What is your main blocker in love?

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Quiz Questions

1.
Which statement feels the most true as to why your last relationship ended?
- A.
  I was more invested in the relationship than they were.
- B.
  We didn't seem to be aligned on a lot of important things.
- C.
  They left me for someone else.
- D.
  They reminded me of my ex.
2.
Which of the below suggestions for a successful relationship feels most aligned to you?
- A.
  One that has the qualities of some of the best relationships I have had in the past. If I could put all the good parts of them into a new relationship THAT would be the most ideal.
- B.
  One where my partner constantly reassure me of our commitment so I always know where I stand with them. I have had issues in the past where the status of our relationship was unclear so I need this clarity moving forward.
- C.
  One that allows us both to have plenty of space away from each other - I do not want to feel smothered or feel like it has to become something serious too soon.
- D.
  One that allows me to shine as the perfect girlfriend i.e. I get full licence to do all the planning, organising etc. I love doing all of that stuff when I am in a relationship with someone.
3.
Which of the below is the biggest red flag for you?
- A.
  Someone who is just TOO nice, you know?
- B.
  Someone who isn't open about sharing passwords on their devices. Like what are they hiding??
- C.
  Someone who is visibly jealous if I mention my ex to them even if it is just briefly.
- D.
  Someone who rarely acknowledges all the good things I do for them.
4.
What is true intimacy for you?
- A.
  Anything that means spending time with my partner regardless of what we're doing together.
- B.
  Working side by side on our separate projects even if it means working in silence for hours.
- C.
  Being my partner's rock every time they have a problem - they know they can always air out all of their issues with me.
- D.
  Having the emotional safety to discuss past relationships as a way of communicating our wounds and a way to collectively work towards conflict resolution.
5.
You've just had a fight with your significant other. They have asked for a few days to cool off before having another chat. How do you deal with this?
- A.
  Send them something sweet to their house the next day- this will break the ice!
- B.
  Go over to their house or their office to surprise them - I'm sure they will be ready to chat a little sooner when they see me in person.
- C.
  Instantly go into detective mode and snoop through their social media - I have had trust issues in the past and therefore I just want to make sure I have nothing to worry about.
- D.
  I give it time but if they need more time than just a few days, I'm ready to call off the relationship. If they need THAT much time away from me then perhaps they are not the one for me.
6.
What do you find the hardest about dating nowadays?
- A.
  I feel men get so attached to me too quickly and it freaks me out.
- B.
  When dates get cancelled last minute. I can't help but think I did or said something wrong to put them off.
- C.
  I never seem to click with anyone.
- D.
  It is daunting to think about how much competition is out there.
7.
You're dating someone new and they seem to get quite regularly irritable with you when you bring up their childhood. What do you do?
- A.
  I would avoid any further conflict by not mentioning the topic again. Perhaps he will talk about it when he is ready. But if he never brings it up I am fine with that.
- B.
  Run for the hills! I don't need any added drama in my life.
- C.
  Retrace what I said to make sure I didn't say anything offensive to cause him to react this way.
- D.
  This would trigger me into thinking if I have ever attracted anyone else like this before.
8.
If you could go back and tell your younger self anything about the things you struggle with now in love, what would it be?
- A.
  Be as selective as possible and when you DO find someone you like, never let them really know how much they mean to you. Better to always be one step ahead by keeping your feelings at bay #ProtectYourHeart.
- B.
  For the right person, there is no such thing as too much love. If someone tells you that you are over doing it in a relationship, then they simply aren't for you.
- C.
  Get someone who is going to treat you like a queen on a daily basis. This way you will know they love you and you won't have to worry about whether they are interested in someone else because they spend so much time adoring you.
- D.
  Make sure you don't leave any unfinished business when it comes to relationships. Ensure you end things with a good sense of closure with your exes for the both of you or it is likely one of you will come back to haunt the other one and try again.
9.
You are in a serious relationship and your anniversary is coming up. What are you expecting?
- A.
  I would expect him to propose. I have never met a man who didn't know if he wanted to marry a woman or not after a year.
- B.
  We don't really mark our milestones. In fact, we don't really pay attention to our anniversary date. We are just happy to be together for as long as possible.
- C.
  Not much because I know I will be doing all the booking/organising - he is the worst at that kind of stuff!
- D.
  Maybe a dinner or something - I wouldn't expect THAT much. A year isn't that much of a milestone.
10.
You have plans for the evening. On your way to meet your friend, you see a couple where one of them is checking another passerby out. What are your thoughts?
- A.
  If I were her I would dump his ass! Totally unacceptable.
- B.
  Oh my God, I hope she didn't see that. If that were my partner, I would be thinking whether she was hotter than me and what is it that she has that I don't have.
- C.
  I am all for this, it is just a look any way. It's not like he asked for her number! She DOES look incredible so I can't fault him really.
- D.
  This is totally such MALE behaviour ergh. What can you do?
11.
You have a crucial work commitment coming up but it is also your new partner's birthday on the same day. What do you do?
- A.
  Missing birthdays was a no go in my last relationships. I will ask him what he thinks and then make a decision.
- B.
  This is a no brainer - work will always come first. My partner will understand and he won't mind me making it up to him on a different day.
- C.
  So easy! Cancel my work commitment - my clients love and understand me. They will be totally fine if we work together to try and find a suitable date to change our commitment to.
- D.
  Tricky one - if I can do both on the same day then I will make it happen!

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Your main blocker in love is…YOUR EX
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Do you find yourself comparing a relationship from your past with everyone you encounter? Do you feel like you never got the closure you deserved and re-hash the break up in your head over and over? Are you bringing their name up in new relationships even when it is irrelevant to do so? Are you secretly hoping that you will get back together with them in the future?Chances are pretty good that your main blocker in love are your unresolved feelings towards your ex.But honestly, don’t feel bad. Literally every woman on the planet struggles with this at some point in their lives. So you are 100% not alone. It is almost a rite of passage.When you feel overtired, stressed, and mentally drained, the last thing you want to do is finish your homework, pack for your trip, or clean the whole house – so you put it off until later.But eventually, later becomes now, and sometimes, it even becomes too late.Healing from past hurts in former relationships is critical in moving towards your relationship goals. Many times we are unaware of the resentment we still harbour for partnerships that have ended, even if we are the ones that did the dumping - it still can feel like a personal failure to us which unless we process correctly, we internalise as meaning there is something inherently bad/wrong about us. Energetically, the message we signal to others and the universe is that you ultimately do not deserve to move on and find a happy relationship because you are not a good partner and/or are unable to select someone suitable for yourself. This, of course, is a limiting belief that we have decided to make true for ourselves. Understand that every single relationship that you experience was put in your path as part of your soul's journey here on Earth. Every single person you have had an intimate encounter with has been part of your soul's growth - yep...even the most disastrous ones. And when we are in the mode of "one day we will be together again" and you hold that vibration strongly in your aura, the universe cannot physically put another a person in your heart because that space is already occupied!See that self-fulfilling cycle ready to repeat itself?Luckily, there are some ways to retrain yourself from self-sabotage to successGRIEVE YOUR PAST FULLYAsk yourself if you have truly grieved the relationship fully. There is never a right amount of time for someone to grieve a relationship so only you can answer this question. An adequate grieving process will involve you coming to terms with your new single status and being grounded in the fact you are never alone, because you get to have an eternal relationship with yourself - the best one of all. FORGIVE, FORGIVE, FORGIVEIt also involves truly forgiving your ex partner for the part they played in the breakdown in the relationship as well as looking inwards to see how you also contributed to the failure of the relationship as well. Remember that this a very long life we are all living. REWIRE YOUR BRAIN TO SEE THE BLESSINGS IN BREAKUPSNobody expects anyone to be continuously be in a relationship their entire life - otherwise how else would we all grow? When you can objectively look at both of your flaws and release your negative emotions towards them you will be appropriately be practising the divine art of detachment and freeing yourself from this block."We must be willing to let go of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." – Joseph CampbellExhale Self-Sabotage...Inhale Deep, Fulfilling Love...If you want to stop blocking the love you deserve from manifesting in your life, the key is to understand why you are subconsciously preventing it from coming in — what need is it filling?Then apply a little creativity to identify healthier, happier, and more productive ways to meet those needs.Here’s a simple guide to help you begin the journey of rewriting your programming when it comes to your love life:Self-Awareness is everything and just by taking the quiz, you prove that you are already on the right track!1. Inventory – Reflect back and get curious about your own past romantic experiences. What does this particular block look like?How does it typically start to manifest?Call yourself out - are there any unhealthy patterns you have that contribute to your negative experiences in love? Where do you think these originate from?We are often so busy looking at the external circumstances of a situation that ends up not working out for us. We forget that a lot of the core contributing factors to our success in love are wounds that have occurred long before our adulthood and sometimes before we even hit adolescence.2. Challenge – Once you have recognised where some of your beliefs have been affecting your results in love, it’s time to ask the next important question...are you ready to decide that love gets to work differently for you from now on?By subconsciously pushing love away, your psyche is protecting you from what it understands to be a perceived threat.So ask yourself what your current beliefs about love ‘do’ for you – do they keep you safe from ever getting hurt in love again? Do they keep you safe from repeating the same kind of relationships that you saw in your household growing up? Do they allow you to never have to depend on anyone and therefore safe from ever being abandoned? Do they keep you from getting to close to anyone and them discovering who you really are?3. Decide your future – This is the fun part where you get to choose your next adventure!Once you’ve done all of the reflection work above you can do the fun work of making a new pattern, one that serves you . Attracting deeply fulfilling, healthy love is not about being perfect. It is about learning how to integrate both your light and shadow attributes in order to help you grow with confidence and heal from the core outwards.Think about who you really want to be – and start aligning your actions to the potential of having a successful professional life AND having an equally fulfilling love life. Use affirmations to help with this reprogramming and make the inner commitment that your past experience with love to date stops having any power over your future.Listen to my anahata / heart chakra healing meditation to help you re-align yourself to the new person you are stepping into.⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️LISTEN NOWThis guided meditation is focusing on healing our heart chakra which can become wounded when we are suffering from rejection, abuse, heart break, depression, loss, grief as well as other issues. Most importantly, be compassionate. Re-wiring your brain can take time and it is supposed to. This is how our brain was designed. It takes us all a while to learn a new habit! This is because our beautiful brains are setting the foundations internally and reconnecting to new pathways in order for this new habit to not only make sense for us but also to become an automatic, ingrained thought process. That is to say, if you see yourself falling back into old habits from time to time, this is totally expected. This does not mean that you have ruined your chances in changing how love gets to work for you. Remember to stop and show yourself compassion DAILY. Recognise that you’re trying, and remind yourself of why these patterns didn’t actually work for you before – then give yourself the time, encouragement and the opportunity to create a new reality.This work takes time, and sometimes you need outside help to guide you down a more aligned path. You will need to ask yourself what stage of your journey you are currently in. Do you need to reach out for additional support?Introducing Rachel Rose...London-native Rachel Rose is a certified Relationship and Boundaries Life Coach qualified in various energy healing modalities.Rachel enables women to demystify the dating scene and attract the partners that they deserve without compromising on quality or wasting any of their precious time. With her unique combo of psychology, neuroscience and energy healing, she mentors highly successful, spiritually-inclined entrepreneurs (as well as corporate ladder climbers) through their journey to attract their equal in love and ultimately, live the feminine dream.Rachel is currently studying for her Master’s degree in Neuroscience and Psychology to further enhance her understanding of the human mind and better support her clients on their path to finding their partner in crime. Challenge Your Ways!Check out these helpful resources to help you change the dating game FOR GOOD!1. Follow Rachel on Instagram. From psychology tips and dating hacks, to relatable reels and Q&A Lives, @IamRachel.Rose is an interactive resource to find compassionate help as you continue on your path to magnetising your co-pilot.2. Listen to Rachel's Instagram live interview on the relationship between Love and Money Mindset where she shares her passion for helping women unlock their potential in love with one quick perspective shift: WATCH NOW. 3. Want guidance on how to use your results to call in the love you deserve THIS YEAR? Book a consultation with Rachel. She’ll not only assess where you are right now on your journey, she’ll look at the kind of love life you wish to design for yourself and she'll work together with you to plan who you can magnetise this into your world with ease - regardless of how many disappoints you have had in the past!Get To Know YourselfNow that you've got some insight into what has been blocking love, keep an eye on your inbox for a Dating Mindset Shift Strategy based around your quiz results.Over the next week, Rachel will share with you more positive pattern building tips and tell you more about how to create a powerful recipe for personal success in love for this year and BEYOND.“Remember, love is still and will always be... the highest vibration.”― Rachel Rose
2.
Your main blocker in love is…YOUR SENSE OF SELF WORTH
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Do you find yourself thinking that the idea of settling down with someone who is just as successful as you, attractive, caring, committed and loving is too far fetched? Do you find yourself saying things like "love isn't real" or "dating is a joke nowadays"? Do you feel like you will be forced to date down for the rest of your life because you cannot seem to find the kind of partner you know will enrich your life? Are you already labelling yourself as the lonely cat lady or the forever single, rich aunt to your friends and family?Chances are pretty good that your main blocker in love is around your own self worth around what you believe you deserve to receive.There is deep work to be done regarding how you view yourself - namely how much you allow negative past experiences and other people's opinions influence your own value. What we need to remember always is that all of us are all projecting our own version of reality on to other people and this changes on a day to day basis. In fact, so many factors in a day can change how we view other people : from how much sleep we get each night, to how consistent our spiritual practice is, to the food we eat not to mention all of the long term contributors to our own views of the world and how it works. When this is a key blocker for someone, somewhere down the line our version of what love is and what an external version of what love is have collided and caused us to doubt our self worth all together.I don’t think it’s hard to see why this is self-sabotaging.As a result of constantly comparing ourselves with ideal versions of what love should be, we end up creating a dynamic where energetically we are telling the universe: I am not even worthy of that kind of high value connection. Please send it somewhere else. This, of course, is a limiting belief that we have decided to make true for ourselves. Likewise, when you are trying on new clothes and ask for someone's opinion, if for example you don't feel good in your body then it doesn't matter how many compliments your friends give you, you’ll never be able to accept them because of the deep-rooted beliefs you have about yourself.And those beliefs are internalised, too.When you’ve had multiple experiences where someone has called out something personal about you as the main contributor to the failure of a relationship, this can have devastating affects on our self esteem. Even though you tried hard in that relationship, it can be easy to believe that you will ALWAYS fail, no matter how hard you try or who you attract.When you keep selecting the option of NOT believing that regardless of any failed relationship, you get to be a high value woman, you will keep your old, comfortable beliefs… but at what cost?Luckily, there are some ways to retrain yourself from self-sabotage to successBURN, BABY, BURN!Make a list of all the beliefs you have about love in a journal and do not stop writing until your hand falls off! These can be regarding past/current relationships as well as thoughts and beliefs you have adopted throughout your life about love. When you have a full list of all of those beliefs, take time to read through all of them and pay attention to how your body responds to each statement you have written. Do you feel a tightness in your throat? Is there a sinking feeling in your chest? Perhaps there's a knot in your stomach? All of these signals are your intuition telling you that your thoughts around love are actually poisoning your spirit, rather than supporting it. In a safe environment, take your written beliefs and burn them all to ashes! This will symbolise your release of letting go of these thoughts that have done nothing but kept you falsely safe.FORGIVE, FORGIVE, FORGIVEIt also involves truly forgiving yourself for having these beliefs and also for the people who have indirectly or directly projected their ideologies about love on to you. We must remember that all of us are on our separate journeys and healing will look different for all of us. You can make the decision today that only you will get to decide what is possible for you without the need of outside validation.INCREASE YOUR VALUE AND ADD TAXNow that you have done some energetic clearing of your previous thought patterns, it is time to replace them with real truths about how much of a high value woman you really are. Make a list of ALL of your strengths and accomplishments throughout your entire life. Recall all the times that you have completely done a 180 in life with nobody to support you but yourself. Understand that you are a WHOLE FORCE all by yourself. You are already worthy on your own. Raising your vibration in this way automatically makes you more of a match for someone who vibrates on the same level. No more settling for less because you can only reflect the energy that you exude. TAKE BACK YOUR POWERAs women, we regularly give our power away when we say things like "there are no suitable partners available". Create a list of non-negotiables so that the tables are turned i.e. it is YOU that gets to decide who gets to be with YOU - not the other way around.“People do not seem to realise that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character.” — Ralph Waldo EmmersonExhale Self-Sabotage...Inhale Deep, Fulfilling Love...If you want to stop blocking the love you deserve from manifesting in your life, the key is to understand why you are subconsciously preventing it from coming in — what need is it filling?Then apply a little creativity to identify healthier, happier, and more productive ways to meet those needs.Here’s a simple guide to help you begin the journey of rewriting your programming when it comes to your love life:Self-Awareness is everything and just by taking the quiz, you prove that you are already on the right track!1. Inventory – Reflect back and get curious about your own past romantic experiences. What does this particular block look like?How does it typically start to manifest?Call yourself out - are there any unhealthy patterns you have that contribute to your negative experiences in love? Where do you think these originate from?We are often so busy looking at the external circumstances of a situation that ends up not working out for us. We forget that a lot of the core contributing factors to our success in love are wounds that have occurred long before our adulthood and sometimes before we even hit adolescence.2. Challenge – Once you have recognised where some of your beliefs have been affecting your results in love, it’s time to ask the next important question...are you ready to decide that love gets to work differently for you from now on?By subconsciously pushing love away, your psyche is protecting you from what it understands to be a perceived threat.So ask yourself what your current beliefs about love ‘do’ for you – do they keep you safe from ever getting hurt in love again? Do they keep you safe from repeating the same kind of relationships that you saw in your household growing up? Do they allow you to never have to depend on anyone and therefore safe from ever being abandoned? Do they keep you from getting to close to anyone and them discovering who you really are?3. Decide your future – This is the fun part where you get to choose your next adventure!Once you’ve done all of the reflection work above you can do the fun work of making a new pattern, one that serves you . Attracting deeply fulfilling, healthy love is not about being perfect. It is about learning how to integrate both your light and shadow attributes in order to help you grow with confidence and heal from the core outwards.Think about who you really want to be – and start aligning your actions to the potential of having a successful professional life AND having an equally fulfilling love life. Use affirmations to help with this reprogramming and make the inner commitment that your past experience with love to date stops having any power over your future.Listen to my anahata / heart chakra healing meditation to help you re-align yourself to the new person you are stepping into.⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️LISTEN NOWThis guided meditation is focusing on healing our heart chakra which can become wounded when we are suffering from rejection, abuse, heart break, depression, loss, grief as well as other issues. Most importantly, be compassionate. Re-wiring your brain can take time and it is supposed to. This is how our brain was designed. It takes us all a while to learn a new habit! This is because our beautiful brains are setting the foundations internally and reconnecting to new pathways in order for this new habit to not only make sense for us but also to become an automatic, ingrained thought process. That is to say, if you see yourself falling back into old habits from time to time, this is totally expected. This does not mean that you have ruined your chances in changing how love gets to work for you. Remember to stop and show yourself compassion DAILY. Recognise that you’re trying, and remind yourself of why these patterns didn’t actually work for you before – then give yourself the time, encouragement and the opportunity to create a new reality.This work takes time, and sometimes you need outside help to guide you down a more aligned path. You will need to ask yourself what stage of your journey you are currently in. Do you need to reach out for additional support?Introducing Rachel Rose...London-native Rachel Rose is a certified Relationship and Boundaries Life Coach qualified in various energy healing modalities.Rachel enables women to demystify the dating scene and attract the partners that they deserve without compromising on quality or wasting any of their precious time. With her unique combo of psychology, neuroscience and energy healing, she mentors highly successful, spiritually-inclined entrepreneurs (as well as corporate ladder climbers) through their journey to attract their equal in love and ultimately, live the feminine dream.Rachel is currently studying for her Master’s degree in Neuroscience and Psychology to further enhance her understanding of the human mind and better support her clients on their path to finding their partner in crime. Challenge Your Ways!Check out these helpful resources to help you change the dating game FOR GOOD!1. Follow Rachel on Instagram. From psychology tips and dating hacks, to relatable reels and Q&A Lives, @IamRachel.Rose is an interactive resource to find compassionate help as you continue on your path to magnetising your co-pilot.2. Listen to Rachel's Instagram live interview on the relationship between Love and Money Mindset where she shares her passion for helping women unlock their potential in love with one quick perspective shift: WATCH NOW. 3. Want guidance on how to use your results to call in the love you deserve THIS YEAR? Book a consultation with Rachel. She’ll not only assess where you are right now on your journey, she’ll look at the kind of love life you wish to design for yourself and she'll work together with you to plan who you can magnetise this into your world with ease - regardless of how many disappoints you have had in the past!Get To Know YourselfNow that you've got some insight into what has been blocking love, keep an eye on your inbox for a Dating Mindset Shift Strategy based around your quiz results.Over the next week, Rachel will share with you more positive pattern building tips and tell you more about how to create a powerful recipe for personal success in love for this year and BEYOND.“Remember, love is still and will always be... the highest vibration.”― Rachel Rose
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Your main blocker in love are…YOUR COMMITMENT ISSUES
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Do you find yourself thinking that the idea of settling down with someone is a waste of time? Do you find yourself complaining about not getting dates and then when you do get one, you tend to cancel last minute or not agree to go all together? Do you find yourself getting the ick with men quite easily and getting completely turned off before you fully get to know them? Are you quick to block someone if you feel that they are no longer as interested in you as they were before?Chances are pretty good that your main blocker in love is around your commitment issues.When you find yourself finding reasons as to why you do not have time for love in general or a specific person, the usual reason is because there is a lot of fear surrounding what you think it means to be in a relationship. These issues stem from a deep feeling of wanting to escape deep connections or avoid them all together so that you are never the one who has to face disappointment or rejection.Constantly being and doing everything you can to keep love out of your life as a coping mechanism can take a real toll on your mental health.And when you put too much emphasis on avoiding closeness with others, instead of protecting yourself, you are preventing yourself from healing what is at the core of this need to keep people at bay.Consequently, it makes it almost impossible to establish healthy personal boundaries but also any kind of relationship. This is because our lives work just like our brains. Many years ago, scientists believed that the human brain worked in siloed areas. Now we know that this is not true and that all regions of the brain work inter-connectively together in order to execute different functions in harmony with one another. Similarly, one belief system in one area of our lives has the power to poison every other area of our lives if we do not address negative patterns.A fear of commitment provides a false sense of self importance that actually masks the fact that we are choosing to put our happiness last. This subconsciously elevates our stress levels. Too much stress = increased cortisol levels = inflammation and weakened immune system.So yes, this kind of dynamic can overwork your nervous system into sickness.So how does someone with a chronic fear of commitment take back control of their life?GET ATTACHED TO ATTACHMENT STYLESMake learning about attachment styles your new thing for this year, and particularly, find out what attachment style you currently have right now. Our attachment style is a reflection of the level of safety we perceive relationships to be as a whole but they can be altered if we enter a relationship with someone who influences this change. Once you understand which one aligns to you, you can then start doing the work to find out what your triggers are that activate you into fight-or-flight mode in love.RECOGNISE THAT THOUGHTS ARE NOT FACTSThere are many reasons why someone could develop a fear of commitment but usually they all stem from the belief that everything you think, is in fact real. Attachment styles are critical to learn about in order to attract and keep healthy relationships. But so is mastering the art of detachment when it comes to our thought processes. When we cling to things in our mind and call them absolute truths without having solid proof that they are so, we set ourselves up for failure, and in love, to be chronically alone. Someone with a fear of commitment is likely to experience intrusive thoughts that tell them that this person and situation are no good for them because of XYZ. Create a habit of challenging the thoughts that come up - can you really be sure they are true? Is this opinion you hold about a person or situation a justifiable reason to abort mission entirely?MORE MINDFULNESS REQUIREDNow that you have studied a bit more about your attachment style and are actively looking at your thoughts as thoughts rather than unfallible, concrete evidence , you can move on to the next step. Practice mindfulness like your life depended on it. That is to say, submerge yourself in a scenario where you are basically baptised in mindfulness day in and day out. A common option is to book a yoga and/or meditation retreat. This doesn't have to be an entire year long Eat Pray Love adventure - in fact, a retreat as short as 3-5 days has the power to completely transform your life. The power of retreats like this is that you will develop spiritual habits that will feel so natural to implement into your every day life once you are home. Instead of it feeling like something 'new' to incorporate, it will feel like breathing. Mindfulness practices will teach you to sit with the uncomfortable feeling you get when you are ready to check out of a situation completely. With plenty of practice, sensations that once felt unbearable will feel gradually easier to deal with until that instinct to 'run away' no longer has such a strong hold over you.“Hope never abandons you, you abandon it.” – George WeinbergExhale Self-Sabotage...Inhale Deep, Fulfilling Love...If you want to stop blocking the love you deserve from manifesting in your life, the key is to understand why you are subconsciously preventing it from coming in — what need is it filling?Then apply a little creativity to identify healthier, happier, and more productive ways to meet those needs.Here’s a simple guide to help you begin the journey of rewriting your programming when it comes to your love life:Self-Awareness is everything and just by taking the quiz, you prove that you are already on the right track!1. Inventory – Reflect back and get curious about your own past romantic experiences. What does this particular block look like?How does it typically start to manifest?Call yourself out - are there any unhealthy patterns you have that contribute to your negative experiences in love? Where do you think these originate from?We are often so busy looking at the external circumstances of a situation that ends up not working out for us. We forget that a lot of the core contributing factors to our success in love are wounds that have occurred long before our adulthood and sometimes before we even hit adolescence.2. Challenge – Once you have recognised where some of your beliefs have been affecting your results in love, it’s time to ask the next important question...are you ready to decide that love gets to work differently for you from now on?By subconsciously pushing love away, your psyche is protecting you from what it understands to be a perceived threat.So ask yourself what your current beliefs about love ‘do’ for you – do they keep you safe from ever getting hurt in love again? Do they keep you safe from repeating the same kind of relationships that you saw in your household growing up? Do they allow you to never have to depend on anyone and therefore safe from ever being abandoned? Do they keep you from getting to close to anyone and them discovering who you really are?3. Decide your future – This is the fun part where you get to choose your next adventure!Once you’ve done all of the reflection work above you can do the fun work of making a new pattern, one that serves you . Attracting deeply fulfilling, healthy love is not about being perfect. It is about learning how to integrate both your light and shadow attributes in order to help you grow with confidence and heal from the core outwards.Think about who you really want to be – and start aligning your actions to the potential of having a successful professional life AND having an equally fulfilling love life. Use affirmations to help with this reprogramming and make the inner commitment that your past experience with love to date stops having any power over your future.Listen to my anahata / heart chakra healing meditation to help you re-align yourself to the new person you are stepping into.⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️LISTEN NOWThis guided meditation is focusing on healing our heart chakra which can become wounded when we are suffering from rejection, abuse, heart break, depression, loss, grief as well as other issues. Most importantly, be compassionate. Re-wiring your brain can take time and it is supposed to. This is how our brain was designed. It takes us all a while to learn a new habit! This is because our beautiful brains are setting the foundations internally and reconnecting to new pathways in order for this new habit to not only make sense for us but also to become an automatic, ingrained thought process. That is to say, if you see yourself falling back into old habits from time to time, this is totally expected. This does not mean that you have ruined your chances in changing how love gets to work for you. Remember to stop and show yourself compassion DAILY. Recognise that you’re trying, and remind yourself of why these patterns didn’t actually work for you before – then give yourself the time, encouragement and the opportunity to create a new reality.This work takes time, and sometimes you need outside help to guide you down a more aligned path. You will need to ask yourself what stage of your journey you are currently in. Do you need to reach out for additional support?Introducing Rachel Rose...London-native Rachel Rose is a certified Relationship and Boundaries Life Coach qualified in various energy healing modalities.Rachel enables women to demystify the dating scene and attract the partners that they deserve without compromising on quality or wasting any of their precious time. With her unique combo of psychology, neuroscience and energy healing, she mentors highly successful, spiritually-inclined entrepreneurs (as well as corporate ladder climbers) through their journey to attract their equal in love and ultimately, live the feminine dream.Rachel is currently studying for her Master’s degree in Neuroscience and Psychology to further enhance her understanding of the human mind and better support her clients on their path to finding their partner in crime. Challenge Your Ways!Check out these helpful resources to help you change the dating game FOR GOOD!1. Follow Rachel on Instagram. From psychology tips and dating hacks, to relatable reels and Q&A Lives, @IamRachel.Rose is an interactive resource to find compassionate help as you continue on your path to magnetising your co-pilot.2. Listen to Rachel's Instagram live interview on the relationship between Love and Money Mindset where she shares her passion for helping women unlock their potential in love with one quick perspective shift: WATCH NOW. 3. Want guidance on how to use your results to call in the love you deserve THIS YEAR? Book a consultation with Rachel. She’ll not only assess where you are right now on your journey, she’ll look at the kind of love life you wish to design for yourself and she'll work together with you to plan who you can magnetise this into your world with ease - regardless of how many disappoints you have had in the past!Get To Know YourselfNow that you've got some insight into what has been blocking love, keep an eye on your inbox for a Dating Mindset Shift Strategy based around your quiz results.Over the next week, Rachel will share with you more positive pattern building tips and tell you more about how to create a powerful recipe for personal success in love for this year and BEYOND.“Remember, love is still and will always be... the highest vibration.”― Rachel Rose
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Your main blocker in love are…YOUR PEOPLE-PLEASING TENDENCIES
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Do you find yourself double messaging when you don't receive a reply fast enough? Do you find yourself doing a lot of the leg work in relationships like initiating most of the conversation and planning most of the dates? Perhaps you are quick to accept last minute dates even when it means that you may have to rearrange your own prior commitments? Maybe you choose to not call out bad behaviour early in the relationship or at all in order to avoid conflict? Are you likely to get on a plane to another city, state or country just to be with this person even if the relationship is too premature for this kind of commitment?Chances are pretty good that your main blocker in love are your people-pleasing tendencies.The beautiful thing about this blocker is that this is usually a blocker that someone with an enormous heart has. You are likely someone who is an absolutely amazing friend and family member who would do anything for the people you love. The issue this brings in dating and relationships is that this can translate into loving the other person more than you love yourself. The keyword in ALL relationships is BALANCE. Without this, our expectations of others becomes warped and tainted as we continue to give and give until there is nothing of us left. It is little wonder why so many women walk away resentful after ending a relationship where they felt they gave their everything only to have received a small percentage of the love they provided in return.The dark side of people pleasing is that it is a subconscious type of control. By acting a certain way, the deep belief is that you will 'earn' someone's love and they will give you all the love that you believe you have always deserved. The truth of the matter is, this rarely works in the long term. This is because people-pleasing has a low vibration that all of us are capable of detecting. It can become clear to another person that you are not loving them 100% from a genuine place and you are in fact acting in order to reach a specific outcome. In situations where we have 'overgiven' and someone ends up being no longer interested in us, it is key to note that it was not our actions alone. It is actually due to the fact that we were so willing to give so much when that other person is well aware that they don't deserve all of this energy from you. They know that they have not treated you half as good. As a result, this brings up fear within them and they back off from the situation as a coping mechanism - this translates as what we all know as ghosting. Constantly being and doing everything you can to keep love in your life whether it is reciprocated or not, is a coping mechanism that can take a real toll on your mental health.And when you put too much emphasis on pleasing others, you ultimately abandon yourself and your own needs time and time again.People pleasing provides a false sense of achievement and safety - it is subconsciously used to overcompensate for something we feel is inherently unlovable about us. When someone does not buy into our perfect behaviour and abandons us even though we apparently did everything right, this subconsciously elevates our stress levels. Too much stress = increased cortisol levels = inflammation and weakened immune system.So how does someone with people pleasing tendencies reverse this habit to start attracting healthy love?GET ATTACHED TO ATTACHMENT STYLESMake learning about attachment styles your new thing for this year, and particularly, find out what attachment style you currently have right now. Our attachment style is a reflection of the level of safety we perceive relationship to be as a whole but they can be altered if we enter a relationship with someone who influences this change. Once you understand which one aligns to you, you can then start doing the work to find out what your triggers your need to over-compensate in love.ALLOW OTHERS TO BE THEIR AUTHENTIC SELVESPeople pleasing is a way to control people and their behaviour in relationships. By acting like the perfect partner regardless of their behaviour, it leaves little room for them to show you their authentic selves. Often we jump into saviour/caretaker mode when we are fearful that a relationship won't work out. As a result, our people pleasing ways can create an illusion that a relationship is going better than it is. Make a habit of trying to take the back seat and learning to be comfortable with a relationship not working out. When we enter a relationship with this energy, this is highly attractive as the other person not only gets to show you more of themselves at a steady pace but they also get the message that you don't need the relationship to work. You are a whole person as you are and your happiness is not dependent on a successful outcome with them.MORE MINDFULNESS REQUIREDNow that you have studied a bit more about your attachment style and are actively looking at your thoughts as thoughts rather than unfallible, concrete evidence , you can move on to the next step. Practice mindfulness like your life depended on it. That is to say, submerge yourself in a scenario where you are basically baptised in mindfulness day in and day out. A common option is to book a yoga and/or meditation retreat. This doesn't have to be an entire year long Eat Pray Love adventure - in fact, a retreat as short as 3-5 days has the power to complete transform your life. The power of retreats like this is that you will develop spiritual habits that will feel so natural to implement into your every day life once you are home. Instead of it feeling like something 'new' to incorporate, it will feel like breathing. Mindfulness will help heal the impulse to overcompensate in a relationship. With plenty of practice, sensations that once felt unbearable will feel easier and easier to deal with until that instinct to be both parties in a relationship feel like they have subsided substantially. By making tuning into your own inner spirit a priority, you will soon realise that the most important love of all is the love you can give yourself. “The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.” – Ernest HemingwayExhale Self-Sabotage...Inhale Deep, Fulfilling Love...If you want to stop blocking the love you deserve from manifesting in your life, the key is to understand why you are subconsciously preventing it from coming in — what need is it filling?Then apply a little creativity to identify healthier, happier, and more productive ways to meet those needs.Here’s a simple guide to help you begin the journey of rewriting your programming when it comes to your love life:Self-Awareness is everything and just by taking the quiz, you prove that you are already on the right track!1. Inventory – Reflect back and get curious about your own past romantic experiences. What does this particular block look like?How does it typically start to manifest?Call yourself out - are there any unhealthy patterns you have that contribute to your negative experiences in love? Where do you think these originate from?We are often so busy looking at the external circumstances of a situation that ends up not working out for us. We forget that a lot of the core contributing factors to our success in love are wounds that have occurred long before our adulthood and sometimes before we even hit adolescence.2. Challenge – Once you have recognised where some of your beliefs have been affecting your results in love, it’s time to ask the next important question...are you ready to decide that love gets to work differently for you from now on?By subconsciously pushing love away, your psyche is protecting you from what it understands to be a perceived threat.So ask yourself what your current beliefs about love ‘do’ for you – do they keep you safe from ever getting hurt in love again? Do they keep you safe from repeating the same kind of relationships that you saw in your household growing up? Do they allow you to never have to depend on anyone and therefore safe from ever being abandoned? Do they keep you from getting to close to anyone and them discovering who you really are?3. Decide your future – This is the fun part where you get to choose your next adventure!Once you’ve done all of the reflection work above you can do the fun work of making a new pattern, one that serves you . Attracting deeply fulfilling, healthy love is not about being perfect. It is about learning how to integrate both your light and shadow attributes in order to help you grow with confidence and heal from the core outwards.Think about who you really want to be – and start aligning your actions to the potential of having a successful professional life AND having an equally fulfilling love life. Use affirmations to help with this reprogramming and make the inner commitment that your past experience with love to date stops having any power over your future.Listen to my anahata / heart chakra healing meditation to help you re-align yourself to the new person you are stepping into.⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️LISTEN NOWThis guided meditation is focusing on healing our heart chakra which can become wounded when we are suffering from rejection, abuse, heart break, depression, loss, grief as well as other issues. Most importantly, be compassionate. Re-wiring your brain can take time and it is supposed to. This is how our brain was designed. It takes us all a while to learn a new habit! This is because our beautiful brains are setting the foundations internally and reconnecting to new pathways in order for this new habit to not only make sense for us but also to become an automatic, ingrained thought process. That is to say, if you see yourself falling back into old habits from time to time, this is totally expected. This does not mean that you have ruined your chances in changing how love gets to work for you. Remember to stop and show yourself compassion DAILY. Recognise that you’re trying, and remind yourself of why these patterns didn’t actually work for you before – then give yourself the time, encouragement and the opportunity to create a new reality.This work takes time, and sometimes you need outside help to guide you down a more aligned path. You will need to ask yourself what stage of your journey you are currently in. Do you need to reach out for additional support?Introducing Rachel Rose...London-native Rachel Rose is a certified Relationship and Boundaries Life Coach qualified in various energy healing modalities.Rachel enables women to demystify the dating scene and attract the partners that they deserve without compromising on quality or wasting any of their precious time. With her unique combo of psychology, neuroscience and energy healing, she mentors highly successful, spiritually-inclined entrepreneurs (as well as corporate ladder climbers) through their journey to attract their equal in love and ultimately, live the feminine dream.Rachel is currently studying for her Master’s degree in Neuroscience and Psychology to further enhance her understanding of the human mind and better support her clients on their path to finding their partner in crime. Challenge Your Ways!Check out these helpful resources to help you change the dating game FOR GOOD!1. Follow Rachel on Instagram. From psychology tips and dating hacks, to relatable reels and Q&A Lives, @IamRachel.Rose is an interactive resource to find compassionate help as you continue on your path to magnetising your co-pilot.2. Listen to Rachel's Instagram live interview on the relationship between Love and Money Mindset where she shares her passion for helping women unlock their potential in love with one quick perspective shift: WATCH NOW. 3. Want guidance on how to use your results to call in the love you deserve THIS YEAR? Book a consultation with Rachel. She’ll not only assess where you are right now on your journey, she’ll look at the kind of love life you wish to design for yourself and she'll work together with you to plan who you can magnetise this into your world with ease - regardless of how many disappoints you have had in the past!Get To Know YourselfNow that you've got some insight into what has been blocking love, keep an eye on your inbox for a Dating Mindset Shift Strategy based around your quiz results.Over the next week, Rachel will share with you more positive pattern building tips and tell you more about how to create a powerful recipe for personal success in love for this year and BEYOND.“Remember, love is still and will always be... the highest vibration.”― Rachel Rose