Is My Partner a Narcissist?

Quiz Questions

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  Does your partner appear cold, aloof, annoyed, or disgusted when discussing your or others' emotions? 

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    Always
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    Sometimes
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    Rarely
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    Never
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  Does your partner often believe that he/she deserves special treatment?

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    Always
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    Sometimes
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    Rarely
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    Never
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  Does your partner often talk in big, bold, or arrogant ways about his/her achievements, goals, or status?

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    Always
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    Sometimes
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    Rarely
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    Never
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  Do you often feel manipulated or used by your partner, as if they're only interested in you when they need or want something?

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    Always
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    Sometimes
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    Rarely
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    Never
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  Do you constantly feel a need to entertain or validate your partner in order to keep their attention or interest?

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    Always
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    Sometimes
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    Rarely
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    Never
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  Does your partner often project their own emotions onto you (i.e., accuse you of feeling or doing what he/she is actually doing)?

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    Always
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    Sometimes
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    Rarely
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    Never
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  Does your partner consistently avoid taking personal responsibility and become super defensive instead?

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    Always
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    Sometimes
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    Rarely
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    Never
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  Do you often leave conversations with your partner feeling (check all that apply):

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    Confused
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    Guilt/Shame
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    Hopeless/Helpless
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    Invalidated/Misunderstood
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    None of these
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  Does your partner act sullen, depressed, or withdrawn if things don't go their way?

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    Always
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    Sometimes
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    Rarely
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    Never
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  Has your partner ever been emotionally or sexually unfaithful?

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    Yes
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    No

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  MILD RISK

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  If you scored between 0 to 14, there's a mild risk you have a narcissistic partner.Overall, you feel like you have a good relationship, although there are some areas you believe need improving.At times, you feel misunderstood, dismissed, or invalidated by your partner. You've probably been researching various questions online, trying to figure out if your relationship struggles are "normal."You might've felt as if something is missing and that healthier communication is needed to improve the quality of your relationship.You feel like if you could:Set better boundariesCommunicate more effectivelyFeel more heard and understoodStop being guilt-tripped, criticized, or invalidatedThen you would be able to have a more satisfying and meaningful relationship!Based on these results, my new bestselling book could be helpful if you'd like to:Learn to differentiate between healthy and toxic relationship patternsUnderstand what a healthy attachment looks and feels like Identify specific ways to improve your relationship Set healthy boundaries Get the first chapter for free!Hi! I'm Chelsey Brooke Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and bestselling author specializing in narcissistic abuse and relational trauma.Having experienced narcissistic abuse myself and having worked with countless narcissistic abuse survivors, I understand the confusion, pain, and hurt these relationships cause.However, I also know that healing is possible and that meaning, purpose, and fulfillment can still be found whether the narcissist is in or out of your life.That's why I wrote my new book If Only I'd Known! How to Outsmart Narcissists, Set Guilt-Free Boundaries, and Create Unshakeable Self-Worth.To see if this is the right book for you, get the first chapter for free!
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  MODERATE RISK

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  If you scored between 15 to 28, there's a moderate risk that you have a narcissistic partner. Most days, when thinking about your relationship, you probably feel confused, overwhelmed, discouraged, frustrated, powerless, or a mix of all of these. You've probably been researching various questions online, trying to figure out if your relationship struggles are "normal."You might've felt as if you're "going crazy" or wondered if the person you're dealing with is narcissistic, toxic, or possibly psychopathic.You've probably noticed yourself ruminating more, being in a state of fogginess, or having trouble making even simple decisions. For a long time, you've likely wondered: "Is it me? Or is something actually wrong with them?" Based on these results, my new bestselling book could be helpful if you'd like to:Learn to differentiate between healthy and toxic relationship patternsUnderstand what a healthy attachment looks and feels like Identify specific ways to improve your relationship Set healthy boundaries Get the first chapter for free!Hi! I'm Chelsey Brooke Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and bestselling author specializing in narcissistic abuse and relational trauma.Having experienced narcissistic abuse myself and having worked with countless narcissistic abuse survivors, I understand the confusion, pain, and hurt these relationships cause.However, I also know that healing is possible and that meaning, purpose, and fulfillment can still be found whether the narcissist is in or out of your life.That's why I wrote my new book If Only I'd Known! How to Outsmart Narcissists, Set Guilt-Free Boundaries, and Create Unshakeable Self-Worth.To see if this is the right book for you, get the first chapter for free!
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  HIGH RISK

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  If you scored between 29 to 42, it's highly likely that you have a narcissistic partner. Most days, you likely feel confused, exhausted, hypervigilant, overwhelmed, anxious, depressed, or a mix of all of these. You've probably been researching various questions online, desperate to make sense of what you've been experiencing.You feel as if you're "going crazy" and wonder if the person you're dealing with is narcissistic, toxic, or even psychopathic.You ruminate constantly (never fully sure of what you think or feel), overthink everything (even simple decisions), and live in a never-ending state of worry, doubt, and guilt. If you could sum up your relationship problems in two statements, it would be feeling like you're never enough and that no matter what, you can't win.Based on these results, my new bestselling book could be helpful if you'd like to:Understand what you're going through (narcissistic abuse is messy, toxic, and multi-layered)Learn to validate your own reality (because they will always gaslight you)Set firm boundaries if you stay (to protect your mind and heart)Arm yourself with the right coping strategies if you leave (because it won't be easy)Get the first chapter for free!Hi! I'm Chelsey Brooke Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and bestselling author specializing in narcissistic abuse and relational trauma.Having experienced narcissistic abuse myself and having worked with countless narcissistic abuse survivors, I understand the confusion, pain, and hurt these relationships cause.However, I also know that healing is possible and that meaning, purpose, and fulfillment can still be found whether the narcissist is in or out of your life.That's why I wrote my new book If Only I'd Known! How to Outsmart Narcissists, Set Guilt-Free Boundaries, and Create Unshakeable Self-Worth.To see if this is the right book for you, get the first chapter for free!