What's your grief support style?

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Quiz Questions

1.
It's possible to grieve many things, including but not limited to the death of a person. To start, who or what are you grieving right now? Select all that apply.
- A.
  Death of a person (including pregnancy loss)
- B.
  Death of a pet
- C.
  Divorce or relationship breakup
- D.
  Major diagnosis (such as terminal illness or chronic condition)
- E.
  Geographic move or relocation
- F.
  Financial loss
- G.
  Spiritual loss (such as loss of faith or loss of community)
- H.
  Identity loss (such as loss of creativity, stability, safety, or role in family/friend group)
- I.
  Systemic loss (related to gender, race, class, ability, or age)
- J.
  Other
2.
Which of these statements feels the most true for you right now?
- A.
  I want to feel better as quickly as possible.
- B.
  I want my grief support to be tailored to my unique experience.
- C.
  I want a clear, step-by-step roadmap for grief.
- D.
  I want to be part of a community of grievers with similar losses.
3.
When it comes to choosing grief support, what do you want most?
- A.
  A clear path forward. I want to know, step-by-step, how I can cope with grief and reach my goals.
- B.
  Permission to explore. I want to take my time learning about grief and experiment with new tools and ideas.
4.
To me, grief feels like...
- A.
  An obstacle
- B.
  A journey
- C.
  A puzzle
- D.
  A teacher
5.
Which one best describes you?
- A.
  Self-guided. I would rather get support in my own time and in my own way.
- B.
  Community-guided. I would rather get support in the company of others, where I can learn and share in a group.
6.
Which grief experience do you like the least?
- A.
  Feeling stuck—like I've lost my focus and motivation
- B.
  Feeling trapped—like grief has limited my options
- C.
  Feeling lost—like I don't have a clear path forward
- D.
  Feeling alone—like I don't belong anywhere
7.
How would you most like to feel after getting grief support?
- A.
  Capable and accomplished—like I've done something to help myself!
- B.
  Equipped and well-resourced—like I have everything I need to start making progress!
- C.
  Seen and heard—like I have been inspired by others to move forward!
- D.
  Connected and supported—like I don't have to grieve alone!

Quiz Outcomes

1.
You prefer... SELF-CHECKOUT STYLE grief support.
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Here's what it means to be a self-checkout style griever:You take a no-nonsense, get-in-and-get-out approach to grief support. Because you tend to know exactly what you're looking for, you don't waste time endlessly browsing aisles of options.Your superpower is knowing—instantly and intuitively—when a grief support tool is right for you. (And if it's not, you're more than fine leaving it on the shelf!)You may be frustrated by society's traditional grief support recommendations, which often include drawn-out weekly therapy sessions or grief support groups where non-structured "sharing time" can feel like an unnecessary detour to healing.You love a plan, a goal, a framework, and a clear destination. You're here to feel better as fast as possible and you crave grief support that offers immediate relief without a lot of hoops to jump through. You like your grief support to be easy to get and available on-demand, ready when you are.YOUR TOP PRIORITY: Keep momentum going!YOUR CORE VALUES: Seeing results + feeling free to choose your path🛒 What's in your cart? 🛒Here are three tools I recommend for your grief support style:1. Short, specific podcastsNo droning interviews or meandering trains-of-thought here! Your favorite podcasts solve a unique problem you're facing so you can get on with your day.Start with my podcast, Dear Grief Guide, where I answer one anonymous letter from a grieving person each episode.Listen here.2. On-demand grief coachingYou don't need to lock yourself into a pricey package of coaching sessions to see results.Consider 1:1 grief guidance with me, where we'll take a look at one specific issue you're facing and get you the tools you need to move through it—in less than one hour.Book your 1:1 session with me here.3. Goal-oriented online coursesForget fluffy grief support "communities" with no actual structure. You need grief support designed with clear goals and objectives in mind.Check out Life After Loss Academy where I'll show you EXACTLY how to go from lost and overwhelmed to grounded and growing in just ten weeks using my signature G.R.I.E.F. Method.You'll get a library of on-demand video lessons plus weekly drop-in coaching with me so you can get personalized support that gets you unstuck and moving forward.Join Life After Loss Academy today.🌻 Before you go...Have we met?I'm Shelby Forsythia, a grief coach, two-time author, and podcaster.For more than eight years, I've helped grieving people build lives they love from the lives loss forced them to live.I know I can do the same for you.Using a library of practical tools and compassionate guided questions, I'll show you how to see grief as a teacher and create a meaningful life that honors and includes the losses you've faced.Whether you're grieving a death, a breakup, a major diagnosis, or another significant transition, you're in the right place to receive support and resources that actually help you navigate the hardest seasons of your life.Your grief is welcome here. 💚💌 P.S. Check your inboxThis may have been a LOT to read (Hey, grief brain is real!), so I've sent your quiz results to your inbox for safekeeping.Over the next few days, I'll also send you your three recommended grief support tools one-by-one so you can choose the ones that work best for you in this season of life and grief.Got questions? Contact me here.And if you have a friend who might like to know their grief support style, send this quiz their way.Sending you love in grief,💚 Shelby
2.
You prefer... ROAD TRIP STYLE grief support.
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Here's what it means to be a road trip style griever:You take a "journey-is-the-destination" approach to grief support. Because you tend to be more independent, you like to take detours and explore rabbit holes at your own pace without the pressure of keeping up with a group.Your superpower is treating grief like a never-ending treasure hunt, where a new opportunity to know more about yourself and your grief is just around the next corner. (And even getting lost is an adventure when you're in the driver's seat!)You may be disappointed by quick-fix remedies for grief that don't give you the deep dives you crave. You might also resist traditional grief support groups where you're expected to work through lessons (or display specific emotions) at someone else's pace.You love a choose-your-own-adventure, a buffet of possibilities, and the independence that comes with being in the driver's seat. You're here to plan out your personalized grief roadmap and crave support that assists you in forging your own path. You like your grief resources to be well-researched and self-paced, designed for you and your unique journey.YOUR TOP PRIORITY: Being in the driver's seat!YOUR CORE VALUES: Going deep + feeling free to chose your path🚗 Let's hit the road! 🚗Here are three tools I recommend for your grief support style:1. Long and short-form podcastsPodcasts offer a beautiful buffet of grief support tools—some are long-form interviews and meditations; others are short-form Q&A and "quick tips."For deep dive conversations, check out my podcast Coming Back where I chat with grief authors, artists, therapists, spiritual teachers, bodyworkers, and more.Listen here.For targeted, specific support, listen to Dear Grief Guide where I answer one anonymous question from a grieving person each episode.Listen here.2. Day-by-day booksOne of the best ways to get a lay of the grief support landscape is day-by-day books such as devotionals and journals that give you 366 days of support in short, readable bursts.Pick the tools that work best for you and discard the rest. And who knows? You might stumble across a resource or recommendation that sends you on your next great rabbit hole of research.Consider my non-religious daily devotional, Your Grief, Your Way, which offers both compassionate quotes and practical exercises for moving through life after loss.Grab your copy here.3. Self-study online coursesForget rec center basement grief support groups with circles of folding chairs and ominous tissue boxes "just in case you cry." You need grief support that lets you go at your own pace with the freedom to explore your emotions in the way that feels best to you.Check out Life After Loss Academy, where I'll give you a library of on-demand video lessons you can work through on your schedule plus optional weekly grief coaching with me—just in case there's a topic you'd like to explore more in depth.You'll journey your way through my signature 5-step G.R.I.E.F. Method and design your custom roadmap for life after loss.Join Life After Loss Academy today.🌻 Before you go...Have we met?I'm Shelby Forsythia, a grief coach, two-time author, and podcaster.For more than eight years, I've helped grieving people build lives they love from the lives loss forced them to live.I know I can do the same for you.Using a library of practical tools and compassionate guided questions, I'll show you how to see grief as a teacher and create a meaningful life that honors and includes the losses you've faced.Whether you're grieving a death, a breakup, a major diagnosis, or another significant transition, you're in the right place to receive support and resources that actually help you navigate the hardest seasons of your life.Your grief is welcome here. 💚💌 P.S. Check your inboxThis may have been a LOT to read (Hey, grief brain is real!), so I've sent your quiz results to your inbox for safekeeping.Over the next few days, I'll also send you your three recommended grief support tools one-by-one so you can choose the ones that work best for you in this season of life and grief.Got questions? Contact me here.And if you have a friend who might like to know their grief support style, send this quiz their way.Sending you love in grief,💚 Shelby
3.
You prefer... TEAMMATE STYLE grief support.
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Here's what it means to be a teammate style griever:You take a collaborative approach to grief support. Because you thrive on both structure and camaraderie, you prefer to be supported in group settings where the stories of others give you sparks of inspiration that aid your growth.Your superpower is connecting the puzzle pieces of life after loss—both for yourself and others. (And being the first to raise your hand and share your thoughts when asked!)You may be bored by DIY grief support resources like books and podcasts, which feel like being "talked to" rather than "walked with." You might also be turned off by 1:1 therapy which can sometimes feel like an endless echo chamber of your own thoughts.You love a Q&A, a guided group activity, and a shared goal. You're here to learn in the company of others and crave support that allows you to give and get feedback on what you're going through. You like your grief support to be clear and collaborative, where everyone moves towards a set destination together. You know you may not be in a grief group forever, but the power of growing together makes the long game of grief much more interesting—and fun!YOUR TOP PRIORITY: Succeed as a team!YOUR CORE VALUES: Seeing results + being in community🥅 Eyes on the goal! 🥅Here are three tools I recommend for your grief support style:1. Live workshops + eventsThere's something magical about live grief support, whether in-person or online. For a brief moment in time, a group of strangers with grief in common come together to grow.See if anything on my upcoming events page sparks your interest and get ready to learn and heal alongside other grievers. I can't wait to hear from you!Browse events and save your seat.2. Grief discussion groupsTalking about common themes with others who are grieving is a wonderful way to connect, share ideas, and feel supported.If you like listening to podcasts and talking about them with other people, consider joining my Grief Growers' Garden community on Patreon.Every Thursday, we listen to and discuss the newest episode of Grief Grower and share how it relates to our own experience of loss.Think of it like a book club—but for a podcast! (What a relief for grief brain!)Even if you don't listen to the full episode, your presence is welcome.Join the Grief Growers' Garden.3. Group grief coaching + coursesForget DIY online courses with no interaction where you're "supported" by a pre-recorded talking head on a screen.Check out my online course + community Life After Loss Academy where each week we gather together to share stories, remember our loved ones, and discuss what we're learning in the course.You'll meet grievers from across the world and learn a ton of helpful tools that will help you go from lost and overwhelmed to grounded, hopeful, and whole—as a team!Join Life After Loss Academy today.🌻 Before you go...Have we met?I'm Shelby Forsythia, a grief coach, two-time author, and podcaster.For more than eight years, I've helped grieving people build lives they love from the lives loss forced them to live.I know I can do the same for you.Using a library of practical tools and compassionate guided questions, I'll show you how to see grief as a teacher and create a meaningful life that honors and includes the losses you've faced.Whether you're grieving a death, a breakup, a major diagnosis, or another significant transition, you're in the right place to receive support and resources that actually help you navigate the hardest seasons of your life.Your grief is welcome here. 💚💌 P.S. Check your inboxThis may have been a LOT to read (Hey, grief brain is real!), so I've sent your quiz results to your inbox for safekeeping.Over the next few days, I'll also send you your three recommended grief support tools one-by-one so you can choose the ones that work best for you in this season of life and grief.Got questions? Contact me here.And if you have a friend who might like to know their grief support style, send this quiz their way.Sending you love in grief,💚 Shelby
4.
You prefer... CLASSROOM STYLE grief support.
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Here's what it means to be a classroom style griever:You take a "lifelong student" approach to grief support. Because you love the expansive learning that comes from deep dives and group participation, you like to belong to an intentionally gathered group where you can explore grief's lessons and nuances together.Your superpower is an innate awareness that grief is a lifetime relationship that is both unique AND universal. (And being willing to set aside time to study, reflect, and share what you've learned with others.)You may feel disappointed by "quick tip" grief support tools on social media that lack the depth, backstory, and nuance you crave—not to mention the input of your fellow students. You might also feel lonely reading grief books or listening to podcasts, because you want to belong to a group of people traversing the landscape of grief together.You love a free-flowing discussion, a research rabbit hole, and the sense of community that comes from lifelong learning. You're here to connect with others on a similar journey and crave curious, introspective grief support that allows you to discover more about yourself and others along the way. You like your grief support to be holistic and continuous, evolving as you do.YOUR TOP PRIORITY: Being a lifelong student of grief!YOUR CORE VALUES: Diving deep + being in community🎓 What's on your syllabus? 🎓Here are the three tools I recommend for your grief support style:1. Grief coachingSometimes a classroom can be as intimate as two people diving into grief together. Kind of like "grief office hours."Consider one (or more) 1:1 grief guidance sessions with me, where we'll take a look at where you're feeling the most pain or stuckness in grief and explore a variety of tools and techniques to help you move forward. Book your 1:1 session with me here.2. Grief discussion groupsTalking about common themes with others who are grieving is a wonderful way to connect, share ideas, and explore words and frameworks to describe what you're going through.If you like listening to podcasts and talking about them with other people, consider joining my Grief Growers' Garden community on Patreon.Every Thursday, we listen to and discuss the newest episode of Grief Grower and share the ways it helped us see ourselves—or our grief—through a different lens.Think of it like a book club—but for a podcast! (What a relief for grief brain!)Even if you don't listen to the full episode, your presence is welcome.Join the Grief Growers' Garden.3. Online courses (with a community!)Deep dives, community growth, and being a "lifelong student of grief" come together in my online course + Facebook community, Life After Loss Academy.You'll get my 5-step G.R.I.E.F. roadmap for navigating life after loss and be supported by grieving people from around the world through weekly coaching calls.It's a virtual classroom that you can return to over and over again as you discover more about yourself and your grief. And we would love to welcome you.Join Life After Loss Academy today.🌻 Before you go...Have we met?I'm Shelby Forsythia, a grief coach, two-time author, and podcaster.For more than eight years, I've helped grieving people build lives they love from the lives loss forced them to live.I know I can do the same for you.Using a library of practical tools and compassionate guided questions, I'll show you how to see grief as a teacher and create a meaningful life that honors and includes the losses you've faced.Whether you're grieving a death, a breakup, a major diagnosis, or another significant transition, you're in the right place to receive support and resources that actually help you navigate the hardest seasons of your life.Your grief is welcome here. 💚💌 P.S. Check your inboxThis may have been a LOT to read (Hey, grief brain is real!), so I've sent your quiz results to your inbox for safekeeping.Over the next few days, I'll also send you your three recommended grief support tools one-by-one so you can choose the ones that work best for you in this season of life and grief.Got questions? Contact me here.And if you have a friend who might like to know their grief support style, send this quiz their way.Sending you love in grief,💚 Shelby

What's your grief support style?

The world is full of grief support options, so how do you know which one is best for you? This short quiz will help you learn your unique grief support style and give you clear next steps for moving through loss.

Quiz Questions

Quiz Outcomes