Midlife Marriage Maze: Should I Stay or Leave?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  How do you envision your ideal future?

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  • A.
    Rekindling romance with my partner
  • B.
    Exploring life on my own terms
  • C.
    Gaining clarity on what I truly want
  • D.
    Focusing on my personal growth
• 2.
  What aspect of your marriage are you most concerned about?

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  • A.
    The lack of emotional connection
  • B.
    Feeling held back from my potential
  • C.
    Uncertainty about staying or leaving
  • D.
    Whether we're growing together or apart
• 3.
  What's your current approach to addressing marital challenges?

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  • A.
    Trying to re-engage and communicate more
  • B.
    Considering what life would be like alone
  • C.
    Seeking advice to help me decide
  • D.
    Focusing on self-development first
• 4.
  Which statement resonates most with your feelings about your marriage?

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  • A.
    I miss the connection we once had
  • B.
    I yearn for freedom and self-discovery
  • C.
    I'm torn between two paths
  • D.
    I want to grow, with or without my partner
• 5.
  How do you feel about the future of your marriage?

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  • A.
    Hopeful, if we can find our spark again
  • B.
    Excited about the possibilities on my own
  • C.
    Uncertain and seeking direction
  • D.
    Determined to grow, no matter what
• 6.
  How do you feel about your personal development within your marriage?

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  • A.
    I believe we can inspire each other to be better
  • B.
    I feel I could develop more on my own
  • C.
    I'm unsure if my growth is supported
  • D.
    I prioritise my growth, with or without my partner
• 7.
  What role does communication play in your decision about your marriage?

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  • A.
    It's key to reigniting our relationship
  • B.
    I need to communicate my need for independence
  • C.
    Good communication could help me gain clarity
  • D.
    It's important for mutual growth
• 8.
  What's your biggest fear regarding the future of your marriage?

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  • A.
    That we'll never reconnect as we once did
  • B.
    That I'll lose myself if I stay
  • C.
    That I'll regret whatever decision I make
  • D.
    That I won't reach my full potential
• 9.
  How do you typically cope with conflict in your marriage?

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  • A.
    By trying to reignite our understanding and love
  • B.
    By considering time apart to reflect
  • C.
    By seeking advice and weighing up my options
  • D.
    By focusing on my own growth and response
• 10.
  What motivates you to consider the future of your marriage?

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  • A.
    The hope of re-experiencing our early love
  • B.
    The desire for a fresh start and new experiences
  • C.
    The need for a clear and confident decision
  • D.
    The drive to become the best version of myself

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Reignite the Spark

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  Your answers suggest a desire to rediscover the passion in your marriage. I see a flame that still flickers, and with my guidance, we can fan it into a fire once more. Maybe you’re going through some stressful times right now that could put a strain on the fragile bonds. Together, we'll explore communication strategies and shared experiences to strengthen that bond.Self-awareness is the first step to preparing yourself for a more meaningful relationship. Self-Awareness – The better you know yourself, the better you can help with any challenges around communication. Look for problematic patterns with previous conversations. If they’re recurring, they can indicate some areas in yourself that need attention and adjustment. By examining your communication style with those you observed growing up, it can be easy to see some of the patterns you unknowingly took on. But just because it’s what you grew up with doesn’t necessarily mean it’s the best way to do it. Do you recognise this pattern? (replace behaviours for others that you're more familiar with). 1. Who typically initiates the conversation, and how do they say it? - We need to talk- I need to tell you something2. How does the partner react?- On guard- Projects their own stuff - counter offence- Ignores and walks away3. Then what happens?- Voices escalate- Laughs it off4. The what happens?- Heated exchange- The silent treatment5. How does it end?- Nothing gets resolved- It's banked for another day- A game of I won't do that because you won't do this for me!Healthy relationships are complicated and ever-evolving, so commit to figuring out the learned behaviours that are outdated and no longer serving you. Instead, try this: 1. Make an appointment - I'd like to chat about....when would be a good time?2. Start by listening to the other person's perspective first (so you get more information)3. Gain an understanding of why your partner thinks the way he does - so you can focus on the problem to be solved. 4. Listen and invite: Is it OK if I share my perspective? 5. Get the 'Yes' - share common ground or values and respect the differences. 6. Develop a joint plan that is respectful and honest. You don't have to worry about working this out alone. I will support you as your trusted guide every step of the way. Hi, I'm Jennie Sutton, and I'm so glad you're here. As a coach with a holistic approach, I specialise in areas like trauma, women's health and hormones, divorce, domestic abuse, and I even support clients in Family Court as a Professional McKenzie Friend.I'm also the founder of Untying the Knot, which is part of my company, Enabling Success Ltd.Over my 18 years as a coach, I've seen how many relationship struggles stem from a lack of self-awareness, past traumas, and poor relationship modelling. That's why I've dedicated myself to helping women reignite their relationships or walk away with dignity and grace.Through private coaching, I've had the privilege of helping women overcome their past struggles and find love and fulfilment again. I'm here for you if you're looking for a supportive and compassionate guide on your journey. Let's work together to create the love and life you deserve.Check out these enabling resources to help you every step of the way!1. Follow us on Instagram for helpful tips and mindset shifts.2. Download from the Library Enabling e-books on everything from Speaking to Men and Vision Boards. 3. Want guidance on how to nurture yourself and overcome past communication challenges? Book a Discovery Call with me. We’ll not only assess your own relationship hurdles, but we’ll also look at the relationship models that fostered them and find better ways to love yourself and others.“Happily Ever After is not a fairy tale. It’s a choice.”― Fawn Weaver
• 2.
  Embrace Independence

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  Your quiz results lean towards embracing a new independent life. I understand the courage this requires, and my services can support you in this transition, ensuring you step into this phase with confidence and a clear vision for your future.Communicating your decision is the first step to independence. The Decision - The news that you want to leave the marriage will come as a shock. Whether you've both felt it but never said it out loud, or if it’s completely out of the blue and you're finally addressing your needs, it's a big moment. This initial conversation sets the tone for how your break-up will unfold, so let's consider it.Approach this with a compassionate voice. Give time for responses and really listen. This helps ensure that both of you feel heard. This will be the first of many conversations, but it's the one that shares life-altering news for you, your partner, and any children, no matter their age.You've got this!Setting the stage:1. Prioritise the children's well-beingEnsure that your children are cared for or in a suitable location away from the intensity of this discussion.2. Remove distractions:Eliminate potential distractions such as phones and computers. This will enable you both to focus entirely on the conversation.3. Choose the right time:Plan this discussion for a time when you both have the space to breathe and process afterwards. Avoid a weekday evening if you or your partner has a demanding workweek. Instead, consider a Friday evening or a Saturday morning, which allows ample time and space for reflection. Also, as we mentioned before, having the children out of hearing and sight may be easier from the forthcoming conversation. So the stage is set. What do you say? Where do you start? What's his response going to be like? How do you tell the kids and family?You don't have to worry about working this out alone. I will support you as your divorce coach. You are holding your hand every step of the way. Hi, I'm Jennie Sutton, and I'm so glad you're here. As a coach with a holistic approach, I specialise in areas like trauma, women's health and hormones, divorce, domestic abuse, and I even support clients in Family Court as a Professional McKenzie Friend.I'm also the founder of Untying the Knot, which is part of my company, Enabling Success Ltd.Over my 18 years as a coach, I've seen how many relationship struggles stem from a lack of self-awareness, past traumas, and poor relationship modelling. That's why I've dedicated myself to helping women gain their independence after decades of marriage and walk away with dignity and grace.Through private coaching, I've had the privilege of helping women overcome their past struggles and their passion and fulfilment again. I'm here for you if you're looking for a supportive and compassionate guide on your journey.Let's work together to create the life you deserve.Check out these enabling resources to help you every step of the way!1. Follow us on Instagram, for helpful tips and mindset shifts2. Download from the Library Enabling e-books on everything from Speaking to Men and Vision Boards. 3. Want guidance on how to nurture yourself and overcome the decision and its challenges? Book a Discovery Call with me. We’ll look at how to manage the next few steps after you've conveyed your decision and the meaning behind separation and the divorce process.
• 3.
  Seek Clarity

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  It seems you're on the fence about your marriage's future. I can help you gain the clarity you need. Through my coaching, we'll navigate your feelings and priorities, empowering you to make a decision that aligns with your true self.Clarity gives you power! The Answers - You're not expected to have all the answers to what comes next. Yet, if you're stuck in indecision, it probably means you need more information or you're expecting to have 100% of the answers (which is impossible!). But nothing will change until you:1. Choose something you want to do next (even if it's a baby step). 2. Commit to yourself to follow through on your decision.3. Take action.Remember, knowledge alone isn't enough to create change. Action precedes clarity!You've got this!Break-up Support Team:The purpose of getting your break-up support team in position is to help you find the answers to your questions, build supportive relationships, and guide you at the T-junction of staying or going. Here’s who you’ll need on your team:1. Family Lawyer: will guide you through the process of separation and divorce if that's the direction you’re heading.2. Financial Planner: will advise you to see what the future may hold regarding separating your matrimonial finances from your ex and exploring your financial options.3. Divorce Coach: I'll be there by your side, assisting you to make the best decision for you, whether that means reconciling or moving forward without regrets.4. Exercise Buddy: will encourage you to get out and move your body, whether it's walking the dogs, going for a run, or enjoying Pilates.5. Creative Outlet: will enable you to find your flow and align with your talents. This could mean joining an art group, trying pottery, or taking a walk with watercolour pencils and a sketchpad as your companions.You've got this, and I'm here to support you every step of the way!Hi, I'm Jennie Sutton, and I'm so glad you're here. As a coach with a holistic approach, I specialise in areas like trauma, women's health and hormones, divorce, domestic abuse, and I even support clients in Family Court as a Professional McKenzie Friend.I'm also the founder of Untying the Knot, which is part of my company, Enabling Success Ltd.Over my 18 years as a coach, I've seen how many relationship struggles stem from a lack of self-awareness, past traumas, and poor relationship modelling. That's why I've dedicated myself to helping women understand the next stage in their marriage or if they choose to walk away with dignity and grace.Through private coaching, I've had the privilege of helping women overcome their past struggles and their passion and fulfilment again. I'm here for you if you want a supportive and compassionate guide on your journey.Let's work together to create the life you deserve.Check out these enabling resources to help you every step of the way!1. Follow us on Instagram for helpful tips and mindset shifts2. Download from the Library Enabling e-books on everything from Speaking to Men and Vision Boards. 3. Want guidance on how to nurture yourself and overcome the decision and its challenges? Book a Discovery Call with me. We’ll look at how to manage the next few steps after you've conveyed your decision and the meaning behind separation and the divorce process.
• 4.
  Growth and Authenticity

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  You're focused on personal growth, whether within or outside your marriage. I offer coaching and resources to enable you to grow and evolve, ensuring that your next steps are in harmony with your authentic self. Be true to yourself! Holding the mirror - We may have lost ourselves and our identities over the years of marriage. Now is the time to carve out a new or more authentic you. This isn’t about fitting hand in glove with your partner anymore. The gloves are off, and they’re staying off. So, how do you find your true self? Where do you start?Let me take you through a few steps that might tip the scales in your favour, leading to either a new chapter for your marriage or your unique book, "Being Me!"Being Me!1. Discover what brings you alive: Identify the activities and passions that bring out your best.2. Self-Respect, Self-Love, Self-Worth: Focus on what you can give yourself—respect, love, and a sense of worth.3. Feelings over things: Focus on the feelings you want rather than what you wish; this opens up multiple paths to achieving those feelings.4. Embrace music and nature: These are two of the fastest ways to find peace and connect with yourself.5. Gratitude and meditation: These practices are transformative, helping you change your life and how you show up daily.Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely, in a well-preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting, "Holy $#*! What a ride!” - Hunter S Thompson.You’ve got this! Embrace the journey of rediscovering and loving the authentic you.Hi, I'm Jennie Sutton, and I'm so glad you're here. As a coach with a holistic approach, I specialise in areas like trauma, women's health and hormones, divorce, domestic abuse, and I even support clients in Family Court as a Professional McKenzie Friend.I'm also the founder of Untying the Knot, which is part of my company, Enabling Success Ltd.Over my 18 years as a coach, I've seen how many relationship struggles stem from a lack of self-awareness, past traumas, and poor relationship modelling. That's why I've dedicated myself to helping women rediscover themselves after decades of marriage and create a new chapter in their marriage or their unique book entitled 'Being me!' as they walk away from their marriage with dignity and grace. Through private coaching, I've had the privilege of helping women overcome their past struggles and their passion and fulfilment again. I'm here for you if you want a supportive and compassionate guide on your journey.Let's work together to create the life you deserve.Check out these enabling resources to help you every step of the way!1. Follow us on Instagram for helpful tips and mindset shifts2. Download from the Library Enabling e-books on everything from Speaking to Men and Vision Boards. 3. Want guidance on how to nurture yourself and overcome the decision and its challenges? Book a Discovery Call with me. We’ll look at how to manage the next few steps after you've conveyed your decision and the meaning behind separation and the divorce process.