friends?
- A.
  Not that I am aware of, but he is kind of sneaky.
- B.
  He lies all time .
- C.
  No, he is authentic with me and the people in his life.
- D.
  Yes, he lives fairly hidden, but is working hard on becoming more authentic.
3.
Would you consider your partner to be isolated or connected to authentic community?
- A.
  He is isolated. People don't truly know him.
- B.
  He has a solid, authentic community that knows him well.
- C.
  Neither. He is not completely isolated, but also he struggles with relationships and deep connection.
4.
Is your partner more fantasy-driven or reality based in his sexuality?
- A.
  A little bit of both, depending on what he is facing.
- B.
  Fantasy. He is more comfortable when escaping reality.
- C.
  Reality based. He faces his hurt and grief and does not try to escape uncomfortable feelings.
5.
Would you consider your partner to be more humble or more arrogant?
- A.
  My partner is arrogant.
- B.
  My partner is a humble man.
- C.
  Both traits are regularly present in my partner.
6.
Would you consider your partner to be a mature man or an immature man?
- A.
  Immature
- B.
  Mature
- C.
  Both, he goes back and forth between acting very young and acting his current age.
7.
Does your partner honor women or objectify them?
- A.
  Honor. I do not feel objectified by him.
- B.
  Objectify, but he is working hard to change how he engages beauty.
- C.
  Objectify. I don't like it, but I cannot control him.
8.
Would you consider your partner to be selfish or mutual in his sexuality?
- A.
  Selfish. It seems like he is always thinking of himself.
- B.
  Mutual. He is very attuned to my pleasure during sex.
- C.
  Both. I see him wrestling with his selfishness, but he works hard to serve me in sex as well.
9.
Would you consider your partner to be a kind, passive, or aggressive type of man?
- A.
  Passive. He is a nice man.
- B.
  Aggressive.
- C.
  He is a kind man.
10.
Do you think your partner is an insecure man or a secure man of strength?
- A.
  Both. He goes back and forth.
- B.
  Secure man. I feel safe.
- C.
  Insecure man. I have to be very careful in how I approach him.
11.
Is your partner more patient or demanding with your sexually?
- A.
  He is growing. At times he demonstrates both, but I know he is improving.
- B.
  His patience and kindness are evident as we figure out our sexuality together.
- C.
  Demanding. It's his way, and he doesn't seem too concerned with my experience.
12.
Is your partner more ashamed or unashamed of his sexuality?
- A.
  He lives with some shame, but is working toward owning his goodness.
- B.
  Unashamed. He loves his body and his sexuality.
- C.
  Ashamed. He hates his body and his sexuality.
- D.
  Unashamed, he is oblivious to shame.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Your Partner's Sexual Health is Strong
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Clearly, your partner has done a lot of work to become a sexually safe man. Below are some helpful strategies you can explore together on your path of growth, which you can share with him if appropriate: Try these 3 strategies:1. Continue to step into difficult and vulnerable conversations with your partner. Even the healthiest relationships become stagnant at times. Continue to push yourself to be courageous in your pursuit of genuine connection and intimacy. 2. What are you reading & writing? There are great resources to help you continue with your growth. Check out my books, The Sexually Healthy Man, The Psychology of Porn, and Stumbling Toward Wholeness. Journaling and writing exercises are important to help you keep tabs on your inner world. 3. Help other men. You have done great healing work, and it's time for you to pass it on to others. Do not let your shame or your past failures stop you from helping other men who are behind you in this healing journey. Check out these resources to continue to develop your sexual health:1. Explore my books and online courses. You will learn a lot along the way! 2. Check out my blog. There are over 100 free articles on my website, www.andrewjbauman.com3. Follow me on Facebook for inspiration! I’ve got you covered! Facebook Author Page4. Sign up for a transformational therapy consult or intensive below! Plus, expect to see me in your inbox with transformational tips ✨
2.
Your Partner's Sexual Health is Growing!
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Your partner has done some good work toward becoming a sexually safe man, and as he is probably well aware, he has further to go. He is wrestling with letting go of some of his old unhealthy patterns of relating to sexuality and beauty. Here are some helpful strategies you can suggest him to continue his sexual growth, if he is open to and welcomes feedback. Try these 3 strategies:1. Continue to step into honesty and vulnerability with your partner and those you are in community with. Continue to build the muscle of authenticity and vulnerability. These practices are vital to your sexual wholeness and healing. You cannot take this journey alone. 2. Are you in therapy and group? Find a licensed therapist who is seasoned in the work of sexual health. You could consider one of my individual or group intensives. 3. What are you reading & writing? There are great resources to help continue with your growth. Check out my books, The Sexually Healthy Man and The Psychology of Porn, and Unwanted by Jay Stringer. I also provide writing exercises in my book, The Sexually Healthy Man, to help you navigate your story and understand why your sexuality has developed the way it has.Check out these resources to continue to develop your sexual health: 1. Explore my books and online courses. You will learn a lot along the way! 2. Check out my blog. There are over 100 free articles on my website, www.andrewjbauman.com3. Follow me on Facebook for inspiration! I’ve got you covered! Facebook Author Page4. Sign up for a transformational therapy consult or intensive below! Plus, expect to see me in your inbox with transformational tips ✨
3.
Your Partner's Sexual Health is... Poor!
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I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but your partner's sexual health is in the dumps. He will not listen if you give feedback. You are most likely incredibly lonely and miserable. You are being used sexually, and probably have internalized misogyny and Patriarchy Stress Disorder® (PSD). You are likely married to a narcissist, and loving him well looks like putting up strong boundaries, and possibly a separation or a divorce if he still doesn't become a safe man. Since he won't listen, the strategies below will be for you to get your own help. You loving and helping yourself will be the best help you can give him. Try these 3 strategies:1. Start being honest with yourself. Look deeply into your life and the condition of your relationships. You must dive into your story and face your pain and your unaddressed wounds.2. Are you in therapy? You must find a licensed therapist who is seasoned in the work of abuse, male violence, self-contempt, and patriarchy. You could consider my wife's work at www.ChristyBauman.com or www.ChristianCC.org 3. What are you reading & writing? There are great resources to help continue with your growth. Some resources that might help you are: my wife's book, Theology of the Womb, my books, The Sexually Healthy Man, The Psychology of Porn, and Stumbling Toward Wholeness, the Flying Free website, Facebook group, and podcast, and the Betrayal Trauma Recovery website and podcast. Check out these resources to continue to develop your own health: 1. Explore my books and online courses. you will learn a lot along the way! 2. Check out my blog. There are over 100 free articles on my website, www.andrewjbauman.com3. Follow me on Facebook for inspiration! I’ve got you covered! Facebook Author Page4. Sign up for a transformational therapy consultation and/or intensives below! 5. Get support for your betrayal at Betrayal Trauma Recovery, and https://www.flyingfreenow.com/Plus, expect to see me in your inbox with transformational tips ✨

Is my partner a Sexually Healthy Man?

Take this quiz to get an idea of whether your partner is sexually healthy and access resources to help your sex life.

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