What's blocking your self-love?

Quiz Questions

1.
How do you handle self-doubt and fear?
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- A.
  I acknowledge my fears, but I know I need to face them to grow
- B.
  I feel lost sometimes and struggle to trust my instincts.
- C.
  I try to avoid situations that challenge me too much.
- D.
  I often dwell on past mistakes and let them hold me back.
- E.
  I remind myself of my strengths and focus on feeling good
2.
How comfortable are you with setting boundaries?
- A.
  I clearly express my needs and stand firm in them, even if it’s uncomfortable
- B.
  I sometimes set boundaries but struggle with guilt or second-guessing myself
- C.
  I try to maintain balance, but I often prioritize keeping the peace over speaking up
- D.
  I struggle to set boundaries because I fear losing people or making them upset
- E.
  I confidently set boundaries and protect my energy without hesitation
3.
What does self-care look like for you?
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- A.
  Facing hard truths and making bold changes when needed.
- B.
  Taking time to reflect, journal, and get clear on what I want.
- C.
  Creating routines that keep me grounded and at peace
- D.
  Letting go of past wounds and giving myself grace.
- E.
  Doing things that bring me joy and help me feel good daily
4.
How do you handle setbacks in life?
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- A.
  I take a deep breath and find a way to move forward
- B.
  I reflect on what I can learn before taking action
- C.
  I try to maintain stability and not let it shake me too much.
- D.
  I struggle with letting go and often replay what went wrong
- E.
  I shift my focus to gratitude and what still makes me happy
5.
How do you talk to yourself when you make a mistake or bad decision?
- A.
  I can handle this. I will figure it out.
- B.
  What lesson am I meant to learn here
- C.
  Everything happens for a reason. I will stay steady
- D.
  I always mess up. I should’ve done better
- E.
  This is just a moment—I won’t let it define me
6.
What’s your biggest challenge in self-love right now?
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- A.
  Trusting myself enough to take bold steps.
- B.
  Feeling lost and unsure of what I truly want
- C.
  I often put others first and struggle to prioritize myself.
- D.
  Letting go of past pain and forgiving myself
- E.
  Prioritizing joy and making time for things that light me up.
7.
How do you handle relationships (friendships, family, romantic)?
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- A.
  I’ve had to walk away from people who weren’t good for me.
- B.
  I often feel confused about what’s healthy vs. unhealthy.
- C.
  I struggle to balance my own needs with others’ expectations.
- D.
  I often tolerate relationships that don’t feel good to me
- E.
  I seek relationships that uplift and energize me.
8.
When faced with a tough decision, how do you navigate it?
- A.
  I trust myself and take action, even when it's hard.
- B.
  I think deeply about what aligns with my true desires.
- C.
  I weigh the pros and cons, ensuring stability
- D.
  I often feel stuck because I fear making the wrong choice.
- E.
  I follow what feels good and what excites me the most.
9.
What inspires you to grow in your self-love journey?
- A.
  Knowing that I have the power to change my life.
- B.
  Gaining deeper understanding of myself.
- C.
  Finding inner peace and stability.
- D.
  Finally healing old wounds and moving forward
- E.
  Becoming the most radiant, joyful version of myself.

Quiz Outcomes

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Your Self-Love Journey Is Blocked by a Lack of Courage
What Is the Courage Flame?The Courage Flame represents the inner strength to choose yourself, even when it’s difficult. It’s the fire that fuels bold decisions, helps you walk away from what doesn’t serve you, and pushes you to act despite fear.When this flame is strong, you trust yourself fully, set boundaries with confidence, and take action toward the life you deserve.Right now, though, your Courage Flame is dim, which means fear and hesitation may be keeping you stuck. You might find yourself:Do You:✔ Struggle to trust yourself when making difficult decisions.✔ Stay in situations longer than you should—because change feels overwhelming.✔ Second-guess your instincts, even when deep down, you know what you need.✔ Avoiding uncomfortable but necessary conversations or boundaries.Why This MattersCourage is the foundation of self-love because choosing yourself is often the hardest thing to do. Without it, you might stay stuck in cycles that don’t serve you—relationships, jobs, habits—because fear convinces you it’s safer to settle than to risk change.But here’s the truth: Courage isn’t about being fearless—it’s about taking action despite fear. When your Courage Flame is dim, hesitation takes over. But when you ignite it? You become unstoppable.Do you… hesitate to set boundaries because you fear losing people.🚩 often stay in situations longer than you should.🚩 second-guess yourself, even when your gut is screaming the answer.🚩 know change is necessary but feel paralyzed by fear.These signs don’t mean you’re weak, they mean your Courage Flame needs to be reignited.What Happens When You Strengthen Your Courage Flame?When your Courage Flame burns bright, you: Trust yourself to make bold, necessary choices.Stop waiting for permission and take action on what you know is right for you.Set boundaries without guilt or fear of losing people. Move forward, even when fear is present. Walk away from what doesn’t serve you—with confidence, not regret.Courage isn’t about having all the answers, it’s about taking the first step and figuring it out along the way."It's kind of fun to do the impossible." — Walt DisneySelf-Love is Everything...Hello, my love, I’m Jaleela or J , your favorite self-love advocate, founder of Moth to Flame.Single mom, HR professional by day, radical self-love advocate by purpose.Over the course of a year and a half, I went through a divorce, got evicted, lost my job, and shed 70 pounds—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I rebuilt my life from the ground up with nothing but grit, grace, and a promise to never abandon myself again.Now, I help women rise from rock bottom by choosing themselves, healing old wounds, and building lives rooted in radical self-love.This quiz is just the beginning. Your flame is calling—let’s answer it.It’s my mission to help women love themselves more deeply.Dig Deeper...Here are some resources to help you on your journey within.Your Gift: The Courage Flame Self-Trust GuideI created this step-by-step framework to help you rebuild self-trust and confidence so you can finally make decisions with clarity and boldness.What’s next?You’re now enrolled in my free 2-week self-love series where I’ll share insights, stories, resources and guidance to help you deepen your self-love and step into your power.Your journey starts now. Over the next few weeks, I'll be sharing more ideas with you to help catapult your growth and awareness!
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Your Self-Love Journey Is Blocked by a Lack of Clarity.
What Is the Clarity Flame?The Clarity Flame represents deep self-awareness, the ability to understand your truth, trust your inner wisdom, and make choices that align with who you truly are.When this flame burns bright, you move through life with purpose and confidence, unshaken by external expectations. You trust yourself, know what you want, and take action from a place of deep self-connection.Right now, though, your Clarity Flame is dim, and that lack of direction may be keeping you stuck. Do you find yourself:✔ Questioning who you really are beyond the roles you play for others.✔ Feeling lost or unsure about what you *truly* want in life.✔ Overanalyzing decisions, afraid of making the wrong choice.✔ Struggling to listen to your inner voice because of external noise or past conditioning.Why This Matters?Self-love begins with knowing yourself—because without clarity, it’s hard to make choices that align with what you truly want.When your Clarity Flame is blocked, you might feel like you’re living on autopilot, making decisions based on fear, obligation, or what others expect from you. But when you reignite your Clarity Flame? Everything shifts.Here’s the truth: The answers you seek aren’t outside of you, they’re already within.How many red flags do you check…The Signs Your Clarity Flame Is BlockedIf you’re struggling with clarity right now, you might notice:🚩 You feel lost and unsure of what you *truly* want.🚩 You have trouble making decisions because you fear making the wrong choice.🚩 You often rely on others’ opinions instead of trusting your intuition.🚩 You feel disconnected from your true self, as if you’re just “going through the motions.”These signs don’t mean you’re broken—they mean your Clarity Flame needs to be reignited.What Happens When You Strengthen Your Clarity Flame?When your Clarity Flame burns bright, you:✔ Understand yourself deeply and move through life with purpose.✔ Trust your intuition instead of second-guessing your decisions.✔ Make choices that feel aligned—without needing external validation.✔ Let go of confusion and step into self-assurance.✔ Feel a deep sense of direction and confidence in your path.You don’t have to have everything figured out right now. But as you strengthen your Clarity Flame, the fog will begin to lift.Self-love is Everything...Hello, my love, I’m Jaleela or J , your favorite self-love advocate, founder of Moth to Flame.Single mom, HR professional by day, radical self-love advocate by purpose.Over the course of a year and a half, I went through a divorce, got evicted, lost my job, and shed 70 pounds—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I rebuilt my life from the ground up with nothing but grit, grace, and a promise to never abandon myself again.Now, I help women rise from rock bottom by choosing themselves, healing old wounds, and building lives rooted in radical self-love.This quiz is just the beginning. Your flame is calling—let’s answer it.It’s my mission to help women love themselves more deeply.Dig Deeper...Here are some resources to help you on your journey within.The Clarity Flame Self-Discovery JournalI created this guided journal to help you uncover your true desires and reconnect with yourself—so you can move forward with clarity and confidence. What’s next? You’re now enrolled in my 2-week self-love series, where I’ll share insights, stories, resources and guidance to help your self-love and step into your power. I guide you in gaining even more clarity and confidence in your self-love journey.Your journey starts now. Watch your inbox for your first email tomorrow!🏛️ You are the architect of your life 🏘️"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed no hope at all." — Dale Carnegie
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Your Self-Love Journey Is Blocked by a Lack of Balance
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What Is the Balance Flame?The Balance Flame is all about honoring your needs—without guilt, without over-explaining, and without constantly putting yourself last.When this flame burns bright, you set boundaries with confidence, make time for yourself without feeling selfish, and create a life where your well-being matters just as much as everyone else’s.But right now, your Balance Flame is dim, and that lack of equilibrium may be leaving you:✔ Feeling stretched too thin, constantly giving but rarely receiving.✔ Saying yes when you want to say no—because you don’t want to let others down.✔ Struggling to prioritize yourself without guilt or second-guessing.✔ Feeling drained, overwhelmed, and like there’s never enough time for you.Why This Matters?Self-love isn’t just about how much you pour into others—it’s about how well you pour into yourself.When your Balance Flame is blocked, you may find yourself overextending, overgiving, and overcommitting, thinking that’s what’s expected of you. But deep down, you know you can’t keep running on empty.Here’s the truth: Taking care of yourself doesn’t mean you’re neglecting others—it means you’re showing up as your best self.Tick some boxes with me.Do you:feel guilty when you take time for yourself.🚩 put others’ needs ahead of your own—even when it leaves you exhausted.🚩 say yes to things you don’t actually want to do.🚩 struggle to set boundaries (or feel bad when you do).🚩 feel mentally and emotionally drained but don’t know how to stop the cycle.These aren’t flaws—they’re signs that it’s time to reignite your Balance Flame.When I discover who I am, I’ll be free.” — Ralph EllisonWhat Happens When You Strengthen Your Balance Flame?When your Balance Flame burns bright, you:✔ Prioritize yourself without guilt.✔ Say no with confidence—without feeling like a bad person.✔ Set (and maintain) boundaries that protect your energy.✔ Make time for things that recharge you—without overexplaining or justifying.✔ Feel calmer, more grounded, and in control of your life.Balance isn’t about doing everything—it’s about making sure you don’t lose yourself in the process.Balance – The key to a happy life isn’t abundance and never ending chill days, it’s all about balance.The grind of day-to-day life can become a repetitive, life-sucking rut if you aren’t careful to create healthy boundaries between work, play, and the everyday.With the help of a therapist, you can delve deep into where your imbalances come in life, and how to make changes to restore a much needed life balance.Check out our online workshop on Balance and Your To-Do ListSelf-awareness – It’s easy to wander through life without much direction, reacting to the world instead of purposely creating a life.This can lead to a feeling of not being seen or heard, and always feeling like you just fit in, instead of actually belonging.When you don’t know yourself very well, it can be hard to find the right friends or job to fulfill you and challenge you into new growth.Self-Awareness is a core focus of any therapeutic journey. Check out our Online Self-Awareness Workshop to learn more about yourself, and how you can align your life with who you truly are.Self-Worth – It can be very difficult to establish and maintain boundaries that are meant to protect your peace when you’re constantly putting others before yourself.It isn’t bad to want to help others, but when your selflessness becomes a complete loss of self, it’s time to do some work on your own core values and boundaries.Learn how to show up as an advocate for yourself so you can give your loved ones empowered, resounding ‘yes’s and firm, healthy ‘no’s, without feeling guilty or selfish. Awareness is Everything...Hello, my love, I’m Jaleela or J , your favorite self-love advocate, founder of Moth to Flame.Single mom, HR professional by day, radical self-love advocate by purpose.Over the course of a year and a half, I went through a divorce, got evicted, lost my job, and shed 70 pounds—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I rebuilt my life from the ground up with nothing but grit, grace, and a promise to never abandon myself again.Now, I help women rise from rock bottom by choosing themselves, healing old wounds, and building lives rooted in radical self-love.This quiz is just the beginning. Your flame is calling—let’s answer it.It’s my mission to help women love themselves more deeply.Dig Deeper...Here are some resources to help you on your journey within.Your FREE Gift: The Balance Flame Boundaries WorkbookI created this step-by-step guide to help you set guilt-free boundaries, reclaim your time, and finally create the balance you deserve.What’s next? You’re now enrolled in my 2-week self-love series, where I’ll share insights, stories, resources and guidance to help you reclaim your time, energy, and sense of self.Your journey starts now. Watch your inbox for your first email tomorrow!🏛️ You are the architect of your life 🏘️"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed no hope at all." — Dale Carnegie
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Your Self-Love Journey Is Blocked by a Lack of Healing
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You Are in a Season of Healing—a Deeply Transformative Phase of Self-Love.What Is the Healing Flame?The Healing Flame is your path to emotional freedom. This flame represents self-forgiveness, emotional release, and the ability to let go of past pain so you can move forward without carrying old wounds into your future.You’ve been carrying emotional wounds—whether from past relationships, self-doubt, or unhealed pain—that are asking for your attention.Right now, your journey is about:✔ Releasing the pain of the past so it no longer defines you.✔ Forgiving yourself and others—not for them, but for your own peace.✔ Letting go of cycles and patterns that no longer serve you.✔ Learning to nurture yourself with self-compassion instead of self-criticism.What This Means for Your Self-Love JourneyHealing isn’t about forgetting what hurt you—it’s about making peace with it so it no longer has power over you.When your Healing Flame is blocked, you may find yourself replaying old wounds, struggling to move forward, or feeling stuck in emotions that no longer serve you. But when you ignite your Healing Flame? You give yourself the gift of freedom.Let’s tick some boxes!Do you: find yourself replaying past mistakes or regrets.🚩 hold onto resentment or pain, even when you want to move on.🚩 struggle to forgive yourself, feeling like you "should have known better.🚩 feel emotionally drained, as if your past is still weighing you down.These feelings aren’t weaknesses—they’re invitations to heal“When you say yes to others, make sure you aren’t saying no to yourself.” — Paulo CoehloWhat Happens When You Strengthen Your Healing Flame?When your Healing Flame burns bright, you:✔ Release past pain and make space for new joy.✔ Forgive yourself and others—not for them, but for your peace.✔ Set boundaries that protect your emotional well-being.✔ Stop defining yourself by what happened to you and start creating a new story.✔ Move forward feeling lighter, freer, and more at peace with yourself.Healing is not about rushing—it’s about allowing. And you are allowed to take the time you need. Getting To Know YouSelf-Love is Everything...Hello, my love, I’m Jaleela or J , your favorite self-love advocate, founder of Moth to Flame.Single mom, HR professional by day, radical self-love advocate by purpose.Over the course of a year and a half, I went through a divorce, got evicted, lost my job, and shed 70 pounds—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I rebuilt my life from the ground up with nothing but grit, grace, and a promise to never abandon myself again.Now, I help women rise from rock bottom by choosing themselves, healing old wounds, and building lives rooted in radical self-love.This quiz is just the beginning. Your flame is calling—let’s answer it.It’s my mission to help women love themselves more deeply.Dig Deeper...Here are some resources to help you on your journey within.Your Gift: The Healing Flame Self-Forgiveness RitualI created this guided self-forgiveness ritual to help you gently release the past and move forward with peace and clarity.What’s next? You’re now enrolled in my 2-week self-love series, where I’ll share insights, stories, and tools to help you navigate your healing journey with self-compassion.Your healing starts now. Watch your inbox for your first email tomorrow. You are the architect of your life There’s a present in your inbox! I’ve sent you my Shift Happens digital handbook and companion daily meditation.Over the next few days, I'll be sharing more ideas with you to help catapult your growth and awareness!"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed no hope at all." — Dale Carnegie
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Your Self-Love Journey Is Blocked by a Lack of Radiance
What Is the Radiance Flame?The Radiance Flame represents joy, confidence, and high-vibrational energy—the ability to embrace life fully, celebrate yourself, and step into your power unapologetically.When your Radiance Flame burns bright, you:✔ Prioritize joy, pleasure, and what makes you feel alive.✔ Feel confident in your worth without needing validation.✔ Attract better experiences, relationships, and opportunities.✔ Move through life with ease, gratitude, and an open heart.But right now, your Radiance Flame is dim, and that lack of joy may be keeping you in a cycle of burnout, self-neglect, or emotional heaviness.The Signs Your Radiance Flame Is BlockedIf your Radiance Flame is blocked, you might notice:🚩 You feel drained, like you’re just “getting through” life instead of enjoying it.🚩 You rarely do things just for you—for fun, pleasure, or joy.🚩 You struggle with confidence or feel disconnected from your inner light.🚩 You often prioritize responsibilities over rest, play, or self-expression.🚩 You feel stuck in survival mode, as if happiness is always just out of reach.These aren’t flaws—they’re signs that your Radiance Flame is ready to be reignited.Why Radiance Is Essential to Self-LoveSelf-love isn’t just about healing wounds—it’s about allowing yourself to thrive.A diminished Radiance Flame can leave you feeling heavy, uninspired, or disconnected from what brings you joy. But here’s the truth:✨ You don’t have to “earn” joy—you are worthy of it right now.✨ Confidence isn’t something you wait for—it’s something you step into.✨ Prioritizing what makes you feel good isn’t selfish—it’s self-love.When you reconnect with your Radiance Flame, you stop shrinking and start shining.What Happens When You Strengthen Your Radiance Flame?When your Radiance Flame burns bright, you:✔ Show up as your most magnetic, confident, and joyful self.✔ Say yes to what lights you up—without guilt.✔ Feel energized, passionate, and excited about life.✔ Stop overthinking and start allowing ease and flow.✔ Attract aligned relationships, experiences, and opportunities effortlessly.This isn’t about forcing yourself to be happy—it’s about giving yourself permission to receive joySelf-Love is Everything...Hello, my love, I’m Jaleela or J , your favorite self-love advocate, founder of Moth to Flame.Single mom, HR professional by day, radical self-love advocate by purpose.Over the course of a year and a half, I went through a divorce, got evicted, lost my job, and shed 70 pounds—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I rebuilt my life from the ground up with nothing but grit, grace, and a promise to never abandon myself again.Now, I help women rise from rock bottom by choosing themselves, healing old wounds, and building lives rooted in radical self-love.This quiz is just the beginning. Your flame is calling—let’s answer it.It’s my mission to help women love themselves more deeply.Dig Deeper...Your Gift: The Radiance Flame Joy RitualI created this simple yet powerful daily ritual to help you raise your vibration, cultivate joy, and step into confidence.What’s next? You’re now enrolled in my 2-week self-love series, where I’ll guide you in stepping into your most radiant, magnetic, and joyful self.✨ Your journey starts now. Watch your inbox for your first email tomorrow!