THE LIBIDO QUIZ

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When it's time to have sex with your partner, how do you usually feel?

  • A.
    Overwhelmed by the thought of another task.
  • B.
    A sense of obligation and pressure.
  • C.
    Unsure and would prefer to avoid it.
  • D.
    Distant, distracted, and disconnected.
  • E.
    Too tired to get started.
• 2.
  How often do you initiate sex with your partner?

  • A.
    Only when I feel like I have to.
  • B.
    Not often, even though I want to initiate more.
  • C.
    Never, I'm too exhausted to even think about it.
  • D.
    Seldom, because I don't feel emotionally connected.
• 3.
  What's your biggest challenge with sex currently?

  • A.
    I feel like it's more for my partner than for me.
  • B.
    It's at the bottom of my list of priorities.
  • C.
    I struggle to feel connection or pleasure during the act.
  • D.
    I don't know what I even want or enjoy anymore.
• 4.
  How do you cope with stress from your daily life?

  • A.
    I keep pushing through, no time to slow down.
  • B.
    I internalize it and sometimes blame my partner.
  • C.
    I distract myself with humor and entertainment.
  • D.
    I retreat into my own world and disconnect.
• 5.
  What do you most long for from your romantic relationships?

  • A.
    Connection. Someone who I feel totally present with.
  • B.
    Understanding. Someone who just gets me.
  • C.
    Teamwork. Someone to take on life's challenges with.
  • D.
    Support. Someone who helps out without me asking.
• 6.
  How do you feel about your current level of pleasure during sex?

  • A.
    It's non-existent, I'm too stressed or distracted to enjoy it.
  • B.
    It feels one-sided and unfulfilling.
  • C.
    Confused, as if I'm missing out on something.
  • D.
    Numb, I can't seem to connect with the sensation.
  • E.
    I enjoy sex with my partner, but I just don't think about it or feel any desire for it outside of the act itself.
• 7.
  When you think about sex, what's your immediate reaction?

  • A.
    I get annoyed and wish it wasn't expected of me.
  • B.
    I'm indifferent and could take it or leave it.
  • C.
    I feel a sense of longing for a deeper connection.
  • D.
    I feel tired just thinking about it.
• 8.
  What's your go-to method for unwinding after a long day?

  • A.
    I daydream or get lost in a relaxing activity.
  • B.
    I can't, there's always more to do.
  • C.
    I watch TV or scroll through social media.
  • D.
    I stew over things that didn't go well.
• 9.
  How do you prioritize your own pleasure?

  • A.
    It's at the bottom of my list, after everything else.
  • B.
    I don't, I'm too busy making sure everyone else is happy.
  • C.
    I'm not sure how to, it's not something I think about.
  • D.
    I struggle with this, I often don't feel worthy of pleasure.
• 10.
  What do you think might make you enjoy sex even more than what you do now?

  • A.
    Feeling like my partner truly understands and values my needs outside of sex.
  • B.
    Having the mental space to actually enjoy it and let go.
  • C.
    Feeling more emotionally connected with myself and my partner.
  • D.
    Knowing what I want and knowing how to express it.
  • E.
    Having more of a variety of experiences and more pleasure during sex.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  The Burnout Battler

  You're juggling too much, feeling exhausted, and sex feels like just another task on your endless to-do list.The Burnout Battler low-libido type typically sounds like at least one of these..."I don't have time for sex or self-pleasure." "Sex/intimacy/pleasure is a waste of time.""My body is too complicated and takes too long.""I'm too exhausted to even think about sex." "Sex feels like a chore.""I'm just doing it to check the box." It makes sense why this is happening...COMMON CAUSES OF THIS LOW-LIBIDO TYPE:constantly being "plugged in" to your phone, social media, work, or the TV so you're in information and sensory overloadbeing an overachiever with a constant need to be doing and prove yourselfhaving ADHD or anxietyour fast-paced lifestyle that prioritizes intellect, achievement, and "hard work" over rest and slowing downworrying about being a perfect partner or constantly feeling like you have to give more to your partneran underlying feeling like you're not enoughgrowing up in a home where your achievements were the main way you got attentionlack of education around sex and pleasure so you don't know how to have sex that's fun and for you😓 COMMON MISTAKES YOU MIGHT BE MAKING THAT ARE MAKING YOUR LIBIDO EVEN LOWER:...starting every day with scrolling on your phone, drinking coffee, and jumping right into work...getting too comfortable with your partner (or being so tired from life tired from your life) that “date nights” are Netflix or movies on the couch to “relax” (aka check out and numb) and scrolling while you do it (feeding your cortisol addiction) ...not showing your partner physical affection because you’re afraid to turn them on and then turn them down for sex...being the person everyone relies on, but never asking for help from anyone (Miss Independent)...putting self-care and sex last on the list of priorities because there’s a pile of “more important” to-dos...just having sex to please your partner because you think it’s what a good wife/girlfriend is supposed to do...never celebrating your accomplishments, accepting compliments, or slowing down enjoy to your life but instead just rushing to the next task over and over...doing the same 3 moves over and over in sex and never trying anything new...rushing through foreplay because you’re uncomfortable and feel guilty and like you’re taking too longThere are four main components to creating a thriving libido and craving sex again (that I teach in depth in my program, The Intimacy Accelerator).But today, I want to give you one simple tool to start practicing pleasure, slowing down, and learning how to have sex that's fun instead of a chore so you'll start to want it again. SPEND 5 MIN PRACTICING PLEASURE AND SUPPORTING YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM WITH SENSATION MAPPING: Sensation mapping is a way to practice staying present and learning how to build intimacy, patience, and trust with yourself.It will also help you immensely in learning that it's safe to slow down and help your nervous system relax and stop the overdrive.Here’s how…Set a timer for five minutes.Slow down and give your body supportive touch, starting with your hands and arms and working in. Try different speeds, locations, and pressures.Follow what feels good.Here are the questions for reflection afterwards: What part of my body felt the best to touch?What type of touch felt best to me?What emotions came up during the experience? What thoughts came up most often?Sensation mapping consistently will help your nervous system relax enough for your libido to start to come back.Having a relaxed nervous system is essential for libido. But that’s just one of the four components of creating a thriving libido and craving sex again.Without the other three (re-wiring negative beliefs about sex, knowing what to do to turn yourself on, and communicating with your partner), you’ll only get so far.That's why I created The Intimacy AcceleratorFor women in relationships to turn on, feel more pleasure, and create a passionate, playful sex life that lasts forever.The Intimacy Accelerator is for you if you......can’t remember the last time you thought about wanting sex spontaneously on a Tuesday...wish you wanted sex more and know you have some limiting beliefs or baggage about sex and intimacy that stop you from wanting it or initiating...feel guilty that you aren't as affectionate as you were when you first started dating but you're afraid that if you lead your partner on you'll have to reject them...you've let life, stress, kids, or work take priority over intimacy and sex and it's hard to want to make the time...know that sex could be better but don't know what you want and figuring it out is at the bottom of a very long list of priorities and to-dosAnd these days, even when you *do* have sex—during that one special day of the month when you actually wanted to—you just end up trying to hurry up and get it over with.I get it (and I’ve been there, too). After the 90-Day Intimacy Accelerator, sex could feel more like:Unlocking YOUR sexual power and preferences without feeling ashamed, or judgedKnowing EXACTLY how to describe what you do and don’t like in the bedroomShowing up for yourself first, even if you were saying “no” to sex that nightLetting go of the shame that says you’re broken, and sex is just one more daily obligation on your to-do listI believe that sex and pleasure and intimacy don’t have to feel like something you’ve just gotta get through to get on with your day. Or something you have to do just to make them happy.>> CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE & JOIN <<
• 2.
  The Resentful Rebel

  You find yourself having sex out of obligation, harboring unspoken frustrations, holding on to past negative experiences, and feeling burdened by your intimate life.The Resentful Rebel low-libido type typically sounds like at least one of these..."I'm just doing it for them." "I feel pressured to have sex with my partner." "Sex feels like an obligation.""I withhold sex as a way to get power back in my relationship""I have a lot of rocky memories from the past that come up and block me from having good sex.""I feel resentful of my partner and have no interest in having sex with them."It makes sense why this is happening...COMMON CAUSES OF THIS LOW-LIBIDO TYPE:feeling unsupported in your home, career, and with life's mental or emotional loadnot asking for help because you think you have to do it all on your own but then you're secretly resentfulnot knowing what you want so you can't ask for itblaming, criticizing, nagging or sh*t talking about your partner in your head or real lifeconstantly being "plugged in" to your phone, social media, work, or the TV so you're in information and sensory overloadlack of education around sex and pleasure so you don't know how to have sex that's fun and for youpast painful experiences with sex or relationships that you're overlaying with the present momenttrauma that has you feeling uneasy, second-guessing, or unsafe😓 COMMON MISTAKES YOU MIGHT BE MAKING THAT ARE MAKING YOUR LIBIDO EVEN LOWER:...starting every day with scrolling on your phone, drinking coffee, and jumping right into work...getting too comfortable with your partner (or being so tired from life tired from your life) that “date nights” are Netflix or movies on the couch to “relax” (aka check out and numb) and scrolling while you do it (feeding your cortisol addiction) ...not showing your partner physical affection because you’re afraid to turn them on and then turn them down for sex...being the person everyone relies on, but never asking for help from anyone (Miss Independent)...putting self-care and sex last on the list of priorities because there’s a pile of “more important” to-dos...just having sex to please your partner because you think it’s what a good wife/girlfriend is supposed to do...never celebrating your accomplishments, accepting compliments, or slowing down enjoy to your life but instead just rushing to the next task over and over...doing the same 3 moves over and over in sex and never trying anything new...rushing through foreplay because you’re uncomfortable and feel guilty and like you’re taking too longThere are four main components to creating a thriving libido and craving sex again (that I teach in depth in my program, The Intimacy Accelerator). But today, I want to give you one simple tool to start feeling more present in your body and letting go of the past, so you can have more connected sexual experiences with your partner that you'll start looking forward to.Write a letter to your past selves, your partner, or the people in your life who you're struggling to forgive: Sit down with a journal and some space and write a letter to the past versions of you or other people that you are struggling to have compassion for. Tell her or them: - How you're genuinely feeling- What you wish had been different- What you actually realized or gained from that experience- What you're grateful for from that time/experience- What you're proud of from that time/experienceThen, burn or shred the letter.As you burn the letter, tune into the feeling of forgiveness in your body, breathing into the spaces where you've been holding onto that memory or challenge.Bonus Action: Resentment usually comes from not setting appropriate boundaries, not asking for help when you need it, or not doing something that you wish you could do. So, if you need one of those three things, take action on that immediately.Re-wiring past negative beliefs and experiences with sex is essential to getting your libido back.But that’s just one of the four components of creating a thriving libido and craving sex again.Without the other three (reconnecting with your body, knowing what to do to turn yourself on, and communicating with your partner), you’ll only get so far.That's why I created The Intimacy AcceleratorFor women in relationships to turn on, feel more pleasure, and create a passionate, playful sex life that lasts forever.The Intimacy Accelerator is for you if you......can’t remember the last time you thought about wanting sex spontaneously on a Tuesday...wish you wanted sex more and know you have some limiting beliefs or baggage about sex and intimacy that stop you from wanting it or initiating...feel guilty that you aren't as affectionate as you were when you first started dating but you're afraid that if you lead your partner on you'll have to reject them...you've let life, stress, kids, or work take priority over intimacy and sex and it's hard to want to make the time...know that sex could be better but don't know what you want and figuring it out is at the bottom of a very long list of priorities and to-dosAnd these days, even when you *do* have sex—during that one special day of the month when you actually wanted to—you just end up trying to hurry up and get it over with.I get it (and I’ve been there, too). After the 90-Day Intimacy Accelerator, sex could feel more like:Unlocking YOUR sexual power and preferences without feeling ashamed, or judgedKnowing EXACTLY how to describe what you do and don’t like in the bedroomShowing up for yourself first, even if you were saying “no” to sex that nightLetting go of the shame that says you’re broken, and sex is just one more daily obligation on your to-do listI believe that sex and pleasure and intimacy don’t have to feel like something you’ve just gotta get through to get on with your day. Or something you have to do just to make them happy.>> CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE & JOIN <<
• 3.
  The Ambivalent Explorer

  You're unsure about your desires, often avoid intimacy and affection, and use humor about sex to deflect from deeper sensual and emotionally connected experiences.The Ambivalent Explorer low-libido type typically sounds like at least one of these..."I don't know what I want." "It feels like we're just in a rut but I don't know how to change it.""I just let my partner take the lead.""Talking about sex is uncomfortable." "[insert joke to avoid the discomfort]""I don't feel confident when it comes to sex.""I worry constantly about what my body looks like and what my partner is thinking.""I freeze whenever I'm asked what I want in sex."It makes sense why this is happening...COMMON CAUSES OF THIS LOW-LIBIDO TYPE:growing up in a home or environment where talking about sex was taboo, not discussed, and hushedlack of education around sex and pleasure so you don't know how to have sex that's fun and for youpast painful experiences with sex or relationships that you're overlaying with the present momenttrauma that has you feeling uneasy, second-guessing, or unsafeyou've never been given options and don't even know what's available in sexbody image challenges that keep you stuck in loops of self-criticismdecision fatigue from being constantly being "plugged in" to your phone, work, social media, kids, or the TVpeople-pleasing and worrying about your what partner wants instead of what you want 😓 COMMON MISTAKES YOU MIGHT BE MAKING THAT ARE MAKING YOUR LIBIDO EVEN LOWER:...starting every day with scrolling on your phone, drinking coffee, and jumping right into work...getting too comfortable with your partner (or being so tired from life tired from your life) that “date nights” are Netflix or movies on the couch to “relax” (aka check out and numb) and scrolling while you do it (feeding your cortisol addiction) ...not showing your partner physical affection because you’re afraid to turn them on and then turn them down for sex...being the person everyone relies on, but never asking for help from anyone (Miss Independent)...putting self-care and sex last on the list of priorities because there’s a pile of “more important” to-dos...just having sex to please your partner because you think it’s what a good wife/girlfriend is supposed to do...never celebrating your accomplishments, accepting compliments, or slowing down enjoy to your life but instead just rushing to the next task over and over...doing the same 3 moves over and over in sex and never trying anything new...rushing through foreplay because you’re uncomfortable and feel guilty and like you’re taking too longThere are four main components to creating a thriving libido and craving sex again (that I teach in depth in my program, The Intimacy Accelerator). But today, I want to give you one simple tool to start feeling more present in your body and listening to its innate wisdom so you can know what you like and start having sex you'll actually look forward to. Here are two simple steps to actually figure out what you like and want in sex and outside of it: 1: Know Your Body’s Yes/NoTune into what your body feels like when something is a “yes” and when it’s a “no.” Yes might feel like warmth, openness, calm, excitement, fluttery. No might feel like tense, frozen, distracted, restless, irritable, or numb.2: Ask Your Body Simple QuestionsInstead of asking, “What do you want?” ask your body yes/no questions or options between two things. Example: “Body, would you like to receive light touch or deep massage?” “Body, would you like to be kissed right now, yes or no?” “Body, would you like to be kissed on the neck or the lips?“Body, would you like more foreplay, yes or no?” Just this adjustment can help you start connecting more deeply with your body and understanding what you want and don’t want. Knowing how to turn yourself on and discovering what you like and want in sex is essential to getting your libido back.But that’s just one of the four components of creating a thriving libido and craving sex again.Without the other three (re-wiring negative beliefs about sex, letting go of the past baggage around intimacy, learning to tolerate more pleasure and communicating with your partner), you’ll only get so far.That's why I created The Intimacy AcceleratorFor women in relationships to turn on, feel more pleasure, and create a passionate, playful sex life that lasts forever.The Intimacy Accelerator is for you if you......can’t remember the last time you thought about wanting sex spontaneously on a Tuesday...wish you wanted sex more and know you have some limiting beliefs or baggage about sex and intimacy that stop you from wanting it or initiating...feel guilty that you aren't as affectionate as you were when you first started dating but you're afraid that if you lead your partner on you'll have to reject them...you've let life, stress, kids, or work take priority over intimacy and sex and it's hard to want to make the time...know that sex could be better but don't know what you want and figuring it out is at the bottom of a very long list of priorities and to-dosAnd these days, even when you *do* have sex—during that one special day of the month when you actually wanted to—you just end up trying to hurry up and get it over with.I get it (and I’ve been there, too). After the 90-Day Intimacy Accelerator, sex could feel more like:Unlocking YOUR sexual power and preferences without feeling ashamed, or judgedKnowing EXACTLY how to describe what you do and don’t like in the bedroomShowing up for yourself first, even if you were saying “no” to sex that nightLetting go of the shame that says you’re broken, and sex is just one more daily obligation on your to-do listI believe that sex and pleasure and intimacy don’t have to feel like something you’ve just gotta get through to get on with your day. Or something you have to do just to make them happy.>> CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE & JOIN <<
• 4.
  The Disconnected Dreamer

  You feel emotionally distant, struggle to stay present during intimacy, and crave a deeper connection with your partner.The Disconnected Dreamer low-libido type typically sounds like at least one of these..."I just don't feel that same spark anymore." "I'm overthinking constantly and can't slow down and be present in my body.""I feel numb and disconnected during sex.""I wish I felt more relaxed, at ease, and connected during sex.""I worry constantly about what my body looks like and what my partner is thinking.""I check out whenever my partner is going down on me."It makes sense why this is happening...COMMON CAUSES OF THIS LOW-LIBIDO TYPE:sex has become boring, routine, and not exciting enough to keep you engagedbody image challenges that keep you stuck in loops of self-criticismfear of deeper emotions or intimacy that keeps other people at a slight distancelack of education around sex, relationships, and pleasure so you don't know how to have sex that's fun and excitingpast painful experiences with sex or relationships that you're overlaying with the present moment that make it hard to stay in your bodyyou have ADHD or anxietytrauma that has you feeling uneasy, second-guessing, or unsafeour fast-paced lifestyle that prioritizes intellect, achievement, and "hard work" over rest and slowing downhigh stress from being constantly being "plugged in" to your phone, work, social media, kids, or the TVpeople-pleasing and worrying about your what partner wants instead of what you want 😓 COMMON MISTAKES YOU MIGHT BE MAKING THAT ARE MAKING YOUR LIBIDO EVEN LOWER:...starting every day with scrolling on your phone, drinking coffee, and jumping right into work...getting too comfortable with your partner (or being so tired from life tired from your life) that “date nights” are Netflix or movies on the couch to “relax” (aka check out and numb) and scrolling while you do it (feeding your cortisol addiction) ...not showing your partner physical affection because you’re afraid to turn them on and then turn them down for sex...being the person everyone relies on, but never asking for help from anyone (Miss Independent)...putting self-care and sex last on the list of priorities because there’s a pile of “more important” to-dos...just having sex to please your partner because you think it’s what a good wife/girlfriend is supposed to do...never celebrating your accomplishments, accepting compliments, or slowing down enjoy to your life but instead just rushing to the next task over and over...doing the same 3 moves over and over in sex and never trying anything new...rushing through foreplay because you’re uncomfortable and feel guilty and like you’re taking too longThere are four main components to creating a thriving libido and craving sex again (that I teach in depth in my program, The Intimacy Accelerator). But today, I want to give you one simple tool to start practicing pleasure, slowing down, and learning how to have sex that's fun and connected so you'll start to want it again.SPEND 5 MIN EXPLORING YOUR BODY AND PRACTICING SELF-PLEASURE WITH SENSATION MAPPING: Sensation mapping is a way to learn how to stay present and build intimacy, patience, and trust with yourself.It will also help you immensely in learning that it's safe to slow down, feel, and be in the moment.You can also use this as a tool for discovering new things that you like in sex and with your partner!Here’s how…Set a timer for five minutes.Take some deep breaths and begin to slowly explore your body with your hands.If you get distracted, no problem, just refocus back on sensations that feel good.Try different speeds, locations, and pressures.Make sounds, take more deep breaths.Follow what feels good.Here are the questions for reflection afterwards: What part of my body felt the best to touch?What type of touch felt best to me?What emotions came up during the experience? What thoughts came up most often?Sensation mapping consistently will help you learn how to stay present in your body long enough for your libido to start to come back.Learning to stay present in your body is essential for your libido. But that’s just one of the four components of creating a thriving libido and craving sex again.Without the other three (re-wiring negative beliefs about sex, knowing what to do to turn yourself on, and communicating with your partner), you’ll only get so far.That's why I created The Intimacy AcceleratorFor women in relationships to turn on, feel more pleasure, and create a passionate, playful sex life that lasts forever.The Intimacy Accelerator is for you if you......can’t remember the last time you thought about wanting sex spontaneously on a Tuesday...wish you wanted sex more and know you have some limiting beliefs or baggage about sex and intimacy that stop you from wanting it or initiating...feel guilty that you aren't as affectionate as you were when you first started dating but you're afraid that if you lead your partner on you'll have to reject them...you've let life, stress, kids, or work take priority over intimacy and sex and it's hard to want to make the time...know that sex could be better but don't know what you want and figuring it out is at the bottom of a very long list of priorities and to-dosAnd these days, even when you *do* have sex—during that one special day of the month when you actually wanted to—you just end up trying to hurry up and get it over with.I get it (and I’ve been there, too). After the 90-Day Intimacy Accelerator, sex could feel more like:Unlocking YOUR sexual power and preferences without feeling ashamed, or judgedKnowing EXACTLY how to describe what you do and don’t like in the bedroomShowing up for yourself first, even if you were saying “no” to sex that nightLetting go of the shame that says you’re broken, and sex is just one more daily obligation on your to-do listI believe that sex and pleasure and intimacy don’t have to feel like something you’ve just gotta get through to get on with your day. Or something you have to do just to make them happy.>> CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE & JOIN <<