Find the right healing path for you in the aftermath of narcissistic abuse

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When you think about your relationship, what is your primary emotion?

  • A.
    Confusion about my own identity.
  • B.
    Frustration over not being able to set limits.
  • C.
    Fear of confronting the person.
  • D.
    Anger and resentment towards the person.
• 2.
  How do you typically respond when someone crosses your boundaries?

  • A.
    I struggle to assert myself and often give in.
  • B.
    I hold grudges and find it hard to let go.
  • C.
    I feel lost and unsure of how to react.
  • D.
    I avoid the person to prevent conflict.
• 3.
  When you imagine a life without the toxic person, what do you feel?

  • A.
    Relieved but scared of the consequences.
  • B.
    Unsure of who I would be without them.
  • C.
    Concerned about how to enforce my needs.
  • D.
    Bitter and unable to forgive their actions.
• 4.
  How do you handle situations where you need to express your needs?

  • A.
    I don’t know what my needs are.
  • B.
    I struggle to move past my anger to communicate.
  • C.
    I have trouble communicating them effectively.
  • D.
    I avoid expressing them to avoid backlash.
• 5.
  How do you feel about the idea of completely cutting off contact with the toxic person?

  • A.
    I feel lost and without direction.
  • B.
    I worry about maintaining my boundaries without them.
  • C.
    I think it’s the only way to find peace.
  • D.
    I feel a mix of relief and unresolved anger.
• 6.
  In moments of self-reflection, what concerns you the most?

  • A.
    Being consumed by negative emotions.
  • B.
    Not knowing who I really am.
  • C.
    Constantly letting others dictate my actions.
  • D.
    Feeling trapped in the toxic relationship.
• 7.
  What is your biggest challenge when trying to make decisions?

  • A.
    Doubting my own desires and needs.
  • B.
    Worry about potential conflicts.
  • C.
    Fear of displeasing others.
  • D.
    Inability to move past resentment.
• 8.
  How do you typically react to criticism from the toxic person?

  • A.
    I have trouble defending myself.
  • B.
    It makes me question my self-worth.
  • C.
    I try to avoid them to avoid the criticism.
  • D.
    I feel intense anger and can’t forgive them.
• 9.
  When thinking about past relationships, what pattern do you see?

  • A.
    Losing a sense of who I am.
  • B.
    Holding onto grudges.
  • C.
    Struggling to maintain personal boundaries.
  • D.
    Difficulty ending toxic relationships.
• 10.
  How do you feel about setting boundaries with people in general?

  • A.
    I’m unsure of what my boundaries are.
  • B.
    I set them but struggle with forgiving past breaches.
  • C.
    I tend to avoid conflict by not setting boundaries.
  • D.
    It’s difficult but I’m working on it.
• 11.
  How do you handle your emotions after an argument with the toxic person?

  • A.
    I feel lost and disconnected from myself.
  • B.
    I feel guilty for not standing up for myself.
  • C.
    I avoid further contact to avoid more arguments.
  • D.
    I harbor resentment and find it hard to forgive.
• 12.
  What is your biggest fear about ending the toxic relationship?

  • A.
    Losing my sense of identity.
  • B.
    Failing to maintain boundaries in future relationships.
  • C.
    The emotional fallout and conflict.
  • D.
    Never being able to forgive and move on.
• 13.
  How do you feel about the idea of forgiving the toxic person?

  • A.
    I’m unsure how to even begin that process.
  • B.
    I’m afraid they will take advantage of me again.
  • C.
    I think it’s necessary but very difficult.
  • D.
    I can’t imagine ever forgiving them.
• 14.
  What is your main focus when thinking about your future without the toxic person?

  • A.
    Finding out who I really am.
  • B.
    Learning to set and maintain boundaries.
  • C.
    Ensuring I can stay no contact.
  • D.
    Working on letting go of past hurts.
• 15.
  How do you handle feelings of loneliness or isolation?

  • A.
    I feel lost without the toxic person.
  • B.
    I struggle to create healthy relationships.
  • C.
    I think about reconnecting with them.
  • D.
    I focus on my anger and bitterness.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Authenticity Seeker

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  Finding Your Authenticity If your answers mostly fall into this category, your primary struggle is understanding and embracing your true self. You may feel lost or disconnected from your own identity due to the toxic relationship.Next Steps:* Engage in self-discovery activities like journaling, meditation, or counseling.* Explore your interests, values, and passions outside the influence of the toxic person.* Consider working with a coach to help uncover your authentic self and build confidence in your identity.
• 2.
  Boundary Builder

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  Boundaries If your answers mostly fall into this category, you need to focus on learning how to set and maintain healthy boundaries. You may find it challenging to assert yourself and protect your needs.Next Steps:* Educate yourself about healthy boundaries through books, workshops, or online resources.* Practice setting small boundaries in everyday situations to build your confidence.* Seek support from a coach or therapist to develop strategies for maintaining boundaries in your relationships.
• 3.
  No Contact

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  Going No Contact If your answers mostly fall into this category, your primary challenge is the difficulty of maintaining no contact with the toxic person. You may feel fear or uncertainty about the consequences of cutting ties.Next Steps:* Develop a clear plan for maintaining no contact, including strategies for managing any interactions.* Build a support network of friends, family, or support groups who understand and respect your decision.* Work with a coach to reinforce your commitment to no contact and to navigate any challenges that arise.
• 4.
  Forgiveness

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  Forgiveness If your answers mostly fall into this category, you struggle with letting go of anger and resentment towards the toxic person. Forgiveness might seem like an impossible task.Next Steps:* Explore the concept of forgiveness and what it means to you personally.* Engage in therapeutic practices such as counseling, mindfulness, or forgiveness workshops.* Work with a coach to process your emotions and find a path towards healing and letting go of the past.