What's Your Relationship Attachment Style?

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Quiz Questions

1.
When you think about your current intimate relationship, which statement best describes you?
- A.
  The relationship is tumultuous and unpredictable. I don’t really know what to expect.
- B.
  I think about the relationship all the time and while I want it to work I am never really sure if it is going to work.
- C.
  I enjoy my relationship most of the time, and when I get frustrated I will address it with my partner.
- D.
  I prefer to spend most of my time alone and find it difficult to remember to engage my partner in our relationship.
2.
When it comes to managing your money with your partner, which statement best describes you?
- A.
  Managing money with my partner has had it’s highs and lows, but we keep working to find solutions that work for us.
- B.
  I can’t even imagine talking about money with my partner. I tend to be easily overwhelmed by ideas about money.
- C.
  We have experienced some significant financial hardships. I tend to go back and forth between obsessing about money and ignoring money.
- D.
  I like to make sure that everything is fair. I don’t understand why my partner gets so emotional about it.
3.
During my childhood I would describe one or both of my parents as…
- A.
  Unavailable, judgemental, critical, and showing little concern for my emotions.
- B.
  Sometimes there for me in an overwhelming way and sometimes not there at all.
- C.
  Anxious, uncertain about themselves, overly focused on my emotions.
- D.
  Available to take care of me and interested in my emotional world.
4.
During childhood I would describe my parents relationship with money and each other as…
- A.
  One of my parents would make all the financial decisions and tell the other person what to do with the money without considering the other's needs, wants, desires or interests.
- B.
  One of my parents would be focused on making sure that everyone else was taken care of and had the money they needed without thought for their own needs.
- C.
  My parents would talk openly and honestly about their financial realities and show respect and care for each other.
- D.
  One or both of my parents were out of synch and things felt very financially uncertain.
5.
When you reflect on your childhood you remember...
- A.
  Feeling safe and secure to explore your environment. When you would get scared there was someone there to comfort and care for you.
- B.
  Feeling conflicted about your own safety and the ability of someone to care and comfort you.
- C.
  Feeling nervous and anxious about trying new things and had to be pushed to try new things.
- D.
  Feeling fine to go off and play by yourself with little expectation that anyone would be interested or engaged in what you were doing.
6.
When you are preparing for going out with your partner for a fun experience you feel...
- A.
  Nervous about meeting your partner's expectations and at the same time hopeful that this will be a great experience as you have put a lot of planning into it.
- B.
  Dreadful and uncomfortable about what might happen or whether they will be able to enjoy the experience with you.
- C.
  You are going because your partner wants to go, but you would prefer to stay home and do something by yourself.
- D.
  Excited about the experience and the time you will spend together. This will be another memory created together.
7.
When it comes to planning your financial future together as a couple you…
- A.
  Work alone and spend a lot of time thinking about how to manage and accumulate more money so you don’t have to be controlled by other people.
- B.
  Enjoy thinking about and dreaming about the future with your partner and how your finances will help support the life that you want to live together.
- C.
  You feel lost, scared, and confused about what to do or even how to do it for yourself or with your partner.
- D.
  Try to engage in conversations with your partner about your future financial needs together. Yet you're never really sure if they see a future together with you even when they reassure you they do.
8.
Spending impromptu time with your partner is…
- A.
  A pleasant surprise and one that you welcome.
- B.
  A nightmare as it almost certainly means something is seriously wrong.
- C.
  I didn’t even know that type of thing could happen.
- D.
  A dream come true. This is what I have been waiting for.
9.
Your partner makes more money than you and it leaves you feeling…
- A.
  Like it doesn’t impact you. It's their life and what's happening to them.
- B.
  Uneasy about how your partner sees you because you want to be seen favorably.
- C.
  Proud to have a successful partner and glad you get to share in the benefits of their income.
- D.
  Very mixed feelings about it, sometimes you would rather not think about it and other times it is all you can think about.
10.
Your friends would describe the way you manage your intimate relationship as...
- A.
  Being emotionally needy and clingy.
- B.
  Being all over the place, one minute deeply in love and the next minute on the brink of disaster.
- C.
  Being emotionally distant and unavailable, especially in times of distress.
- D.
  Being emotionally connected and at ease for the most part.
11.
What Is Your Gender?
- A.
  Female
- B.
  Male
- C.
  Prefer not to answer
12.
What's Your Yearly Household Income?
- A.
  $0 - $50,000
- B.
  $50,000 - $100,000
- C.
  $100,000 - $200,000
- D.
  $200,000 and above
13.
Your Age Range
- A.
  20 years or younger
- B.
  21 - 30
- C.
  31 - 40
- D.
  41 - 50
- E.
  51 - 60
- F.
  61 - 70
- G.
  71 and above

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Secure Attachment Style
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You likely have a secure attachment style. People with a secure attachment style generally feel comfortable in intimate relationships. They can balance between meeting their own needs and counting on others to be there for them. They have lower levels of trauma in their lives and experienced their parents or parent as a source of security and safety.Check your inbox for your in-depth results!
2.
Anxious Attachment Style
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You likely have an anxious attachment style. People with an anxious attachment style generally feel anxious in intimate relationships. They tend to be more focused on meeting the other person's needs and discounting their own needs. They can be experienced as clingy, overinvolved, and uncertain of themselves. They have some trauma in their lives and experienced one or both of their parents as anxious, uncertain of themselves, and at times intrusive in their lives. Check your inbox for your in-depth results!
3.
Avoidant Attachment Style
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You likely have an avoidant attachment style. People with an avoidant attachment style generally feel isolated and alone in relationships. They also experience relationship anxiety but it is less apparent. These people tend to be much more self-sufficient and have a harder time shifting into a relationship with their intimate partner. They have some trauma in their lives and experienced one or both of their parents as unavailable, cold, or flat in emotional expressiveness. Check your inbox for your in-depth results!
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Disorganized Attachment Style
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You likely have a disorganized attachment style. People with a disorganized attachment style generally experience relationships as threatening and overwhelming. They can swing between more extreme desires to be in a relationship and be left alone depending on the situation. People with disorganized attachment tend to have the highest level of trauma and different types of trauma. One or both of their parents were inconsistent in their caregiving patterns and were experienced as a source of threat throughout childhood.Check your inbox for your in-depth results!