How healthy is your relationship with your mum?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  You've had a great achievement at work, how does Mum respond?  

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  • A.
    She's proud and happy for you!
  • B.
    She acknowledges your achievement but tells you what you could have done better.
  • C.
    She glosses over what you've said and talks about her day...
• 2.
  Your friend says she loves having you around, how do you feel? 

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  • A.
    What if she finds out how awful I really am?
  • B.
    Like I don't measure up...
  • C.
    I love having her as a friend too.
• 3.
  You visit your mum, what's her first question?  

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  • A.
    How's work?
  • B.
    What have you been up to this week?
  • C.
    How are you?
• 4.
  How would you describe your family?  

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  • A.
    Dysfuntional.
  • B.
    Keeping up appearances, but difficult behind closed doors.
  • C.
    Warm and loving.
• 5.
  How does success feel? 

  • A.
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    Awesome I love it!
  • B.
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    It's ok but I need to focus on my next project.
  • C.
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    I'm waiting for someone to tell me I messed up.
• 6.
   When you talk to your mum is it usually? 

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  • A.
    About her.
  • B.
    A mix of everything really.
  • C.
    All about other people.
• 7.
  When you are around mum do you?

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  • A.
    Walk on eggshells.
  • B.
    Feel you need to look after her.
  • C.
    Feel like you are the parent.
  • D.
    All of the above.
  • E.
    I feel happy and comfortable spending time with mum.
• 8.
  You turn up in a new dress, what does mum do? 

  • A.
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    Criticises the length, and style.
  • B.
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    Says it doesn't suit you.
  • C.
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    Tells you the neckline is too low and you should change.
  • D.
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    All of the above.
  • E.
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    She compliments me on how good I look!
• 9.
  Think back to when you had a new partner do you?

  • A.
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    Tell mum everything about them, it's hard to keep any secrets from her.
  • B.
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    Find mum going through your phone to find out more.
  • C.
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    Tell mum how you feel about them because you trust her.
  • D.
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    Tell mum nothing, she's got no boundaries.
• 10.
  When you think about your relationship with your mum would you describe it as:

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  • A.
    Close, trusting, and happy.
  • B.
    Too close, she has an opinion on everything I do.
  • C.
    Distant, I try not to talk to her if I don't have to.
• 11.
  The type of person you usually hang out with is?

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  • A.
    Someone who's authentic and doesn't pretend.
  • B.
    Someone who gossips about others.
  • C.
    Someone who ends up being criticising or controlling, but when you first met them they were charming and nice.
• 12.
  How much do you do to help your mum?

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  • A.
    Too much.
  • B.
    Just the right amount.
  • C.
    I try to just stay away if I can.
• 13.
  How do you feel after doing stuff for your mum?

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  • A.
    Happy to have helped.
  • B.
    Ok, but it was hard because I couldn't get it just so.
  • C.
    I feel a bit used if I'm honest.
• 14.
  You are getting ready for a night out at an expensive restaurant, what's your mum's response?

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  • A.
    She is super happy and excited for you.
  • B.
    She criticises how you look, because she would have worn something else.
  • C.
    She thinks it's a waste of money.
• 15.
  When you think about your mum do you feel responsible for:

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  • A.
    Her health?
  • B.
    Her wellbeing?
  • C.
    Her situation?
  • D.
    None of the above.
  • E.
    All of the above

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Your relationship with your mum is… healthy 

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  Sure you have a few ups and downs but on the whole your relationship is great.She is someone you can rely on, who cares about you.“A mother is your first friend, your best friend, your forever friend.”UnknownWant to boost your relationship? Here are some tips to get you started!1) Make sure you get quality time together, a shopping trip or a meal once a month to bring you closer and give you time to catch up.2) Keep communication open, if she upsets you let her know but be constructive about it.3) Tell her you appreciate your relationship, point out the good things.Hey there 🥰 My name is Charlotte, The Mother Wound Whisperer, I am an award-winning psychotherapist and fellow survivor. I specialise in working with women who have a difficult relationship with their mother, or who worry about having a difficult relationship with their own children to feel confident and happy in themselves.Difficult mothers can leave us with a Mother Wound, this wound often leaves you feeling like you are not good enough, no matter how much you achieve or people please. You may find if your relationship with your mother is difficult, you feel like you are walk on eggshells or look after her emotional needs despite what’s going on for you because, in truth, it’s all about her. My Mother Wound work helps you to recognise and process how your mother’s criticism, control, competitiveness and emotional absence has affected you, and gives you practical steps and support to find your worth and honour your achievements, so you feel good enough.So look out for my next email sharing some more useful tips with you! C.
• 2.
  Your relationship with your mum... could do with some work.

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  You and your mum don't always see eye to eye, you may find you feel a bit suffocated by her or distant from her.You may feel you need to walk on eggshells around her, that she is critical or undermines you or she may feel the need to compete with you in terms of achievements or looks.Having this type of relationship with your mum can be emotionally draining, and you may be left feeling like you can't get anything right no matter what you do."Somehow I believed it was my obligation to try to do the right thing by her because she had given birth to me." - D.G. KayeReady to start your healing journey? Here are some tips to get you started!1) This kind of parenting can leave you feeling not good enough, so remember to take care of you by recognising your achievements and the good things you do.2) Remember, how she treats you is not about you, it's a reflection of how she feels about herself. I don't say this to justify her behaviour, but because it can help you to pay less attention to her negative comments.3) Find ways to get support and to learn more about the mother wound, by joining my Daughters of The Roses Program it's the perfect place to meet others and get good quality information from a qualified mental health professional.Treat yourself kindly and allow yourself some space to process everything.Hey there 🥰 My name is Charlotte, The Mother Wound Whisperer, I am an award-winning psychotherapist and fellow survivor. I specialise in working with women who have a difficult relationship with their mother, or who worry about having a difficult relationship with their own children to feel confident and happy in themselves.Difficult mothers can leave us with a Mother Wound, this wound often leaves you feeling like you are not good enough, no matter how much you achieve or people please. You may find if your relationship with your mother is difficult, you feel like you are walk on eggshells or look after her emotional needs despite what’s going on for you because, in truth, it’s all about her. My Mother Wound work helps you to recognise and process how your mother’s criticism, control, competitiveness and emotional absence has affected you, and gives you practical steps and support to find your worth and honour your achievements, so you feel good enough.So look out for my next email sharing some more useful tips with you! C.
• 3.
  Your relationship with your mum is... unhealthy. 

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  This may be a shock to you, or most likely you took the quiz because you knew deep down something wasn't right.In an unhealthy relationship with your mother you will often feel critisised, shamed, unimportant, not good enough, like you are walking on eggshells around her, and find your mother feels emotionally absent.Mothers like this tend to be very smothering and controlling, leading you to feel incapable or trapped; or absent and neglecting, leading you to need to become ultra-independent.“If a mother has an unhealthy need to dominate her children-which she demonstrates by bullying, terrifying, neglecting, suffocating, indulging, humiliating, overprotecting or abusing them- those children must come to the recognition that such treatment is wrong in order to begin the long process of recovery and ultimate understanding.”― Victoria SecundaReady to begin your healing journey? Here are some tips to get you started!1) Recognising and acknowledging there is something wrong is the first step, the next step is to learn what you can about the mother wound and how it applies to you and your difficult mother.2) Getting support is vital, many people who join my courses and my Daughters of The Roses group program say how good it feels to know they are not alone in this, that their feelings are understood and validated.3) If you are really struggling psychotherapy can be a great option. Look for someone like me who specialises in recovering from having a difficult mother.Hey there 🥰 My name is Charlotte, The Mother Wound Whisperer, I am an award-winning psychotherapist and fellow survivor. I specialise in working with women who have a difficult relationship with their mother, or who worry about having a difficult relationship with their own children to feel confident and happy in themselves.Difficult mothers can leave us with a Mother Wound, this wound often leaves you feeling like you are not good enough, no matter how much you achieve or people please. You may find if your relationship with your mother is difficult, you feel like you are walk on eggshells or look after her emotional needs despite what’s going on for you because, in truth, it’s all about her. My Mother Wound work helps you to recognise and process how your mother’s criticism, control, competitiveness and emotional absence has affected you, and gives you practical steps and support to find your worth and honour your achievements, so you feel good enough.So look out for my next email sharing some more useful tips with you! C.