What Was Your Role In Your Dysfunctional Family?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  What statement best described you as a kid?

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    Acted as the life of the party; Comedian of the family and class clown in school
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    Excelled in school or sports despite growing up in an unhealthy environment
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    Isolated from others and kept to yourself most of the time; shy and withdrawn
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    Acted like the parent to younger siblings; protected and held the family together
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    Viewed as troublemaker who acted out in school/public; defiant and aggressive
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  How did you feel about yourself on the inside as a kid?

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    Forced to grow up too fast; longing for a normal life
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    Rejected and hurt; like a loser
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    Scared, unable to face reality, inadequate, helpless
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    Feared failing and losing control; felt boxed in
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    Lonely and misunderstood; unable to express myself
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  How did you respond to conflict as a kid?

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    Yelled, cursed, or got into a fight
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    Joked, laughed, or made light of the situation
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    Stood in the corner, watched, and did nothing.
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    Stepped in to take control and kept everything together
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    Ignored or covered up the issue with my accomplishments
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  People outside your family said you were ___ as a kid.

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    Well-behaved, quiet, a creative introvert, and a bit strange
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    Perfect, positive, focused, an achiever, had a bright future 
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    Silly, outgoing, immature, fun but not very serious
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    Very mature, responsible, helpful, and thoughtful
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    Bad, disrespectful, troubled; the black sheep of the family
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  How do you feel about your family?

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    You don't get along and keep your distance
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    You can go months without seeing or talking much 
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    You want to make them proud, and they are
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    You don't talk about your problems and issues
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    More mature than them and don't always fit in
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  In your current life, are you...?

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    A workaholic or controlling person afraid to make a mistake
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    Blamed for family problems and have a chip on your shoulder
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    Feeling unvalued and not needed, craving love and attention
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    A follower who never grows up and minimizes serious issues
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    Feeling taken for granted by others and unable to set boundaries
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  Which of the following words best describe your personality?

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    Fun-loving
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    Cocky
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    Shy/reserved
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    Intelligent
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    Level-headed
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  What area do you want to improve in your life?

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    Healing and Forgiveness
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    Personal Relationships
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    Effective Communication
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    Self Worth and Self Love
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  How dedicated are you to making improvements in your personal and social life?

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    I'm ready right now. This is the sign I needed. I want to be better.
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    I can't face this right now. It hurts deeply. What do I do now? Help!
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    I want to stop toxic family patterns but don't know where to start.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Mascot

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  You were a mascot.The mascot was the comedian in the family and the class clown in school. This person used humor to cope with the stressful home environment he or she lived in to "lift" the mood. This person brought a light-hearted vibe to their family to avoid the emotional pain and turmoil he or she experienced as a victim of childhood trauma. The mascot figured out that their humor provided some much needed relief around the house. But the jokes and pranks never compensated for the dysfunction found in the family.Other members of the family protected the mascot because they viewed him or her as fragile. Mascots were often viewed as immature and not taken seriously. They hid their feelings of fear and deep hurt with humor. To learn more about dysfunctional family roles and how to end generations of toxic family patterns, click the button below.
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  Hero

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  You were a hero.The hero was usually the star in the dysfunctional family. He or she did very well in school, sports, work, etc., and was well liked by others. Heroes were so responsible and dutiful that those on the outside believed their parents to be doing a good job of raising them. Their parents received compliments for a job well done with this child. The hero never admitted the dysfunction in his or her family and went along with the "story" of good parenting.The hero gave the toxic family a sense of worth and made it their goal to excel at whatever they did to compensate for their challenging home environment. Because heroes were so driven, they risked developing perfectionist or addictive behaviors later in life. Many workaholics started off in the hero role. To learn more about dysfunctional family roles and how to end generations of toxic family patterns, click the button below.
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  Scapegoat

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  You were a scapegoat.The scapegoat or problem child was viewed as the troublemaker in the family. This person "acted out" within the family and in public. He or she was not afraid to expose the unhealthy behaviors happening in the family. It was not uncommon for the scapegoat to tell family secrets, especially when irritated. The scapegoat did not feel any sense of loyalty to his or her family that they viewed as dysfunctional.The scapegoat got in trouble in school and with the law because of their negative attention-seeking behavior. This person often had a powerful pull on his or her peers, but that influence was unhealthy. Scapegoats were leaders, but they mostly associated with other negative individuals.To learn more about dysfunctional family roles and how to end generations of toxic family patterns, click the button below.
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  Enabler

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  You were an enabler.The enabler or caretaker had a codependent relationship with the dysfunctional parent (s). He or she overlooked the poor choices of the dysfunctional parent and did not hold him or her accountable. Instead, the enabler attempted to function around their parent's toxic ways. If the family needed someone to step in and act like the responsible adult, the enabler did that. He or she cared for younger siblings as a surrogate parent would, cooking, cleaning, and supervising.The enabler was only a few years older than the siblings he or she raised. This person's primary goal was to keep the family together and functioning. If the parent had addictions, mental illness, or a disability, it was more likely to see a child step into the enabler role.To learn more about dysfunctional family roles and how to end generations of toxic family patterns, click the button below.
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  Loner

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  You were a loner.The loner or lost child was the shy one who withdrew from the family as protection. Withdrawing allowed the loner to escape their home environment, however temporary. This person was so quiet, he or she seemed invisible to others. Because the loner was so shy and quiet, he or she rarely got into trouble. As a result, the dysfunctional family looked good because of the seemingly well-behaved loner.Because the loner spent so much time alone, he or she may not have developed the social and communication skills needed to have productive personal and professional relationships. It was difficult for the loner to speak up for themselves. He or she just wanted to be unnoticed and unbothered. The loner felt and acted small.To learn more about dysfunctional family roles and how to end generations of toxic family patterns, click the button below.