How do you picture meeting your future intended parents (IPs) for the first time?
A.
I’d prefer a bit of help finding the right match – maybe an agency or a matching service to point me in the right direction.
B.
I’d like to check out a bunch of profiles first, get a feel for who’s out there before making any decisions.
C.
Talking to different IPs for a while, really getting to know them, is important for me to feel that connection.
D.
I’m holding out for that special story or connection that just feels right. You know, something that really speaks to me and moves me.
3.
What’s your favorite source to get up to speed on surrogacy?
A.
Hearing real stories and advice from surrogates who've been there, done that – that’s my go-to.
B.
I like the idea of an agency guiding me through – they know their stuff, and I feel more secure that way.
C.
I’m the type to dig deep on my own, reading up all I can to get the full picture.
D.
I’m okay figuring things out as I move along the journey. It’s a learn-on-the-job kind of deal for me.
4.
Around the corner or around the world - ideally, where would your IPs live?
A.
I'd love for my IPs to be local. It'd be great to have them nearby, maybe even popping in for appointments or being there quickly if needed. It feels more personal and connected, and it’s simpler for things like hospital visits or milk sharing.
B.
I'm thinking domestic IPs would be best. It’s important that we avoid too many complications like big time differences or language barriers. Plus, it's easier for them to be part of key moments without the stress of international travel.
C.
I'm open to or even excited about the idea of international IPs. It brings a cool cross-cultural aspect to the journey, and I'm comfortable with long-distance communication. Language differences don't bother me; I see it as a chance to connect with people from different backgrounds.
D.
Honestly, I'm okay with any location. Whether they're around the corner or across the globe, what matters more to me is the kind of people they are and our mutual understanding. The journey’s vibe and connection are more important than geography.
5.
What’s your style for learning all the surrogacy ins and outs?
A.
I learn best chatting directly with people, getting that personal insight and advice.
B.
Give me a short, sweet online course any day – quick, convenient learning is my jam.
C.
I’m all about Googling. If I have questions, the internet’s my go-to.
D.
I love absorbing info through podcasts. It’s an easy way to learn while I’m on the go.
E.
Social media’s great for this. I follow lots of surrogacy pages and groups to stay in the loop.
6.
You're halfway through the pregnancy and you start feeling some new cravings. What's your interaction with the IPs like?
A.
I'd probably share this fun update in our regular chats, maybe even joke about sending them some of my craving foods!
B.
Might mention it casually during our next conversation, just as a light-hearted update.
C.
I'd probably keep this to myself; it's not really relevant to our relationship, unless they specifically asked to know.
D.
Depends on our vibe at the time – could be a fun share or just a personal note.
7.
What’s your take on the financial aspect of surrogacy and working with IPs?
A.
I think it's better to have everything clear and upfront. Agencies make sure all the finances are handled professionally.
B.
I’m comfortable talking money directly with the IPs. It’s about being transparent and saving them some expenses.
C.
I'm open to discussing finances directly with IPs or having an agency handle it. It really depends on the situation.
D.
Money talks are tricky. I'm not sure if I’d rather handle it directly with the IPs or leave it to an agency.
8.
Imagine you’re at a big surrogacy milestone, like hearing the heartbeat for the first time. Who’s with you?
A.
I’m cool either way – with the IPs, on my own, or with my case manager.
B.
Totally seeing the IPs right there with me, sharing that incredible moment.
C.
I prefer to go to visits by myself. I’ll make sure to update the parents in my next email.
D.
It’d be nice if the IPs were there, but if they can’t make it I’d grab a video to send to them.
9.
You've just received some really exciting news. How do you share it?
A.
I’d probably grab dinner or have a small get-together with my close friends to share the excitement.
B.
It might be a big deal with friends and family, or I might just enjoy the moment quietly by myself. Either way, I’m soaking in the good vibes.
C.
I'm telling everyone about it! My family, friends, I'm even shouting it out on social media. It’s a celebration for everyone who’s a part of my life!
D.
I’d mention it to a couple of people close to me, but generally, I like to keep my personal excitement more low-key.
10.
Fast forward to after the birth: how do you picture your relationship with the IPs?
A.
Probably a ‘mission accomplished’ vibe, with maybe just the odd update if something big happens.
B.
Occasional updates would be cool, just to know how everyone's doing.
C.
I’m good with anything, whether we keep in touch or go our separate ways.
D.
Staying in the loop, maybe some baby pics now and then, feeling part of their extended family.
