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Miss People Pleaser
You need me to work late? Yes of course I will. Need a volunteer to take on extra scope? Sure, I'll do it even though I might just resent you deep inside...Conflict? Hell no, get me out of here! Sound familiar?You are a kind soul who has a genuine interest in others. You love things to be in harmony both at home and work and dislike conflict. You want everything to be happy and don't understand why everyone can't just get along! You make a great team member as you are helpful and reliable. You are regularly called upon to take on additional work as your boss knows you'll do it. You are well respected and well-liked and this makes you feel good. You are polite, kind, courteous and want others to like you. You crave this. You hate to think that you might not be liked, so you do what it takes to make people like you. If people like you, you feel good. If you get a vibe that someone doesn't, that can cause you to feel rejected, sad, upset or even angry. What have you done wrong?You want to help everyone. So much so, that you often end up swooping in to rescue others. You feel called to do this. And you really don't understand when people don't want your help, as you just want them to feel supported. You worry about stepping out of line and upsetting others or worse, angering someone who you find intimidating. This results in you keeping quiet at times when you want to voice your opinion. You are reluctant to challenge others ideas and ways of thinking, even though you have sooo much to add. You just can't bring yourself to speak up. You are cautious about sharing information and as a result, you can often get ignored when there are stronger characters in the room. You take criticism personally and you often feel misunderstood. Although you want to please people, you can feel taken for granted and sometimes feel resentment towards those you help. Why can't they see how much you do? Why don't you get the recognition you so deserve?People love working with you because they always feel seen and supported. You’ve got great ideas and you’re amazing at follow-through. Truly, you are a joy to work with.Your biggest challenge?Sometimes you let people walk all over you. And you’re sometimes afraid of what the world will ask of you if you allow your light to shine.Keep reading for your customized strategies to help you stop pleasing others and start pleasing yourself:1. Check what people want instead of guessing. Oftentimes, you do what you think you should do but do people actually want the help you are giving them? Unsolicited help or advice is often unwelcome. People want autonomy and nobody wants to be rescued. Its best to check what people want before doing things you think they want. 2. Stand up and be heard. If someone is wrong or says something that you don't agree with, put your big girls pants on, step into your power and say it. After all, you are such a good person, you will only ever communicate with grace and positive intent. When you communicate from your heart and not your ego, it will be received well, I promise. You are loved!3. Give yourself a break and ask for what you want! It is ok to stand up for yourself and be assertive. You have the same rights as everyone else. If you have something to say, say it! What's the worst that can happen? I hate to break it to you, but if they don't like you, there is nothing you can do to change that. We are not all meant to get along! Do you like everyone you work with? No! And that's ok. I repeat, that is ok.No one will hate you for voicing your opinion, they may not agree and that is ok. You’ll never become who you were born to be if you dim your light. Allow your light to shine bright my dear.Hi👋, I’m Lucy Gernon.I’m an ICF Certified Executive Coach for Corporate Female Leaders. I help them to take control, figure out their next move, find more time and set boundaries so they can live their happiest fullest life aligned to their passion and purpose.Having worked for more than 17 years in the corporate world with 3 kids, a large team and multi-billion-dollar responsibilities, I have cracked the code to taking back control. Oh and I'm normal just like you and I love pink too... in case you haven't noticed!I have learned the secret to setting boundaries without appearing incompetent and breaking free from the laptop so I can be more present with my children while still being successful and doing a great job.And I am dying to share this with you.As an Executive Coach for Female Leaders, I can help you to become the queen of confidence, influence, and productivity so that you can get to where you want to be without sacrificing family or burning out. Want to learn more?1. Check out podcast Powerhouse Revolution Radio. I release weekly episodes with practical tips and tricks to help women in leadership feel more in control, happy and fulfilled amid the chaos! 2. Connect with on LinkedIn I post regular insightful content for women in leadership roles.3. Hop on a free 20 minute chemistry call with me! You'll leave with more clarity and a clear path to your next move. And be sure to check your inbox, because I’ll be sending you weekly emails that you'll be dying to open. No spam I promise x