There isn't just one type of Anxious Attachment..

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Quiz Questions

1.
How do you feel when your partner doesn't respond to your messages for a while?
- A.
  I worry that I've done something wrong.
- B.
  I try to stay calm but feel anxious inside.
- C.
  I get upset and might ask why they're not responding.
- D.
  I act like it doesn't bother me but feel conflicted inside.
2.
When you start dating someone new, how do you typically feel?
- A.
  I often feel nervous and insecure about myself. Sometimes it holds me back from dating at all.
- B.
  I'm excited but worry I won't be able to maintain their interest.
- C.
  I want to spend as much time with them as possible and get anxious if they don't.
- D.
  I enjoy it but keep some distance to protect myself.
3.
How do you handle conflicts in a relationship?
- A.
  I tend to withdraw and need space to process my feelings.
- B.
  I try to stay calm but feel very anxious inside. I want to resolve it right away.
- C.
  I worry a lot and fear it will lead to a breakup.
- D.
  I get upset and may become demanding or controlling.
4.
How do you feel about expressing your needs to your partner?
- A.
  I feel confident expressing myself in other ways, but fear their reaction when it comes to wanting something.
- B.
  I feel very hesitant and worry they'll think I'm too needy.
- C.
  I openly express my needs and get frustrated if they're not met.
- D.
  I struggle to express my needs and often keep them to myself.
5.
How do you react when your partner talks about their past relationships?
- A.
  I feel jealous and may ask a lot of questions.
- B.
  I feel insecure and compare myself to their exes, assuming they are more attractive/better than me.
- C.
  I try to be chill but feel uneasy inside. I'll likely stalk them on social media later.
- D.
  I act indifferent but feel threatened. It might make me consider pulling back.
6.
How do you feel when the person you're dating wants to spend time with their friends without you?
- A.
  I feel anxious and worry they don't want to be with me.
- B.
  I understand but feel a bit anxious about being left out.
- C.
  I’m fine with it, I sometimes feel relieved to have time alone.
- D.
  I feel neglected and may express my displeasure.
7.
How do you feel about the future of relationships (now or when you are in one)?
- A.
  I am very invested and often think about our future together. I wish they'd commit more now.
- B.
  I often worry that it might not last because I'm not good enough.
- C.
  I feel hopeful and daydream but sometimes doubt my ability to maintain it.
- D.
  I’m cautious and avoid thinking too far ahead.
8.
How do you react when your partner expresses dissatisfaction with something you did?
- A.
  I feel anxious but try to understand their perspective. Part of me gets defensive but I react calmly first.
- B.
  I feel extremely anxious and worry. I might start crying no matter how gently they deliver the feedback.
- C.
  I get defensive and may try to explain myself a lot.
- D.
  I withdraw and take time to process it alone.
9.
How do you feel in other areas in life?
- A.
  I worry about being judged by most people. I'm scared I'm going to get something wrong.
- B.
  I feel capable in other areas of life, especially my career.
- C.
  I find myself in small conflicts often, but consider myself powerful.
- D.
  I take the observer role and notice other people.
10.
How do you feel about physical affection in your relationship?
- A.
  I crave it and feel anxious if it's not there. I don't usually initiate and I feel insecure intimacy.
- B.
  I need it and feel upset if it's not given.
- C.
  I enjoy it but don't initiate. I don't want to be seen as too needy.
- D.
  I like it but also need my own space.
11.
How do you feel about sharing your deepest thoughts and feelings with your partner?
- A.
  I feel nervous and worry about being judged.
- B.
  I find it difficult and often keep my deepest thoughts to myself.
- C.
  I can share but feel anxious about how they'll react. I try and think ahead to what they are thinking.
- D.
  I share openly and expect the same in return.
12.
How do you feel when your partner compliments you?
- A.
  I feel happy but worry they might not mean it.
- B.
  I feel happy and need frequent reassurance.
- C.
  I appreciate it but wish they'd say something deeper, more specific to me.
- D.
  I appreciate it but feel a bit uncomfortable.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
The Sensitive Soul
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The Sensitive SoulThe Sensitive Soul is a gentle and introspective individual who often feels anxious and insecure in most areas of life.Anxious attachment tendencies may show up as frequent worry about your partner's feelings towards you, fear of judgement, and feeling nervous about being abandoned.You probably notice: You often doubt your worth and feel shy or hesitant in expressing your needs and desires.You may have had the experience of: Frequently doubting your partner's love and commitment, even in the absence of concrete reasons, leading to a persistent desire for reassurance and validation. You may attract or settle for partners that you know don't treat you right.Unlike the Affection Enthusiast, you're more likely to blame yourself for relationship struggles, instead of feeling confident in your expression and in tune with your needs and desires.The most important thing for your nervous system and growth is to build self-worth independently of your relationships. Easier said than done..I know This video will give you some actionable steps so that you can develop healthy communication, self trust, and connection to your power.
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The Calm & Collected Overthinker
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The Calm & Collected OverthinkerThe Calm & Collected Overthinker is a highly capable and outwardly confident individual who appears calm but internally struggles with anxiety in intimate relationships.Anxious attachment tendencies may show up as: Overanalyzing interactions with your partner, feeling anxious about maintaining their interest, and having a fear of being seen as less than perfect.You probably notice: You excel in many areas of your life but find it challenging to apply that same confidence to your romantic relationships.You may have had the experience of: Keeping your anxieties hidden behind a calm facade, leading others to believe you're always in control, even when you’re feeling turmoil inside.Unlike the Affection Enthusiast, you're more likely to: Downplay your need for attention and affection, maintaining a cool exterior instead of directly seeking emotional closeness.You may have challenges with: Balancing your independence with your need for emotional support, and allowing yourself to be vulnerable in front of your partner.The most important thing for your nervous system and growth is to: Acknowledge and validate your internal anxieties, practice self-acceptance, and allow yourself to be vulnerable and seek someone to hold you too.Easier said than done.. I know. But you're a highly capable woman. I've created a short video with actionable strategies here.
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The Affection Enthusiast
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The Affection EnthusiastThe Affection Enthusiast is someone who actively seeks closeness and attention in relationships.Anxious attachment tendencies may show up as: Needing frequent reassurance, feeling jealous easily, and becoming upset when your needs for affection aren't met.You probably notice: You thrive on physical and emotional closeness, often expressing your need and desires for more to your partner.You may have challenges with: Managing feelings of jealousy, dealing with perceived neglect, and balancing your needs for affection with your partner's personal space.The most important thing for your nervous system and growth is to: Cultivate self-soothing techniques, build a sense of self-worth independent of your partner's attention, and develop healthy communication strategies to express your needs without overwhelming your partner.Easier said than done.. I know. But I know you're a girl who knows what she wants. And if what you want is to feel more in control of your emotions, secure within your relationship, and confident in yourself then I have a video to walk you through some clear strategies.
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The Distant Dreamer
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The Distant DreamerThe Distant Dreamer is an independent and introspective individual who appears emotionally detached but experiences inner conflicts about attachment and intimacy.Anxious attachment tendencies may show up as: Acting indifferent to emotional closeness, sending mixed signals, and feeling conflicted between a desire for intimacy and a fear of vulnerability.You may have even wondered if you're more avoidant than anxious. One of your default strategies for protecting yourself might be to pull away before he does. Unlike the Affection Enthusiast, you're more likely to: Withdraw and avoid seeking attention or affection, instead of actively pursuing closeness and expressing your needs openly.You may have challenges with: Allowing yourself to be vulnerable, trusting others with your emotions, and balancing your desire for independence with the need for emotional intimacy.The most important thing for your nervous system and growth is to: Learn to recognize and acknowledge your emotional needs, practice opening up gradually to trusted partners, and find a healthy balance between independence and intimacy.Easier said than done, I get that. I've created a video that shares specific strategies for your system.Watch that below.