Are you Insecurely Attached?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  How did your caregivers respond when you were upset or hurt?

  • A.
    They were consistently comforting and available.
  • B.
    They were sometimes available but other times emotionally distant.
  • C.
    They usually dismissed my feelings or told me to "there's nothing to be upset about."
  • D.
    I was unsure how they would respond, sometimes they were comforting, other times they were scary or unpredictable.
• 2.
  At the beginning of a relationship, what feelings do you have the most?

  • A.
    Feeling skeptical where you think, "He's doing good so far... I may have to continue to test him a bit to make sure he's not playing with me."
  • B.
    Feeling very anxious where you think, "How do I keep his attention? What if we don't like the same things? I hope I don't start getting on his nerves..."
  • C.
    Feeling confident where you think, "I like them! I am excited to see how my values align with his as our relationship develops, let's see how this goes!"
  • D.
    Feeling hopeful where you think, "Yes! I finally have someone to enjoy experiences with... I hope he continues to like me as he gets to know me more."
• 3.
  When your partner doesn't respond to your text or call right away, how do you react?

  • A.
    I try to distract myself until they get back to me... but I may check my phone a few times
  • B.
    It doesn't bother me; I trust they will get back to me when they can
  • C.
    I begin to imagine the worst-case scenarios and my anxiety can quickly escalate to anger
  • D.
    I am on edge but remind myself that sometimes it takes others longer to respond than others, even if I am waiting for an extended period of time
• 4.
  Do you find yourself worrying about if your partner still likes you?

  • A.
    Rarely, I feel secure and safe with the connection we have.
  • B.
    Not really...if they don't want me, I don't need them.
  • C.
    Honestly, more than I would like to admit. I do value their opinion and want to make them happy.
  • D.
    Sometimes, I become anxious and need reassurance.
• 5.
  How do you deal with conflict in your relationships?

  • A.
    I strive to understand both sides and find a common ground by I usually try to identify what they need to resolve the conflict.
  • B.
    I focus on clearly communicating with open vulnerability and deal with the conflict directly.
  • C.
    I. GO. OFF! Many times I suppress how I feel until I blow up. I try to be nice but they push me to the edge.
  • D.
    I often avoid conflict and express my feelings to keep the peace.
• 6.
  When you made a mistake, how did your caregivers react?

  • A.
    They were supportive and helped me understand what went wrong.
  • B.
    Sometimes they were understanding, but other times they seemed frustrated or cold.
  • C.
    They criticized or ignored me when I made a mistake.
  • D.
    Their reaction varied—they could be calm or erupt in anger depending on their mood.
• 7.
  What would you like to experience MORE in your friendships and relationships?

  • A.
    I want those close to me to be emotionally available and reassure me that they love me for me.
  • B.
    I don't want to feel so needy... I want to feel more confident and experience intimacy in my relationships.
  • C.
    I don't want to feel overwhelmed by someone's neediness, I want to enjoy having good times and shared laughs
  • D.
    I am currently enjoying the autonomy and support I get from my relationships. I feel very secure and loved majority of the time.
• 8.
  When you needed help or comfort, what was your instinct?

  • A.
    I felt confident asking for help and usually received it.
  • B.
    I would hesitate but eventually ask, unsure if they would respond.
  • C.
    I tried to handle things on my own to avoid bothering them.
  • D.
    I didn’t know how to approach them because their reactions were inconsistent.
• 9.
  I see people as...

  • A.
    Needing my support and help which can be very exhausting but I enjoy giving
  • B.
    Needing to be understood, given grace and if their need is met we can hopefully connect better
  • C.
    Human... Some I can connect with on certain levels but it does not stop me from being vulnerable with those I care for.
  • D.
    Unreliable, untrustworthy, or uncaring
• 10.
  Did your parents encourage you to explore the world and be independent?

  • A.
    Yes, they supported me but were always there when I needed help.
  • B.
    Sometimes they encouraged me, but they seemed hesitant or overprotective.
  • C.
    No, they expected me to handle things on my own.
  • D.
    Their encouragement was confusing—sometimes they pushed me away, and other times they kept me close without allowing me independence.
• 11.
  When thinking about the future of a relationship you usually feel...

  • A.
    Optimistic and secure about the future, knowing that me and my partner are committed and supportive
  • B.
    Worried about the future of the relationship, fearing rejection or abandonment at any moment
  • C.
    Doubtful or uncertain but overall, I believe in the strength of our connection
  • D.
    Anxious because I constantly find myself looking for reasons to pull away especially when they push to know me on a deeper level
• 12.
  When your parents disciplined you, how did you feel?

  • A.
    I felt understood and knew the consequences were fair.
  • B.
    I felt confused and unsure if they would be gentle or harsh.
  • C.
    I felt disconnected, like they didn’t care how I felt.
  • D.
    I felt scared, as their responses were unpredictable.
• 13.
  Which triggers you the most in relationships?

  • A.
    When I like there isn’t enough free time or space to be alone
  • B.
    When my partner lacks emotional expression or vulnerability because I desire to have emotional intimacy
  • C.
    When I do not get reassured about how my partner feels which turns into fear they are distancing themselves from me
  • D.
    Thinking my partner could leave at any moment and play a lot of "what ifs" in my head
• 14.
  In relationships, I find myself

  • A.
    Being overly invested in the happiness of those close to me which sometimes results in neglecting my own needs.
  • B.
    Wanting to be in a committed, loving relationship but having fears about being abandoned or emotional intimacy
  • C.
    Being less likely to jump into a serious relationship just because the option is there. I feel grounded and will wait to make sure I feel an emotional connection and we have compatibility
  • D.
    Finding it difficult to trust my partner even when they share positive loving emotions because I am so used to getting hurt.
• 15.
  How would you describe your caregivers’ overall emotional availability?

  • A.
    Consistently emotionally available and supportive.
  • B.
    Sometimes available, but often inconsistent.
  • C.
    Mostly unavailable or emotionally distant.
  • D.
    Unpredictable, sometimes loving but sometimes frightening or angry.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Confident & Growing Beauti

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  Your quiz outcome reveals you as a Confident & Growing Beauti. You exhibit a strong sense of self and are grounded in your emotions, needs, and life values. This confidence is key to maintaining balanced relationships. Based on your responses, it appears that you have a secure attachment style. Individuals with a secure attachment style generally feel comfortable with emotional intimacy, trust in relationships, and have a positive view of themselves and others. Here's a brief explanation of what a secure attachment means:A secure attachment style is characterized by a healthy balance between independence and intimacy. People with secure attachment feel secure in their relationships, have a positive self-image, and are confident in their ability to form and maintain healthy connections with others. They are comfortable expressing their needs, seeking support, and providing support to those around them.Ways to Continue Growing in Interpersonal Relationships and a Healthy Relationship with Self:1. Cultivate Emotional Intelligence: - Self-awareness: Continue to explore and understand your own emotions, triggers, and needs. Regularly check in with yourself to maintain a clear understanding of your emotional landscape.2. Effective Communication: - Expressing Needs: Practice assertive communication to express your needs, desires, and boundaries. Open and honest communication is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships and ensuring your emotional well-being.Personal growth is an ongoing process. Even with a secure attachment style, there are always opportunities to deepen your connections and strengthen your relationship with yourself. Continuously investing time and effort into understanding your emotions, communicating effectively, and nurturing positive relationships will contribute to your ongoing growth and fulfillment in both interpersonal connections and self-discovery.This is exactly what I will be educating and creating a safe space for you to process in my "Heal from Struggle Love" Therapy Group!**Disclaimer if for any reason you feel that your result was not spot on, schedule a FREE "Vibe Check with Jess" HERE to chat more about your relationships and how I can help.With that said, I'm here to help! If you are ready to prioritize your well-being and build the foundation for healthy, fulfilling relationships. Secure your spot in the "Heal from Struggle Love" therapy group TODAY!Register Now at The Beauti Clinic Therapy Portal and embark on a journey of healing, growth, and the transformation of your relationships. Your path to healthy attachment starts here!
• 2.
  Hopeful Romantic & Caring Beauti

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  Based on your responses, it appears that you may exhibit traits of a Hopeful Romantic & Caring Beauti (Disorganized), your results suggest find yourself being hopeful and disappointed when it comes to love.With this attachment style, you may be used to experiencing inconsistent or chaotic relationships. This conflicting dynamic can look like craving closeness and connection but fearing intimacy or emotional vulnerability as well as possibly struggling to trust others while simultaneously feeling dependent on them.This is a form of insecure attachment. You may find yourself engaging in compulsive caretaking and rescuing behaviors to feel close to another person. This can include trying to fix someone else’s problems or making excuses for their behavior instead of holding them This is a form of Insecure Attachment.You may find yourself engaging in compulsive caretaking and rescuing behaviors in order to feel close to another person. This can include, trying to fix someone else’s problems or making excuses for their behavior instead of holding them accountable. You may also experience going along with what other people want instead of speaking up for themselves. With this attachment style, you tend to crave closeness and intimacy, but may also worry excessively about the stability of your relationship. There may be a heightened sensitivity to signs of potential rejection or abandonment and a strong need for reassurance from partners.Ways to Continue Growing in Interpersonal Relationships and a Healthy Relationship with Self:1. Develop Secure Self-Image: - Practice Self-Compassion: Cultivate a compassionate and understanding relationship with yourself. Acknowledge and validate your emotions without judgment. Developing self-compassion can reduce reliance on external validation and increase your overall emotional well-being.2. Communication and Boundaries: - Express Needs Clearly: Practice clear and assertive communication with your partner or loved ones. Clearly express your needs, concerns, and feelings while maintaining a focus on healthy communication patterns.This is exactly what I will be educating and creating a safe space for you to process in my "Heal from Struggle Love" Therapy Group!**Disclaimer if for any reason you feel that your result was not spot on, schedule a FREE "Vibe Check with Jess" HERE to chat more about your relationships and how I can help.With that said, I'm here to help! If you are ready to prioritize your well-being and build the foundation for healthy, fulfilling relationships. Secure your spot in the "Heal from Struggle Love" therapy group TODAY!Register Now at The Beauti Clinic Therapy Portal and embark on a journey of healing, growth, and the transformation of your relationships. Your path to healthy attachment starts here!
• 3.
  Uncertain & Apprehensive Beauti

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  Based on your responses, it appears that you may exhibit traits of a Uncertain & Apprehensive Beauti, your results suggest you may struggle with trust, intimacy, and self-worth in your connections with others.This is a form of Insecure Attachment.With is attachment you may , wanting to be in a committed, loving relationship but having deep fears about being abandoned or deep intimacy. Even though they crave companionship, they can be perceived as wanting to avoid it, which makes relationship stability and longevity a challenge.Due to painful lived experiences, you are always waiting for the next rejection. You may find it difficult to trust your partner and likewise may even be fearful when they share positive loving emotions. At times you may project insecurities onto others, which subconsciously makes a situation more stressful. As a result, your outlook on yourself and others can often be negative.Lastly, intimacy in a relationship can be synonymous with vulnerability therefore, emotions can be seen as threatening. You may find yourself only willing to engage in casual intimacy because further commitment feels unsafe or will avoid intimacy as much as possible and then only engage to appease a partner.Ways to Continue Growing in Interpersonal Relationships and a Healthy Relationship with Self:1. Mindfulness and Emotional Regulation: - Build Emotional Regulation Skills & Deeper Emotional Intelligence: Learn and practice techniques for managing intense emotions. This might include deep breathing exercises, journaling, or other coping mechanisms. Developing emotional regulation skills can help you navigate relationships more effectively.2. Therapeutic Support: - Develop Deeper Self-awareness: Use therapy and self-reflection tools to enhance your self-awareness. Understand the impact of past experiences on your current behavior, thoughts, and emotions. This awareness is a crucial first step towards breaking negative patterns.Ultimately, by investing in your understanding of self and relationships, and getting professional support when needed to develop emotional regulation skills, you can work towards building healthier, more secure connections with both others and yourself.This is exactly what I will be educating and creating a safe space for you to process in my "Heal from Struggle Love" Therapy Group!**Disclaimer if for any reason you feel that your result was not spot on, schedule a FREE "Vibe Check with Jess" HERE to chat more about your relationships and how I can help.With that said, I'm here to help! If you are ready to prioritize your well-being and build the foundation for healthy, fulfilling relationships. Secure your spot in the "Heal from Struggle Love" therapy group TODAY!Register Now at The Beauti Clinic Therapy Portal and embark on a journey of healing, growth, and the transformation of your relationships. Your path to healthy attachment starts here!
• 4.
  Healing & Peace-seeking Beauti

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  Based on your responses, it appears that you may exhibit traits of a Healing & Peace-seeking Beauti (Anxious), Your results suggest that you often sacrifice your own wants and needs to fulfill the needs of those close to you. This can lead to feelings of resentment or even a sense that you are not appreciated. Many times, when you feel rejected or when your loved one fails to respond to your needs, you might blame yourself or label yourself as not being worthy of love. Generally, you may find yourself needing constant reassurance that you are loved, worthy, and good enough.This is a form of Anxious Attachment.Many times when you feel rejected or your loved one fails to respond to your needs, you might blame yourself or label yourself as not being worthy of love. Generally, you may find yourself needing constant reassurance that you are loved, worthy, and good enough.You may also find yourself trying to fix other people’s problems or taking the blame for things that were not their fault. You may even be overly attached to people and relationships out of fear of abandonment or rejection. So as a result you put your energy into your relationship instead of investing in other areas such as work or hobbies. This leads to difficulty in setting healthy boundaries and receiving the love you truly desire.Ways to Continue Growing in Interpersonal Relationships and a Healthy Relationship with Self:1. Develop Healthy Boundaries: -Self-Awareness: Reflect on your needs, values, and emotional triggers. Understanding these aspects of yourself allows you to establish clear boundaries that protect your well-being.2. Build Emotional Independence: - Self-Reflect Deeper: Regularly engage in self-reflection to identify and understand your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. Developing emotional intelligence enhances your ability to navigate relationships with greater awareness and resilience.This is exactly what I will be educating and creating a safe space for you to process in my "Heal from Struggle Love" Therapy Group!**Disclaimer if for any reason you feel that your result was not spot on, schedule a FREE "Vibe Check with Jess" HERE to chat more about your relationships and how I can help.With that said, I'm here to help! If you are ready to prioritize your well-being and build the foundation for healthy, fulfilling relationships. Secure your spot in the "Heal from Struggle Love" therapy group TODAY!Register Now at The Beauti Clinic Therapy Portal and embark on a journey of healing, growth, and the transformation of your relationships. Your path to healthy attachment starts here!