Are you tired of feeling like your needs are always last in your relationships?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When someone you care about is upset or stressed, how do you typically react?

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  • A.
    I try to lighten the mood by being charming or making them feel better.
  • B.
    I step in to fix the problem or offer advice to make things better.
  • C.
    I immediately offer to help, even if it means putting aside my own needs.
  • D.
    I feel their emotions deeply and start to carry their stress as if it were my own.
• 2.
  In relationships or dating, how do you feel about your role with a partner or potential partner?

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  • A.
    I feel like I need to impress them through my achievements or personality.
  • B.
    I often feel responsible for helping them process their emotions and heal.
  • C.
    I take on the role of the peacekeeper or problem-solver, making sure everything goes smoothly.
  • D.
    I feel I need to support them, even if it means sacrificing my own needs.
• 3.
  If you experience conflict with a partner or someone you're interested in, how do you usually respond?

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  • A.
    I tend to back down or apologize, even if I’m not at fault, to avoid tension.
  • B.
    I feel overwhelmed by their emotions and try to soothe them, even if I’m hurt.
  • C.
    I quickly try to fix the issue and smooth things over before it escalates.
  • D.
    I try to charm my way out of the argument by impressing them or making them laugh.
• 4.
  How do you feel when your partner or someone you’re dating doesn’t recognize your efforts?

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  • A.
    I feel responsible for making things right and often overextend myself to avoid conflict.
  • B.
    I feel emotionally drained and wonder if I’m absorbing too much of their energy.
  • C.
    I feel unappreciated and wonder why I’m never acknowledged for what I give.
  • D.
    I work even harder to win their admiration by doing something impressive.
• 5.
  How comfortable are you with setting boundaries in relationships or while dating?

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  • A.
    I find it hard to set boundaries because I worry it will upset the other person.
  • B.
    I avoid setting boundaries because I feel too connected to others' emotions.
  • C.
    I struggle to set boundaries because I fear it will lead to conflict or rejection.
  • D.
    I focus on being impressive, so I don’t really think about setting boundaries.
• 6.
  When it comes to expressing your needs in a relationship or with someone you’re interested in, how do you typically handle it?

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  • A.
    I hesitate to express my needs unless I’m sure it will make me look good in their eyes.
  • B.
    I find it hard to express my needs because I’m so focused on how they feel.
  • C.
    I rarely express my needs because I feel like I’m supposed to serve others first.
  • D.
    I prioritize keeping the peace, so my needs often take a back seat.
• 7.
  How do you feel when you can’t help someone you care about, whether it’s a partner or someone you're dating?

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  • A.
    I feel emotionally drained and overwhelmed by their unhappiness.
  • B.
    I feel anxious and responsible for solving the problem, even if it’s not my fault.
  • C.
    I feel guilty and believe I’ve failed in my role as a supportive person.
  • D.
    I worry that they’ll lose interest in me if I can’t be impressive or helpful.
• 8.
  How do you approach your needs and desires in relationships or when considering a potential partner?

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  • A.
    I feel like my needs are overshadowed by the emotional weight I carry from others.
  • B.
    I rarely think about my needs, as I’m usually preoccupied with keeping things harmonious.
  • C.
    I feel like my worth comes from being impressive, so I focus more on accomplishments than personal desires.
  • D.
    I often suppress my needs because I don’t want to seem selfish or demanding.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Your people pleasing tendency... Martyr/Victim

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  You naturally want to be loved, accepted, and appreciated, so you sacrifice your own needs to serve others, even at the cost of your own well-being.You feel burnt out and resentful because you’re constantly trying to prove your worth by doing everything for everyone. Being a martyr/victim has the upside of people liking you because you do things for people you're not really close to. You're on everyone's team (the Christmas party, the neighbor's yard sale, etc). You're a social chameleon, so you can see things from everyone's perspective, and you play along with people's conversations, attitudes, and general dispositions... But you're not getting the same treatment as others. And you don't share your true feelings and opinions, so they don't get the real you.You know what kind of people pleaser you are now, let's talk about stopping it. The number one way to stop people pleasing is to regulate your nervous system. That’s why I made this heart activation meditation to help you deal with the big feelings you get when you want to stop being everything to everyone.If you want more of this, click the button below to grab my HOW TO STOP PEOPLE PLEASING WORKSHOP.
• 2.
  Your people pleasing tendency is... Charmer 

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  You are dependent on constant performance and achievement for self-validation. You’re highly focused on external success, leading to unsustainable workaholic tendencies and loss of touch with deeper emotional and relationship needs. You often mold yourself to fit the expectations and desires of others in order to be accepted and admired. Your desire for approval drives your actions.The upside to being a Charmer is that you people don’t have to worry about you because you’re good at covering up insecurities and showing a positive image. You’re goal oriented and a hard worker.You have no issue with promoting yourself. You keep people at a safe distance, for the most part.Now that you know what type of People Pleaser you are, let’s talk about stopping it in its tracks.The number one way to stop people pleasing is to regulate your nervous system. That’s why I made this heart activation meditation to help you deal with the big feelings you get when you want to stop being everything to everyone.If you want more of this, click the button below to grab my HOW TO STOP PEOPLE PLEASING WORKSHOP.
• 3.
  Your people pleasing tendency is... Mediator

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  You indirectly try to gain acceptance and affection by helping, pleasing, rescuing, or flattering others.You lose sight of your own needs and become resentful as a result. You feel like expressing your own needs directly feels selfish. And you worry that insisting on your own needs may drive others away.You get the attention and acceptance that you want, for the most part. You have such a big heart and feel like it’s your responsibility to help your friends and family because if you don’t, then who will?Now that you know what type of People Pleaser you are, let’s talk about stopping it in its tracks. The number one way to stop people pleasing is to regulate your nervous system. That’s why I made this heart activation meditation to help you deal with the big feelings you get when you want to stop being everything to everyone.If you want more of this, click the button below to grab my HOW TO STOP PEOPLE PLEASING WORKSHOP.
• 4.
  Your people pleasing tendency is... Empath

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  You have a general feeling of being tuned into the emotions of others and feeling responsibility to fix them.This is very similar to the Mediator, but an empath will fear saying no (as they do not want to upset another person) but also generally worried about the people around them.You might be preoccupied with the needs of others and are prone to guilt if you cannot help them. You’re likely to take the blame for things that are not your fault and feel guilty or worried if someone you are close too seems off or in a bad mood.Being on hyper alert for the needs of people around you is draining, stressful and leads to unhelpful decisions.People tend to like you because they can go to you for help. You have that ability to make anyone like you. You tend to be the “therapist” in your friend group and have a nurturing spirit about you. Now that you know what type of People Pleaser you are, let’s talk about stopping it in its tracks.The number one way to stop people pleasing is to regulate your nervous system. That’s why I made this heart activation meditation to help you deal with the big feelings you get when you want to stop being everything to everyone.If you want more of this, click the button below to grab my HOW TO STOP PEOPLE PLEASING WORKSHOP.