Attachment Style Quiz

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  In the heat of an argument, you tend to turn up the heat in an effort to have your needs considered.

  • A.
    yes
  • B.
    no
• 2.
  The function of your move is to get people’s attention, to look, to see and to not be left alone.

  • A.
    yes
  • B.
    no
• 3.
  You try to calm the relationship down and restore peace. 

  • A.
    yes
  • B.
    no
• 4.
  In an argument, you get quiet to try to figure things out and not make things worse. 

  • A.
    yes
  • B.
    no
• 5.
  You're constantly trying to close distance in your most important relationship.

  • A.
    of course!
  • B.
    not really
• 6.
  In the heat of an argument, you tend to turn down the heat and turn off your needs.

  • A.
    yes, probably
  • B.
    definitely not
• 7.
  Thinking back to your growing up years, emotions were often unclear, confusing or discouraged by your parents/caregivers.

  • A.
    yea, actually
  • B.
    not in my family, lol
• 8.
  You push the intensity or the pace of the fight.

  • A.
    yes
  • B.
    no
• 9.
  If you had to pick being abandoned or failing the most important person in your life as the worst thing ever, you’d pick being abandoned.

  • A.
    definitely
  • B.
    nah
• 10.
  You get upregulated (or anxious) when your partner is being distant.

  • A.
    it's giving me anxiety just thinking about it
  • B.
    not too much
• 11.
  You tend to see the positive and not get rattled by too many things.

  • A.
    yes
  • B.
    no
• 12.
  You try to not get people to turn towards you because you're afraid it's doing to go bad.

  • A.
    yes
  • B.
    no
• 13.
  If you had to pick being abandoned or failing as the worst thing ever, you’d pick being getting it wrong and failing the person you love. 

  • A.
    I hate getting it wrong
  • B.
    nah, being abandoned is worse
• 14.
  When things go bad in your relationship, you tend to be the one to worry, fight, and mobilize.

  • A.
    yes
  • B.
    no
• 15.
  You tend to see the negative.

  • A.
    yes
  • B.
    no
• 16.
  You tend to use generalities (you never, you always) as a way to get them to see the problem.

  • A.
    probably
  • B.
    not really
• 17.
  You tend to push out extra energy as a way to get people to turn towards you.

  • A.
    yes
  • B.
    no
• 18.
  When things go bad, You tend to deny, shut down and suck it up.

  • A.
    yes
  • B.
    no
• 19.
  When you feel threat in your relationship, you get quiet to try to figure things out and not make it worse.

  • A.
    yes
  • B.
    no

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  You're a pursuer! (anxious attachment)

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  In dating relationships, the way you showed up in close relationships before will impact the one you're in now or hope to be. Based on your answers, you lean more towards a partner with pursuer tendencies. You like to go right towards conflict, tackle it head on and get everything out on the table. This style has both really impactful positive attributes towards a healthy relationship as well as areas for growth. Sometimes it's growth and sometimes it's just more understanding of how you show up in relationship and how your partner or soon-to-be partner will show up. Conflict in an emotionally charged situation is already hard enough. Get to know yourself better so you can show up as the healthiest version of your pursuer self. I'll help you get started below! :)
• 2.
  You're a withdrawer (avoidant attachment)

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  In dating relationships, the way you showed up in close relationships before will impact the one you're in now or hope to be. Based on your answers, you lean more towards a partner with withdrawer tendencies. You often like to stay out of conflict and prefer to turn the volume down when it comes to heated topics in your most important relationships. This style has both really impactful positive attributes towards a healthy relationship as well as areas for growth. Sometimes it's growth and sometimes it's just more understanding of how you show up in relationship and how your partner or soon-to-be partner will show up. Conflict in an emotionally charged situation is already hard enough. Get to know yourself better so you can show up as the healthiest version of your pursuer self. I'll help you get started below! :)