Relationship Readiness Quiz: 10 Relationship Competencies You Need To Become A Relationship Master!

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Health, Fitness & Attractiveness: How well do you treat your body—with diet, exercise and lifestyle factors—to boost your aesthetics, longevity and quality of life? Rate yourself on this scale: 0 is the worst, 10 is the best
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Self Awareness & Self Actualization: How close are you to your Ideal Self—do your actions align with your values/needs? Consider how aware you are of your core values, needs, boundaries, non-negotiables, preferences, strengths, weaknesses, triggers, defense mechanisms, negative self talk, etc. Rate yourself on this scale: 0 is the worst, 10 is the best
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Character: How kind, honest, good, respectful, honorable are you? Consider how consistently you do the right thing even when no one is looking. Rate yourself on this scale: 0 is the worst, 10 is the best
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Emotional Health & Regulation: How emotionally intelligent, stable, healthy, mature, resilient are you? Consider how well you get yourself to feel calm, relaxed and receptive after feeling triggered. Also consider how well you handle conflict/stress or disappointment without people pleasing, shutting down or lashing out. Rate yourself on this scale: 0 is the worst, 10 is the best
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Effective Communication: How clear, respectful, objective & consistent is your communication? Consider how well you communicate your thoughts, feelings and needs in a way that fosters connection. Also consider how well you empathize with others. Rate yourself on this scale: 0 is the worst, 10 is the best
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Conflict & Repair Skills: How well do you navigate good faith conflict and how confident and comfortable are you in your ability to repair afterwards? Consider if you tend to be solution focused in disagreements or just want to be right. Rate yourself on this scale: 0 is the worst, 10 is the best
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Growth & Accountability: How well do you acknowledge your part in conflict, own your flaws and mistakes, learn from them and grow—with the aim of being a better version of yourself every day? Consider whether you’ve been able to learn from your past relationship failures. Rate yourself on this scale: 0 is the worst, 10 is the best
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Adaptability: How well do you flex with change even when frustrated or disappointed? Consider how flexible, open-minded and resilient you are in response to changing circumstances [Hint: think of it as mental and emotional agility—as opposed to being a rigid person]. Rate yourself on this scale: 0 is the worst, 10 is the best
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Secure Attachment: How well do you take care of your own needs and respect the needs of someone you're in a relationship with? This includes how well you give and receive love within safe relationships. Also consider if you've fully detached from previous significant others. Rate yourself on this scale: 0 is the worst, 10 is the best
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Purpose, Passion & Faith: How clear are you on your mission, vision, calling, passion and/or faith? This includes understanding what makes your life significant and meaningful. Rate yourself on this scale: 0 is the worst, 10 is the best
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Quiz Outcomes

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Relationship Naive: You Are a Red Flag 😬 (For Now, But Let's Change That)
Your score places you in the Naïve zone—you’re lacking key relationship awareness, making you highly vulnerable to unhealthy dynamics.If you're interested, watch the FREE webinar I made explaining the 10 Relationship Competencies [here]If you're single now: Right now, you may not fully understand what makes a relationship healthy versus toxic. You might mistake intensity for love, ignore red flags, or believe that a relationship will “fix” feelings of loneliness or low self-worth. Without key relationship skills, you’re at risk of repeating painful cycles. But awareness is the first step—now is your chance to slow down, focus on yourself, and build the emotional foundation needed for real, lasting love. It may take approximately 2 years (give or take) to work on these fundamental relationship skills and get relationship ready — if you commit to the process and use your time wisely.If you're dating/in a relationship now: There’s a strong chance your current relationship is built on shaky ground—whether it’s volatile, codependent, toxic, transactional, or lacking sufficient connection/compatibility. Usually these are trauma bonds, love addictions or abusive and fueled by enmeshed feelings or lust. Which would correlate with insecure attachment (anxious/avoidant/disorganized). You may be staying out of fear of being alone rather than true connection. If your relationship feels like a rollercoaster of highs and lows, it’s time to step back and ask: Is this truly healthy, or am I just afraid to let go? If so, do the right thing, acknowledge you're not capable of giving a relationship what it needs right now, or you're not in it for the right reasons. Detach, learn to like your own company, get stable and study the necessary relationship skills. Here’s how to break the cycle: •Learn to Be Alone Without Feeling Lonely: True confidence comes from within, not from being in a relationship. •Recognize Red Flags & Patterns: Educate yourself on healthy vs. unhealthy dynamics so you stop choosing relationships that harm rather than heal. •Build Emotional Stability First: Until you’re secure in yourself, no relationship will bring the peace and love you’re searching for.This isn’t about shame—it’s about growth. You have the power to shift your love life, but it starts with you.Now What?• Make sure to jot down the areas you remember giving yourself low scores on in particular [Health & Fitness, Self Awareness/Actualization, Good Character, Emotional Regulation, Effective Communication, Conflict Resolution, Growth & Accountability, Secure Attachment, Purpose]• Make sure to take a screenshot of this page to share with me + your notes from above• It may be frustrating to think about spending 2 years alone and single. But know that just because you're single doesn't mean you'll be alone. Focus on connecting with and building up your other familial, platonic, and professional relationships. Rest assured your hard work and patience—to not rush the process—will pay off. Becoming healthy, stable and relationship-ready will help you attract a better partner who aligns with you. Plus it will up-skill you in areas pertinent for a successful relationship so you can reduce your risk of breakup or divorce to almost nil.• Focus on being SINGLE, FRIENDLY & SOCIAL (not dating) and explore new hobbies, interests and experiences so you can learn and grow. I can explain this to you in more depth on a call.• Lastly, you need guidance and instruction to resolve these personal deficits; it's improbable you'll be able to do it alone. But if you can't invest in your personal coaching right now, I understand. Here are a few ways to level up without investing in the recommended coaching plan below.The 10 Relationship Competencies:1. Health, Fitness & Attractiveness2. Self Awareness & Actualization3. Character 4. Emotional Health & Regulation5. Effective Communication6. Conflict & Repair Skills7. Growth & Accountability8. Adaptability9. Secure Attachment10. Purpose, Passion & FaithIn closing—don’t waste time while single wallowing in self pity, wishing things were different or spinning your wheels in the dating scene playing the numbers game. Instead, focus on cultivating these qualities/skills and you’ll find yourself healthier, happier, living a better life, and having a beautiful marriage and family to show for it in no time 🥰ADDITIONAL RESOURCES:—Buy my book on emotional regulation HERE before you do any other work on dating/relationships. —Buy my original manuscript HERE on The Vetting System™️ to get the bigger picture of what you need to be working on and why and to get clear on what vetting looks like and how to do it. —Lastly, you can book a free vetting call with me to review your results and discuss these options directly HERE.
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Relationship Novice: Time To Do The Work ⏰
Your score places you in the Novice zone—you’re showing potential but still have some work to do.If you're interested, watch the FREE webinar I made explaining the 10 Relationship Competencies [here]If you're single now: You’re open to love, but you’re still figuring out what a healthy relationship truly looks like. Right now, you may rely on chemistry over compatibility, struggle with boundaries, or fall into patterns that don’t serve you long-term. The good news? With the right guidance, you can develop the emotional stability, self-awareness, and relationship skills needed for lasting, secure love. Focus on growing your confidence in yourself first—because the best relationships are built from a place of wholeness, not need. It may take a year (give or take) to work on these fundamental relationship skills and get relationship ready — if you commit to the process and use your time wisely. If you're dating/in a relationship now: Your relationships might occasionally lean toward dependency or codependency, where you’re seeking validation out of fear of being alone rather than true connection. Instead of falling into reactive or transactional patterns, start investing in yourself.• Build Self-Value: Learn to enjoy your own company and develop a strong sense of self-worth.• Establish Healthy Boundaries: Know your limits and communicate them clearly to avoid emotional overdependence.• Develop Relationship Skills: Focus on cultivating secure attachment through self-awareness, communication, and personal growth.Keep working on these areas, and you’ll move closer to creating healthy, fulfilling relationships built on genuine connection rather than fear.Now What?• Make sure to jot down the areas you remember giving yourself low scores on in particular [Health & Fitness, Self Awareness/Actualization, Good Character, Emotional Regulation, Effective Communication, Conflict Resolution, Growth & Accountability, Secure Attachment, Purpose]• Make sure to take a screenshot of this page to share with me + your notes from above• It may be frustrating to think about spending a year alone and single. But know that just because you're single doesn't mean you'll be alone. Focus on connecting with and building up your other familial, platonic, and professional relationships. Rest assured your hard work and patience—to not rush the process—will pay off. Becoming healthy, stable and relationship-ready will help you attract a better partner who aligns with you. Plus it will up-skill you in areas pertinent for a successful relationship so you can reduce your risk of breakup or divorce to almost nil.• Focus on being SINGLE, FRIENDLY & SOCIAL (not dating) and explore new hobbies, interests and experiences so you can learn and grow. I can explain this to you in more depth on a call.• Lastly, you need guidance and instruction to resolve these personal deficits; it's improbable you'll be able to do it alone. But if you can't invest in your personal coaching right now, I understand. Here are a few ways to level up without investing in the recommended coaching plan below.The 10 Relationship Competencies:1. Health, Fitness & Attractiveness2. Self Awareness & Actualization3. Character 4. Emotional Health & Regulation5. Effective Communication6. Conflict & Repair Skills7. Growth & Accountability8. Adaptability9. Secure Attachment10. Purpose, Passion & FaithIn closing—don’t waste time while single wallowing in self pity, wishing things were different or spinning your wheels in the dating scene playing the numbers game. Instead, focus on cultivating these qualities/skills and you’ll find yourself healthier, happier, living a better life, and having a beautiful marriage and family to show for it in no time 🥰ADDITIONAL RESOURCES: —Buy my book on emotional regulation HERE before you do any other work on dating/relationships. —Buy my Online Vetting book HERE—Buy my original manuscript HERE on The Vetting System™️ to get the bigger picture of what you need to be working on and why and to get clear on what vetting looks like and how to do it. —Lastly, you can book a free vetting call with me to review your results and discuss these options directly HERE.
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Relationship Apprentice: Getting Ready For Love 🥰
Your score places you in the Apprentice zone—you’ve built a solid foundation, but there’s still room to refine your approach to love.In you're interested, watch the FREE webinar I made explaining the 10 Relationship Competencies [here]If you’re single now: You’re on the right track and closer to being truly relationship-ready. You likely understand the importance of compatibility over chemistry, have some emotional awareness, and are working on your boundaries. However, there may still be lingering self-doubt, minor patterns of over-accommodation, or a tendency to second-guess your standards. With focused growth, you could be ready for a serious, healthy relationship in six months to a year. Now is the time to sharpen your discernment, reinforce your self-worth, and ensure you’re attracting partners who align with your long-term vision.If you’re dating/in a relationship now: You likely have a mostly healthy dynamic, but subtle imbalances may still arise. Maybe you tend to over-function in relationships, struggle with deeper emotional intimacy, or occasionally fall into people-pleasing tendencies. While you’re not far from securing lasting love, you must continue fine-tuning your emotional resilience and communication skills.Here’s how to level up: •Trust Yourself Fully: Strengthen your decision-making and learn to recognize when a relationship truly serves you versus when you’re settling out of comfort. •Deepen Emotional Connection: Move beyond surface-level compatibility and build deeper, more vulnerable bonds with your partner. •Own Your Standards Without Fear: Continue practicing high self-worth by enforcing boundaries, expecting reciprocity, and not shrinking yourself for love.You’re close—stay intentional, and you’ll create the secure, fulfilling relationship you deserve.Now What?• Make sure to jot down the areas you remember giving yourself low scores on in particular [Health & Fitness, Self Awareness/Actualization, Good Character, Emotional Regulation, Effective Communication, Conflict Resolution, Growth & Accountability, Secure Attachment, Purpose]• Make sure to take a screenshot of this page to share with me + your notes from above• It may be frustrating to think about spending six months alone and single. But know that just because you're single doesn't mean you'll be alone. Focus on connecting with and building up your other familial, platonic, and professional relationships. Rest assured your hard work and patience—to not rush the process—will pay off. Becoming healthy, stable and relationship-ready will help you attract a better partner who aligns with you. Plus it will up-skill you in areas pertinent for a successful relationship so you can reduce your risk of breakup or divorce to almost nil.• Focus on being SINGLE, FRIENDLY & SOCIAL (not dating) and explore new hobbies, interests and experiences so you can learn and grow. I can explain this to you in more depth on a call.• Lastly, you need guidance and instruction to resolve these personal deficits; it's improbable you'll be able to do it alone. But if you can't invest in your personal coaching right now, I understand. Here are a few ways to level up without dishing out $400 on the recommended offer below.The 10 Relationship Competencies:1. Health, Fitness & Attractiveness2. Self Awareness & Actualization3. Character 4. Emotional Health & Regulation5. Effective Communication6. Conflict & Repair Skills7. Growth & Accountability8. Adaptability9. Secure Attachment10. Purpose, Passion & FaithIn closing—don’t waste time while single wallowing in self pity, wishing things were different or spinning your wheels in the dating scene playing the numbers game. Instead, focus on cultivating these qualities/skills and you’ll find yourself healthier, happier, living a better life, and having a beautiful marriage and family to show for it in no time 🥰ADDITIONAL RESOURCES: —Buy my book on emotional regulation HERE —Buy my Online Vetting book HERE. —Buy my original manuscript HERE on The Vetting System™️ to get the bigger picture of what you need to be working on and why and to get clear on what vetting looks like and how to do it. —I also invite you to subscribe to my online community where I've matched several couples. It's a place to bond with other men (if you're a man) other women (if you're a woman), opt-in for the Vetting School co-ed chat (potential matching)! PLUS I host monthly zoom workshops where I present on relevant topics + Q&A. Subscribe at the top of my profile when you open the IG phone app HERE.—Lastly, you can book a free vetting call with me to review your results and discuss these options directly HERE.
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Relationship Master: What Are You Waiting For! ❤️‍🔥
Your score places you in the Master zone—you have a strong grasp of what it takes to build a secure, healthy relationship. Well done, you've done the work and you're at the top tier of marriage-minded folks. It's just a matter of time before you find the right match. I'm happy to help. Use the link below and let's chat about how I can help you!If you're interested, watch the FREE webinar I made explaining the 10 Relationship Competencies [here]If you’re single now: You’re highly self-aware, emotionally mature, and clear on what you want in a partner. You don’t settle for surface-level attraction—you prioritize deep compatibility, shared values, and emotional security. At this stage, it’s less about “getting ready” and more about strategically positioning yourself to meet the right person. Keep refining your discernment, trusting your intuition, and staying open to love without forcing it. Your next step is aligning with a partner who matches your level of relationship readiness.If you’re dating/in a relationship now: You likely have a healthy, balanced dynamic built on trust, mutual respect, and emotional safety. You communicate openly, navigate conflict with maturity, and don’t let fear or insecurity drive your actions. However, mastery doesn’t mean perfection—it means continued growth. Your challenge now is to sustain and deepen the connection, ensuring your relationship remains fulfilling and aligned with your long-term goals.Here’s how to maintain and elevate your success: •Lead with Secure Energy: Keep embodying the balance of confidence and emotional availability that draws in healthy love. •Prioritize Continuous Growth: Even great relationships evolve—keep learning, adapting, and strengthening your bond. •Stay Intentional About Your Standards: Never lower your expectations for connection, communication, or effort. The right partner will meet you where you are.You’ve done the work—now, trust yourself, stay patient, and allow the right relationship to unfold. Love at this level is about alignment, not effort.Now What?• Make sure to jot down the areas you remember giving yourself low scores on in particular [Health & Fitness, Self Awareness/Actualization, Good Character, Emotional Regulation, Effective Communication, Conflict Resolution, Growth & Accountability, Secure Attachment, Purpose]• Make sure to take a screenshot of this page to share with me + your notes from above• Rest assured your hard work and patience—to not settle for less than what you need and what you have to—is paying off. You will be handsomely rewarded for your efforts. Stay the course, don’t choke in the clutch! • Shift your focus on vetting for someone who shares all of these same qualities that you have cultivated as a high value marriage-minded match. You’re looking for alignment and complementarity, which means you don’t want the opposite sex version of yourself. You want someone who embodies the Yin to your Yang, or vice versa. This is where I can step in and guide you, to teach you the specifics of The The Vetting System™️ • Caveat: if you need me to verify your assessment as an objective expert, (in case you think your scores are inflated) we can do that too. I'm gonna take you at your word, but just think about it...do you tend to see yourself in a better light than others see you? Be honest with yourself, then be honest with me. That's the only way I can help you get what you want most.The 10 Relationship Competencies:1. Health, Fitness & Attractiveness2. Self Awareness & Actualization3. Character 4. Emotional Health & Regulation5. Effective Communication6. Conflict & Repair Skills7. Growth & Accountability8. Adaptability9. Secure Attachment10. Purpose, Passion & FaithIn closing—don’t waste time while single wallowing in self pity, wishing things were different or spinning your wheels in the dating scene playing the numbers game. Instead, focus on cultivating these qualities/skills and you’ll find yourself healthier, happier, living a better life, and having a beautiful marriage and family to show for it in no time 🥰ADDITIONAL RESOURCES: —Buy my Online Vetting book HERE. —Buy my original manuscript HERE on The Vetting System™️ to get clear on what vetting looks like and how to do it. —I also invite you to subscribe to my online community where I've matched several couples. It's a place to bond with other men (if you're a man) other women (if you're a woman), opt-in for the Vetting School co-ed chat (potential matching)! PLUS I host monthly zoom workshops where I present on relevant topics + Q&A. Subscribe at the top of my profile when you open the IG phone app HERE.Click the button below and book a free (or paid) vetting call with me and I will discuss your results with you. Give you a brief overview of The Vetting System™️ and how I can help you match with a worthy individual.