Which Soul Sucker™ do you need to release to free your voice?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  Which of these thoughts go through your mind when you have a chance to speak?

  • A.
    I don’t think I have enough energy for that.
  • B.
    Will I be able to prepare and deliver effectively?
  • C.
    What if I don’t measure up to the other speakers?
  • D.
    Do I really belong on that stage?
• 2.
  How do you prepare for an important conversation or presentation?

  • A.
    I work extra hard to make sure I honor the importance of the message.
  • B.
    I procrastinate until the very last minute.
  • C.
    I put a lot of effort into the details that give me credibility.
  • D.
    I dive into PowerPoint and meticulously plan every detail to try and avoid any mistakes.
• 3.
  What goes through your mind when you resist speaking or procrastinate?

  • A.
    I’m afraid I won’t measure up.
  • B.
    It’s got to be ‘just right.’ I don’t know where to start.
  • C.
    This is an important topic. Am I up to the task?
  • D.
    I don’t like to be the center of attention.
• 4.
  What goes through your mind before you speak in a group?

  • A.
    If this were worth sharing, someone else would’ve already said something.
  • B.
    Do we really have time for my thoughts?
  • C.
    I need to make sure I say this right.
  • D.
    I have to try and meet their expectations.
• 5.
  How do you approach sharing your ideas?

  • A.
    I try to predict every reaction and plan accordingly.
  • B.
    I’m cautious and hold back as much as I can to stay safe.
  • C.
    I share my ideas with extra enthusiasm so people will listen.
  • D.
    I often disguise my true thoughts to blend in with the crowd.
• 6.
  What’s your secret fear about expressing your ideas?

  • A.
    That I won't be able to control the flow and outcome of the conversation.
  • B.
    That I'll take too much time and bore or inconvenience others.
  • C.
    That I’ll find out that no one wants to hear what I have to say.
  • D.
    That I'll be exposed as less competent or experienced than everyone else.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  The Nervous Nellies

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  Your loudest Soul Suckers are the Nervous Nellies!As the first wave of Soul Suckers, the Nervous Nellies try to help us by keeping us safe from speaking at all. Speaking Soulfully is a vulnerable act and one that the Soul Suckers would prefer we avoid at all costs. In their attempt to prevent us from speaking authentically and soulfully (and experiencing the vulnerability that comes with it), they might say, “You don’t have enough time to take this speaking opportunity.” In a meeting, when we have something unique to contribute, they might say, “You shouldn’t speak up because you’ll take up too much time and everyone is dying to get out of here.” They might say, “You don’t have enough energy for this.” You get the idea.Hi, I’m Lauri SmithI’m the Soulful Speaking CoachAre you a sensitive visionary, an ambitious empath, or a loving rebel feeling called to help change the world with authenticity, creativity & courage? If you find yourself thinking “I’m not a speaker” one momentand“But I feel called to serve” the next ...It’s confusing, I get it. We were raised on a lie: We grew up with an image of only one kind of leader. (Usually a man in a three-piece suit.)That outdated image of a leader created an equally outdated image of what it means to be a speaker.Of course that doesn’t feel like you! Trying to be that outdated leader-speaker would be like going dancing with someone else’s size 5 shoes on your size 11 feet.Here’s the truth:Those outdated leader-speakers are not what the world needs now! You are.We need change, not more of the same.We need your voice in the conversation.We need you to spread your message, share your magic, and invite your soulmate clients to work with you - all while Speaking Soulfully. If you long to speak while feeling an aliveness from head-to-toe that’s beyond your wildest dreams, let’s get to know each other.
• 2.
  The Controlling Stage Mothers

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  Your loudest Soul Suckers are the Controlling Stage Mothers!The Controlling Stage Mothers chime in once we’ve made the commitment to speak. Like overbearing stage mothers, they try to help by controlling everything. Nothing will suck the soul out of speaking faster than planning and replanning and over-planning every last detail! The energy of the Controlling Stage Mothers can strangle us - hiding our radiance beneath all that striving for a phantom perfection. In case you think that this applies only to public speaking, think again. How often have you imagined an important conversation on the horizon so many times beforehand that you’ve nearly convinced yourself that you’ve already had it (and that it did not go well)? That’s a lot of wasted energy spent before actually having the conversation in person. This tends to happen with siblings, partners, boyfriends, coworkers, parents, bosses … anyone in our inner circle who pushes our buttons.Hi, I’m Lauri SmithI’m the Soulful Speaking CoachAre you a sensitive visionary, an ambitious empath, or a loving rebel feeling called to help change the world with authenticity, creativity & courage? If you find yourself thinking “I’m not a speaker” one momentand“But I feel called to serve” the next ...It’s confusing, I get it. We were raised on a lie: We grew up with an image of only one kind of leader. (Usually a man in a three-piece suit.)That outdated image of a leader created an equally outdated image of what it means to be a speaker.Of course that doesn’t feel like you! Trying to be that outdated leader-speaker would be like going dancing with someone else’s size 5 shoes on your size 11 feet.Here’s the truth:Those outdated leader-speakers are not what the world needs now! You are.We need change, not more of the same.We need your voice in the conversation.We need you to spread your message, share your magic, and invite your soulmate clients to work with you - all while Speaking Soulfully. If you long to speak while feeling an aliveness from head-to-toe that’s beyond your wildest dreams, let’s get to know each other.
• 3.
  The Imposter Monsters

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  Your loudest Soul Suckers are the Imposter Monsters!The Impostor Monsters tell us that WE are not enough for some specific reason. We’re not as smart or important or accomplished (or thin or young or old … or … or … or) as everyone else. The Imposter Monster Soul Suckers might say, “Since they all know more than you, you shouldn’t speak because what you have to say can’t possibly compare.” They might say, “If you do speak, you’d better put on your smart mask so that they won’t notice that you aren’t as accomplished as they are,” or “You’re an imposter and if you speak up, everyone will know it.” When we put the Imposter Monster Soul Suckers in charge, we unconsciously become like marionettes, letting ourselves be controlled by what we think others might want.Hi, I’m Lauri SmithI’m the Soulful Speaking CoachAre you a sensitive visionary, an ambitious empath, or a loving rebel feeling called to help change the world with authenticity, creativity & courage? If you find yourself thinking “I’m not a speaker” one momentand“But I feel called to serve” the next ...It’s confusing, I get it. We were raised on a lie: We grew up with an image of only one kind of leader. (Usually a man in a three-piece suit.)That outdated image of a leader created an equally outdated image of what it means to be a speaker.Of course that doesn’t feel like you! Trying to be that outdated leader-speaker would be like going dancing with someone else’s size 5 shoes on your size 11 feet.Here’s the truth:Those outdated leader-speakers are not what the world needs now! You are.We need change, not more of the same.We need your voice in the conversation.We need you to spread your message, share your magic, and invite your soulmate clients to work with you - all while Speaking Soulfully. If you long to speak while feeling an aliveness from head-to-toe that’s beyond your wildest dreams, let’s get to know each other.
• 4.
  The Below-the-Belt Bastards

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  Your loudest Soul Suckers are the Below-the-Belt Bastards!The deepest, meanest Soul Suckers are the Below-the-Belt Bastards. They’re the ones that say, “YOU are not enough. Period.” We might react to the Below-the-Belt Bastard Soul Suckers by giving up and holding our tongues. It’s really tempting to stay silent in the face of messages like, “No one cares what you have to say” or “Even what’s in your heart is useless to everyone else, so don’t speak up, or they’ll all know too.” Sometimes this Soul Sucker says, “You are not enough, but your work/passion/calling might be. So you need to work harder than everyone else!" Hi, I’m Lauri SmithI’m the Soulful Speaking CoachAre you a sensitive visionary, an ambitious empath, or a loving rebel feeling called to help change the world with authenticity, creativity & courage? If you find yourself thinking “I’m not a speaker” one momentand“But I feel called to serve” the next ...It’s confusing, I get it. We were raised on a lie: We grew up with an image of only one kind of leader. (Usually a man in a three-piece suit.)That outdated image of a leader created an equally outdated image of what it means to be a speaker.Of course that doesn’t feel like you! Trying to be that outdated leader-speaker would be like going dancing with someone else’s size 5 shoes on your size 11 feet.Here’s the truth:Those outdated leader-speakers are not what the world needs now! You are.We need change, not more of the same.We need your voice in the conversation.We need you to spread your message, share your magic, and invite your soulmate clients to work with you - all while Speaking Soulfully. If you long to speak while feeling an aliveness from head-to-toe that’s beyond your wildest dreams, let’s get to know each other.