Has Your Superwoman Cape Turned to Kryptonite?

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Quiz Questions

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Do you feel socially pressured to conform to mainstream standards of beauty or grooming to be hired, prosperously paid, promoted, and/or romantically partnered?
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  OFTEN - "The margin of acceptance is extremely narrow for women like me."
- B.
  SOMETIMES - "It depends on the circumstances and who I want to impress."
- C.
  SELDOM - "I don't worry about others approval because I am the CEO of me and approve of myself."
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When you are the minority member in the room, do you feel compelled to edit or "code-switch" the way you speak, to be seen, heard, and clearly understood?
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  OFTEN - " I can't afford to be perceived as less intelligent, competent, or professional than my counterparts."
- B.
  SOMETIMES - "If the vibe requires that I demonstrate my verbal prowess, then I am poised and ready to win the gold!"
- C.
  SELDOM - " I know I belong in any room I choose to enter; so, what you see and hear is whom you get!
3.
Do you suppress your thoughts and feelings to avoid having your perspective weaponized against you by your counterparts?
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  OFTEN - "It's self-preservation!"
- B.
  SOMETIMES - "It depends on if my silence is more toxic than speaking-up about a specific subject or situation."
- C.
  SELDOM - " I am committed to being the change I want to see in the world!"
4.
Is it difficult for you to say "no" to requests which violate your values and/or personal boundaries?
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  OFTEN - "I don't want to be viewed as troublemaker."
- B.
  SOMETIMES - "You have to go along to get along."
- C.
  SELDOM - "If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything!"
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Do you feel you must work harder, skip breaks, and sacrifice sleep to "get ahead" or "get things done"?
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  OFTEN - "I don't know any other way!"
- B.
  SOMETIMES - "I work hard to earn the privilege to play hard!"
- C.
  SELDOM - "I work smarter, not harder!"
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Do you have a tendency to yield to the expectations of other people, to the detriment of betraying yourself?
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  OFTEN - "If I don't do what's expected, then there will be consequences, and I will become the scapegoat."
- B.
  SOMETIMES - "If I feel my contribution will produce the desired result, then I will make the sacrifice."
- C.
  SELDOM - "Betraying myself is not an option!"
7.
Does taking care of everyone else deplete your time, energy, and money to the point of self-neglect and burnout?
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  OFTEN - "I often put everybody and everything before myself."
- B.
  SOMETIMES - "Until circumstances demand I do things differently"
- C.
  SELDOM - "If the investment of my time, energy, and money isn't a win/win; then there's no deal!"
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Are you reluctant to ask for help when you need it?
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  OFTEN - "If you want something done right, do it yourself."
- B.
  SOMETIMES - "It depends on the situation."
- C.
  SELDOM - "Interdependence yields a higher return on time, money and energy than independence"
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Does perfectionism sabotage your best intentions to make progress with your goals?
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  OFTEN - "I seriously struggle with overthinking and analysis paralysis."
- B.
  SOMETIMES - "It depends on the nature of my goals."
- C.
  SELDOM - "Done is better than perfect!"
10.
When you experience failure, loss, or rejection do see these plot twists as obstacles or opportunities?
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  OFTEN - "Setbacks and disappointments provide clues to grow better rather than bitter."
- B.
  SOMETIMES - "I learned to change the things I can; accept the things I can't and grow in wisdom to know the difference."
- C.
  SELDOM - "When things derail, I lean toward cutting my losses."
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When you feel tired, do you give yourself permission to rest?
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  OFTEN - "I schedule rest as a part of my daily, weekly, monthly, and annual routines."
- B.
  SOMETIMES - "It depends on the deadlines of my to-do list."
- C.
  SELDOM - "Only if my body forces me to stop."
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When you talk to yourself, do you speak with love and compassion to yourself?
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  OFTEN - " I am my best friend!"
- B.
  SOMETIMES - "I am a work in progress."
- C.
  SELDOM - "I seriously struggle with believing I am enough."

Quiz Outcomes

1.
You are a Human Shapeshifter!
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You are perceived as highly intelligent, articulate, and well put together. Your genius as a high achiever and masterful code-switcher makes you the cherry-picked, diversity and inclusion ambassador, among mainstream corporate and social organizations. Therefore, you live by the mantra, "I'm not just good at what I do, my performance proves I am the best!"Although your vigorous work ethic and impressive track record have opened previously closed doors; the relentless stress imposed leaves you teetering on the edge of anxiety and burnout. As a result, you've learned to disassociate from authentic parts of yourself, which makes it difficult for you to feel safe and secure.According to the allostatic load model of modern medicine, this kind of persistent and cumulative stress causes significant wear-and-tear on our bodies, and can negatively impact our immune, digestive, cardiovascular, and reproductive systems. It's also what makes superwomen, like YOU, more vulnerable to a range of health complications and lifestyle challenges excessively associated with populations of color (e.g. obesity, heart disease, high-blood pressure, diabetes, and premature death).But don't worry!Here are three therapeutic tips you can practice right now, to start championing your self-care, as the CEO of Y-O-U:1) Before you start making deposits into everyone and everything else, check-in with yourself, FIRST! What do you need to feel nurtured, safe, and secure?2) Explore what makes you valuable beyond your performance, accomplishments, and titles. What makes you feel most authentically seen, heard, and supported? 3) Implement and enforce boundaries which consistently shift you from performance into relaxation and rejuvenation mode. Set "do not disturb" hours on your electronic devices so you can practice and benefit from the rich rewards of rest.Need more support? Let's talk!Hi, I'm Lauren Fowler, MA, CPC.As a Life Strategist and Culture Catalyst, I am here to help you eliminate stress, anxiety, and burnout. I am also the Founder of Sankofa Phoenix Institute (SPI), a school of self-image exclusively dedicated to super-serving the distinct identities and human experiences of ambitious women of color. Too often, we hear about the health, wealth, and relationship disparities between people of color and our counterparts. Yet, we continue to struggle with how to eliminate the toxic roots which perpetuate them. The fact of the matter is that the social constructs of race and gender have been intentionally manipulated to create a global caste and class system. No one is exempt! Therefore, when we study the multigenerational and brutal history of chattel slavery and segregation, we learn that the strong Black woman and Superwoman personas were not purely assumed from raw ambition, but out of the necessity to survive an oppressive and narcissistic culture!Ready to unmute, unmask, and uncloak from the stress of the Superwoman Syndrome?Book a complimentary clarity callto discuss my 12-week program, Prosper Beyond Your Pain & Thrive, and how to recover from the human shapeshifting, people-pleasing, and perfectionism, which cannibalizes your identity, and keeps you circling the drain of diminishing returns.What's next? Join the SPI Tribe to stay in the know about upcoming programs, events, and free resources. I can't wait to meet you on the inside! "If I didn't define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people's fantasies for me and eaten alive." ~ Audre Lorde
2.
You are a People Pleaser!
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You possess a relentless "can-do" spirit and work ethic, which magnetizes people to you and makes you feel needed. As a result, you may have internalized the belief that performing as a "taskmaster" is what makes you an asset in the marketplace, loveable as a family member, and appreciated as a friend. However, working in perpetual overdrive and neglecting to enforce healthy boundaries is a proven recipe to crash and burn!According to the allostatic load model of modern medicine, this kind of persistent and cumulative stress causes significant wear-and-tear on our bodies, and can negatively impact our immune, digestive, cardiovascular, and reproductive systems. It's also what makes superwomen, like YOU, more vulnerable to a range of health complications and lifestyle challenges excessively associated with populations of color (e.g. obesity, heart disease, high-blood pressure, diabetes, and premature death).But don't worry!Here are three therapeutic tips you can practice right now, to start championing your self-care, as the CEO of Y-O-U:1) Examine what you tolerate. What's the return on the investment of your time, talent, and tangible contributions? You are 100 percent responsible for teaching people how to treat you!2) Trust your instincts. Pay attention to the intuitive signals your body sends you. The acronym H.A.L.T. helps you check-in with your head, heart, and gut before you become too hungry, angry, lonely, and tired. It also serves as a reminder to ask for the support you need and prioritize the rest you deserve. 3) Practice saying "no" to create and enforce healthy boundaries. Boundaries you fail to enforce do not exist!Need more support? Let's talk!Hi, I'm Lauren Fowler, MA, CPC.As a Life Strategist and Culture Catalyst, I am here to help you eliminate stress, anxiety, and burnout. I am also the Founder of Sankofa Phoenix Institute (SPI), a school of self-image exclusively dedicated to super-serving the distinct identities and human experiences of ambitious women of color. Too often, we hear about the health, wealth, and relationship disparities between people of color and our counterparts. Yet, we continue to struggle with how to eliminate the toxic roots which perpetuate them. The fact of the matter is that the social constructs of race and gender have been intentionally manipulated to create a global caste and class system. No one is exempt! Therefore, when we study the multigenerational and brutal history of chattel slavery and segregation, we learn that the strong Black woman and Superwoman personas were not purely assumed from raw ambition, but out of the necessity to survive an oppressive and narcissistic culture!Ready to unmute, unmask, and uncloak from the stress of the Superwoman Syndrome?Book a complimentary clarity callto discuss my 12-week program, Prosper Beyond Your Pain & Thrive, and how to recover from the human shapeshifting, people-pleasing, and perfectionism, which cannibalizes your identity, and keeps you circling the drain of diminishing returns.What's next? Join the SPI Tribe to stay in the know about future programs, events, and free resources. I can't wait to meet you on the inside! "If I didn't define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people's fantasies for me and eaten alive." ~ Audre Lorde
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You are a Perfectionist!
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You are a profound and deep thinker with wise instincts. The genius of your head and heart have gifted you with the insights of a world-class visionary and highly competent facilitator. Your reputation for perfection is characterized by the meticulous way you study the details and deliver with excellence. Therefore, you live by the mantra, "do it right, or don't do it all!" When overwhelmed, you are prone to overthink and procrastinate. Once analysis paralysis sets in, your inner critic relentlessly shames you about "not being good enough" or having lost control. As a result, the escalating stress makes you vulnerable to performance fatigue. According to the allostatic load model of modern medicine, this kind of persistent and cumulative stress causes significant wear-and-tear on our bodies, and can negatively impact our immune, digestive, cardiovascular, and reproductive systems. It's also what makes superwomen, like YOU, more vulnerable to a range of health complications and lifestyle challenges excessively associated with populations of color (e.g. obesity, heart disease, high-blood pressure, diabetes, and premature death).But don't worry!Here are three therapeutic tips you can practice right now, to start championing your self-care, as the CEO of Y-O-U: 1) Use restorative breathwork to center yourself. Inhale through your nose for a count of 5. Hold your breath for a count of 2. Exhale through your mouth for a count of 7. Repeat 3 times, or as many as needed, until your sense of calm is restored. 2) Speak with "compassion" and "curiosity" rather than harshness to yourself. Ask yourself, what do you need to help you move through a specific challenge with greater ease? Eating a healthy meal, taking a 30-minute walk, or taking a nap can do the mind, body, and spirit wonders! 3) Gift yourself consistently with creative play breaks. Creative play breaks are intentional windows of time scheduled within the confines of your usual workday and/or week. They allow therapeutic margin to delight in your favorite or new activities, to bring you joy and a spark of spontaneity.Need more support? Let's talk!Hi, I'm Lauren Fowler, MA, CPC.As a Life Strategist and Culture Catalyst, I am here to help you eliminate stress, anxiety, and burnout. I am also the Founder of Sankofa Phoenix Institute (SPI), a school of self-image exclusively dedicated to super-serving the distinct identities and human experiences of ambitious women of color. Too often, we hear about the health, wealth, and relationship disparities between people of color and our counterparts. Yet, we continue to struggle with how to eliminate the toxic roots which perpetuate them. The fact of the matter is that the social constructs of race and gender have been intentionally manipulated to create a global caste and class system. No one is exempt! Therefore, when we study the multigenerational and brutal history of chattel slavery and segregation, we learn that the strong Black woman and Superwoman personas were not purely assumed from raw ambition, but out of the necessity to survive an oppressive and narcissistic culture!Ready to unmute, unmask, and uncloak from the stress of the Superwoman Syndrome? Book a complimentary clarity callto discuss my 12-week program, Prosper Beyond Your Pain & Thrive, and how to recover from the human shapeshifting, people-pleasing, and perfectionism, which cannibalizes your identity, and keeps you circling the drain of diminishing returns. What's next?Join the SPI Tribe to stay in the know about future programs, events, and free resources. I can't wait to meet you on the inside!"There is no such thing as a single-issue struggle because we do not lead single issue lives" ~ Audre Lorde
4.
You are a Queen Boss!
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You are the living embodiment of the legendary Phoenix bird, battle-tested by fire and resurrected from the ashes! Rather than settle for what the world tells you to tolerate, you challenge it to do better! You are intentional about learning from your mistakes, failures, and regrets. As a result, you live by the mantra, "no pressure, no diamonds!"Nevertheless, you are NOT invincible. What may have worked fabulously for you in the past, may no longer be the best fit for you now and looking into your future. Therefore, the profound and endless responsibility of deciding what to save, delete, and add are the primary triggers associated with your stress profile.According to the allostatic load model of modern medicine, this kind of persistent stress (when left unchecked) causes significant wear-and-tear on our bodies, and can negatively impact our immune, digestive, cardiovascular, and reproductive systems. It's also what makes superwomen, like YOU, more vulnerable to health complications and lifestyle challenges, excessively associated with populations of color (e.g. obesity, heart disease, high-blood pressure, diabetes, and premature death).But don't worry! Here are three therapeutic tips you can put into practice right now, to continue to champion your self-care, as the CEO of Y-O-U:1) Respect and own all your numbers. Forty, forty-five, fifty, or whatever your chronological age may be at the present, is NOT the new thirty! Every year you live is another chapter of wisdom added. Use it to level-up your standards and expectations, not b-s and short-change them. 2) Stay on top of any new symptoms. Is your stress or anxiety showing up as chronic bouts of insomnia, mood swings, poor concentration, or unwanted changes in your libido? Depending on your season of life, these frustrating symptoms may be indications of hormonal shifts associated with perimenopause, menopause, and post menopause. Allow these natural stages of womanhood to deepen your self-awareness and guide you into advanced levels of self-care.3) Re-evaluate the status of all your affairs on a consistent basis. Decluttering our lives includes people as well as things! Never hesitate to remove anything, or reposition anyone, who no longer serves your best interests. Need more support? Let's talk!Hi, I'm Lauren Fowler, MA, CPC.As a Life Strategist and Culture Catalyst, I am here to help you eliminate stress, anxiety, and burnout. I am also the Founder of Sankofa Phoenix Institute (SPI), a school of self-image exclusively dedicated to super-serving the distinct identities and human experiences of ambitious women of color. Too often, we hear about the health, wealth, and relationship disparities between people of color and our counterparts. Yet, we continue to struggle with how to eliminate the toxic roots which perpetuate them. The fact of the matter is that the social constructs of race and gender have been intentionally manipulated to create a global caste and class system. No one is exempt! Therefore, when we study the multigenerational and brutal history of chattel slavery and segregation, we learn that the strong Black woman and Superwoman personas were not purely assumed from raw ambition, but out of the necessity to survive an oppressive and narcissistic culture!Ready to unmute, unmask, and uncloak from the stress of the Superwoman Syndrome?Book a complimentary clarity call to discuss my 12-week program, Prosper Beyond Your Pain & Thrive, and how to recover from the human shapeshifting, people-pleasing, and perfectionism, which cannibalizes your identity and keeps you circling the drain of diminishing returns.What's next?Join the SPI Tribe to stay in the know about future programs, events, and free resources. I can't wait to meet you on the inside!"There is no such thing as a single-issue struggle because we do not lead single issue lives." ~ Audre Lorde